When i was 16 i became pregnate and my grandpa was pretty harsh about it, he charged my b/f with rape (it was not) and he has been critical of my life ever since, He hasnt had a whole lot to do with me my whole life, haveing other favorite grandchildren. They dote on him and all that. He has been diagnosed with cancer and has been battleing it for years, its close to the end of the game, i am sad and i do love him, but how can i get over this pain and void that has been put in our relationship, i am not a shallow person, and i know that when he passes away, i will be hurt and regret the seperation. Please, if anyone has helpful advice i could use it.
2006-08-19 07:59:10 · 5 answers · asked by rebelgirl_5 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
forgiving someone is not about letting others getting away with injustice they have done to you. forgiving is about getting rid of the burden you have been bearing because of what the other person had done to you. only you have the power to let go of that burden. it does not necessary mean you are making up with this person. it just mean that you are disconneting this negative relationship, by either building a new positive one or moving on with your life. it's okay to let go......
2006-08-19 08:16:23 · answer #1 · answered by sstooc2001 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
let him know that you are sorry he is sick and the distance between the two of you . tell him you truly love him and how he has made you feel through out your life. then let him know he has been (fill in the blank) in your life, i realize you have been upset because of what happened over your pregnancy. but you must know in your heart, it was because you were so young, and he was doing his job as far as watching out for your best interest, even if you don't see it that way. right now, more than likely you will in time. there comes a time in life when you will have to say, nothing or you choose to make things right. you are concerned or you wouldn't have asked for advice. do what is in your heart that you will be able to live with the rest of life after he is gone. now since you love your grandfather , let him know how you feel and let him go with peace between the two of you. You have grown up allot to be aware of what you need to do. I commend you for that.
I wish you all in what life has to offer, and good luck with your decision.
2006-08-19 08:47:09 · answer #2 · answered by RAINBOW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If possible, go to him and just tell him you love him, and that you feel the reason he was so hard on you was his way of showing his love for you. If he wants to say he is sorry then it will give him the chance to do so. I am sure that it will make you feel better.
God Bless honey I know its hard. I have been there.
2006-08-19 08:10:27 · answer #3 · answered by cinson1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every time he says or does something harsh just look him in the face and say " I still Love you grandpa " No matter how hard it is. When he does pass at least you'll know he went knowing how you felt.
2006-08-19 08:19:22 · answer #4 · answered by sometimessusie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
up to ur eyes in LOVe JOb Urself
2006-08-19 08:14:06 · answer #5 · answered by demigod 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋