My bf and I have been together five years. Just yesterday he said he wanted to break up, this all came from him wanting to move to NC telling me he wanted me to go too before (but he would go first and send for me later. No reason for that). He said he didn't want me to go when he did, but after we got into an argument last night he said he didn't want me to go at all and said he wants to break up with me. He said he loves me and if anything happened to me he would kill himself, and made me promise him when he left that I wouldn't die. He's told me I love you since he's done this, still calls me babe, refuses to leave me take the bus to work, he insists on driving me. When I fell asleep on he couch last night, he still gets on it with me to sleep (he likes it down there cause it's hot upstairs. What is going on? Is he really going to go? Why is he acting like this? Men help me!
2006-08-19 09:40:31 · 9 answers · asked by Konjo Nashi Pirate™ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
also last night when I told him something he said maybe I'll stay with you. A friend of mine gave me advice on this, they said 'live your life for you, don't worry about what they are doing to you. If they see you living your life for you and your happiness, if they really love and want to be with you, they will see that and come back to you.'
2006-08-19 09:42:27 · update #1
your friend has a great point! you live your life for you not for others. I think in the heat of the moment ( the Argument) that's the only thing that he could think of to say. Yes it is hurt full and yes he should not of said it but hey men are stupid and say stupid things. If he is doing everything what you said since then, then he still loves you and you should talk to him. Tell him that what he said last night hurt you very much and ask him if he was serious. 9 times out of 10 he will apologize and your relationship will go on...if you want it to. Good Luck with the relationship.
2006-08-19 09:49:24 · answer #1 · answered by BigDaddy82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look .... nothing in life is 100 percent. 99 percent chance is that this guy still loves u .... 1 percent is that he has fallen out of love with u bcos of continuous arguments .... so make sure u sit with him and talk to him and make him fall in love wid u again ... which he probably did again last night .... but try to avoid fights b4 u guyz move to d other city .... most probably he was just angry ... all d best
2006-08-19 16:52:29 · answer #2 · answered by thegame 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally I think your friend's right. If he is moving to NC he may not want a long-term commitment, and is using that as an excuse to break away from the relationship. It sounds to me as though he wants you and loves you but just on his terms, and doesn't want to take it to the next level.
2006-08-19 16:47:04 · answer #3 · answered by freespiritpassingthrough 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just let him be,go on with your own life and dont worry about what happens but what will happen in the future.
2006-08-19 16:46:21 · answer #4 · answered by Male Sicilian Trauma Nurse 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the arguement just got him angry and thats why he said he wanted to break up. I think he still loves you though.
2006-08-19 16:45:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
next time, try to ask a shorter question
and yes he still loves you, hes just angry. Love always prevails in the end.
2006-08-19 16:45:55 · answer #6 · answered by prophetoftruth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All that "I'll kill myself" stuff is just so much drama. You guys need to separate and find less dramatic partners.
2006-08-19 16:49:45 · answer #7 · answered by Pumpkin Head 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should take you friends advise.It sounds like he wanted to go their to meet other people,but now?wow,who knows whats
going on in his head.
2006-08-19 16:49:31 · answer #8 · answered by g'day 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust your friend.
The guys is at a fork and pretty much done.
2006-08-19 16:47:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋