Ok my mom has been drinking all week long and i just started high skool on monday the 14th and its been really hard.She is such a wonderful person when she is not drinking.She also takes pills and drinks the rubbing alcohol when she doesnt have an liqour left.Im all alone.My brother just left for college and my grandma used to do everything for me and now she had a stroke so yeah im practically living alone when my mom is drunk and my dad doesnt live with me anymore.What can i do to make her stop?Is there any kind of prayer of ritual?
2006-08-19 08:31:46 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you need to contact someone through your school.tell teacher about your problem if its really bothering you. i hope this is no joke, becuase it sounds like a very sad situation for you to be in.call your dad and talk to him. this is not a time for you to be on yahoo answers.
2006-08-19 08:39:58 · answer #1 · answered by 0000000000000000000000 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay my heart goes out to you. You are in a tough situation, being that you are a teenager and you are trying to do your work and carry on with your life, with a Mom who has been drinking all week long. When she is an alcoholic, it is her problem, her disease. What you can do, is to take care of yourself. Do not make excuses for her, do not enable her, as hard as that is. You can tell your Mom to get help, go to an inpatient program, get to AA meetings for herself. That is the extent you can talk to her, tell her how much it is effecting you,how you feel. Then you get yourself to some Alateen, for teens who are your age who can offer you help, support, and unconditional love. It is amazing!!! I've been there and back from growing up in an alcoholic home but nobody ever told me then what could be done. I wish we all would have had therapy too so that may be another avenue especially if you can't talk one on one with her. Don't talk to her when she is drunk or have been drinking, nooooooo!! As far as day to day, they will teach you in meetings, some great slogans, to live by and of course the Serenity Prayer.........God grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change,the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference, this really helps! Best of luck, hang in there and talk to your friends in school, maybe even somebody as an adult who you trust in school. There is help and support out there, and you're going to need it!!! :) I will keep you in my prayers and thoughts! Please feel free to email me, bigdog711792@yahoo.com if you'd like to vent, I know the feeling all too well. You are going to be the stronger adult for it all, trust me!!!
2006-08-19 08:56:07 · answer #2 · answered by Laurie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there anyone else that you can turn to? Even a friend? I have taken in some of my daughter's friends at times of trouble, so there are some of who are willing. I, too, went through that as a child and teenager. Your Mom has a problem that she needs to address. The alcohol is controlling her, but she makes the conscious decision to drink or to get help, which there is plenty of out there. I'm sorry about your situation and sorry to hear about your grandma. I know that you love your mom, and she does love you, but she needs to love herself enough to get help. It's not within your power to make her stop, nor is it your responsibility. You have done nothing wrong-remember that. It is not you fault that your mom has this problem,. Go to your counselor at school if there is no one else, and she will have recommendations for you. Your mom is quickly going to deteriorate if this continues, and perhaps even endanger her life or yours, or maybe someone else's. Good luck to you and I will meditate/pray for you.
2006-08-19 08:41:09 · answer #3 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are having a rough time. There is nothing you can do to "make" your mom stop drinking. She has to decide that for herself.
You could consider calling social services and reporting your mom's actions. They may force her to accept help or go to classes. You would also run the risk of being put in foster care for a time. Maybe having you in foster care would be a wake up call for you mom.
Addiction is hard to overcome. But it can be done. I am sorry you are suffering for your mom's poor choices. Good luck.
2006-08-19 08:38:17 · answer #4 · answered by mar 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to find a church so you can get some help... you are a child and it is not your responsibility yo run your parents life.. find something in school that you like to do to keep you busy.. Your mom is grown and she is going to be accounted for her own actions and not yours.. You are in school and have so many other things to worry about then what your mother is doing to support her habit. and call the mental health people on her because she is killing her self slowly by drinking rubbing alchol... that is just crazy.. is there any chance for you to go live with you father?
2006-08-19 11:15:31 · answer #5 · answered by Shonda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope no ritual but there is always prayer, i don't know how old you are but maybe you can go live with your dad, also maybe when your mom is sober you can tell her how you really feel and that you love her and you want her to be well. Try to convince her she needs to seek help.
2006-08-19 08:39:40 · answer #6 · answered by angel_64 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, first thing i would if i were you is find out where the nearest hospital or clinic or alcoholics is and make a list...then i would probably go and remove all the alcohol from the house when she is asleep ,...and when she wakes up and is sober sit her down and have a talk with her , show her the list and explain to her that if she cant change that she will lose you ...
2006-08-19 09:36:56 · answer #7 · answered by jennifer m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No there is no ritual but you can pray for her or try to move in with someone else!
I know how you feel my mom is an alcoholic also so i just try to stay out of her way when i am with her but i moved in with my grandparents! Im sry you are in this situation and i wish i could help! But no matter wat you nned to do good in school and get an education!
2006-08-19 08:42:04 · answer #8 · answered by Amber 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no Way you can make your mum stop drinking Hun i am so sorry
for what you are going through my heart goes out to you because my mum was also a drinker
you cant get a drinker to stop they need to want to stop there self's if they don't they wont
i am here if you ever need a chat
good luck Hun
respect
shaz
2006-08-19 08:48:03 · answer #9 · answered by sharon B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you could do is:-
- sit her down and explain to her how she is worrying you. Tell her you are worried about her and the effects of drinking on her. etc
- Obviously have this conversation when she is not drinking. I know it's hard but you have to have this converstion.
it may not work but you need to say it for your own sake and for hers. Let me know how it goes!
2006-08-19 08:39:45 · answer #10 · answered by Sarah L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋