can fat people like me find love because i seem to cant get a boyfriend because im big and ugly?

Question

i have a hard problem being myself around guys i mean it was fine yesterday with a cute neighbor but it turns out he has a gf and im really crushed and i think im destined to be alone forever anybody want to help me i cant help it i wanna be loved by a guy

and dont tell me im not fat cuz i weigh 300 and to lose weight because i am trying to but its hard and i need some motivation and i dont have anyone

and how can i love myself if no one else loves me huh

Answer 1

some dai ur soul mate will come...mayb da guyz u crushin on r shallow

Answer 2

Of course you can, sure some guys are very shallow and will knock you cause of the body that you have, but those guys aren't even worth giving the time of day. You may think that all guys want are a pretty face and a hott body but that's not true. It may surprise you but there are a good number of guys out there, who don't put the physical appearance above the personality of a girl. Just be yourself or at least try, you may feel shy or awkward or self-concious but you have to try and just tell yourself that you're a good person regardless of your appearance. And when you start to show your confidence in yourself, you won't believe how many guys will latch onto that and start to like you. It's all about the way you perceive yourself and act around others. If you believe that appearance is less important that personality then you're bound to find some guy who believes the same. Good Luck!

Answer 3

Damn!! First of all you are the problem!! How can you LOVE someone and you can't love yourself!! Stop with the damn pity party and do something about yourself!! I weigh 250 and I get a lot of dates and so should you!! If you don't have any Confidence who's going to date you!! Confidence is what separates the movers from the shakers!! Note: Don't date anyone till you get yourself together!! Good Luck!! Because I represent the Big people getting theirs!!

Answer 4

The best motivation to lose weight is to join a group dieting program like Jenny Craig and perhaps have a friend join with you so you can both watch what you eat and do together. That way you have someone helping to motivate you.

Boys go for girls with self confidence, and you must learn to appreciate yourself before expecting others to. I hope this helped a little. Goodluck to you, love will find you!

Answer 5

If you care what's on the outside then so will the men you are scoping. Be Yourself. I am not exactly skinny either and I found that being yourself works. I have now been happily married for 5 years and yes I was FATTER when I met my husband. He has been supportive through and through. I found curves for women last year and lost 30 pounds you can do it to as long as you believe in yourself. Someone out there will see you for who you are and love you unconditionally no matter what you look like on the outside because they see you for what is on the inside. Good Luck and God Bless!!!!!!

Answer 6

Life is not fair, I've been fat and I've been thin. Thin is better. I've been with models, bunnies Etc. before I lost the weight , it was hard to get a date.


The only problem with losing weight, You don't want love anymore , because the opposite sex is falling out of the trees.

Weight watchers used to warn married women approaching goal weight that weight watchers caused a lot of broken marriages.


Loves beginning is usually the joy of seeing ones beloved , is it not yours.

Lose the weight and your life will never be the same.

Answer 7

i hear your pain girl but may i say to you it is not because you are fat that you don't have a man. you need a dose of self confidence. i see many large size women with men and some really are not beauty queens =) but most are confident enough to believe that thery deserve a man. i can assure you that losing weight won't find you that perfect man. i lost alot of weight and my luck with men did not change, that's when i realized that the attraction comes from within you. just be yourself, go out (church,mall etc...)make friends and he will come to you,just don't be dumb and turn him away because he doesn't look like brad pitt. there is nothing wrong with wanting to be loved by a man but don't let it fester your life, live and have fun and he will come. p.s i bet your not ugly either-get past that

Answer 8

Change you attitude about yourself and try to make the best of your size and features. With a positive attitude, others will feel more positive about meeting you and interacting with you. In this fuc*ed up society, we women are programmed to feel as though there is nothing out there for us if we don't look like cover girls. Have faith that there will be the right person in your life one day and make as many changes to your attitude and confidence level as you can. If it's trash, throw it away. If it's golden, hold on to it and you will be able to share it with someone who deserves it one day. Love yourself first then others will love you too.

Answer 9

number 1) Nobody's ugly
number 2) It doesn't matter in the slightest wether you're curvier than others, hell, i am, and i was in love with someone earlier this year, and im only 13, so, overall, it doesn't matter what you look like, how old you are OR your size. You've just gotta get some confidence in yourself and the guys will come running

Peace out

xxxx

Answer 10

you're expecting to much to soon. So you found he had a gf no need to be crushed. No need to stop being a friend. Its your attitude that needs to change more so then how you look. If the guys you seek are only interested in thin women maybe you are looking at the wrong guys?

Answer 11

first thing you need to LOVE your self... there is no one in this world that can love you like you love your self.. Your self esteem is really shot and people can see that... Nobody wants a friend or a spouse that they have to constantly remind that they are beautiful or sexy... you have to know that for your self... everyone is not made to me skinny, but if you can stand to loose some weight do it for you and your health and not because you are trying to fit into what America thinks... Go to church and get some healing, because some where down this life road someone messed up your head... you need God to try and get this under control.. and if you ever need to talk one on one.. woman to woman...assuming that you area woman.. you can IM me on AIM.... (shondalilbit69).....