Does anyone see what is wrong with this?

Question

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It is said that anyone who can answer yes to any one of these questions is a militant breastfeeder whose sole purpose is to criticize those who don't.
Many times I have expressed my pride in being able to breastfeed after 8 years of infertility and giving up hope of ever having this priviledge. Is it wrong to feel good about a choice that I never thought I'd be able to make? My expression of pride has been somehow twisted by formula feeders who say this condemns their choice (or necessity as the case may be).
Breastfeeders are subjected many rude and insulting comments, too:You SHOULD have weaned him by now
You're still breastfeeding him at 2, that's abusive and he'll suffer emotional consequences
Co-sleeping causes lifelong dependence on the parents
Breastfeeding SHOULD be done in the bathroom.
And my favorite - being compared to a cow

Formula feeders - we don't have it any better. People try to make us feel guilty, too

Thank you poisoneva - Thank you for that example of rudeness. You have proved my point.

jennanderton - don't you realize that extended breastfeeders DO give thier kids solid foods and sippy cups of milk or water? That is called an assupmtion and we breastfeeders are also guilty of doing that when we assume all formula feeders made that choice blindly or without being forced to due to medical reasons.

dirkdiggler - is that a test to see if I'll report you? I won't but someone else might...

Answer 1

I breastfed my 1st son to 15 months he chose to stop but I didn't mind nursing and could care less of other peoples comments especially ones without kids. With my 2nd son now 6 months I don't hear as many comments but people need to get over it because it is the best thing for a baby and it shouldn't offend anyone. I do feel uncomfortable around little kids because they all want to look at the baby when he is nursing and I don't know what to say to them. But people please there's other things to be more offended by like girls half naked walking around the mall or people smoking or people with offensive tattoos. People get over it.

Answer 2

I have no problem seeing anyone breastfeeding in public even though I did not do breastfeeding. I think it is something of nature and is something that is done and so others need to let it be. What happened to breastfeeding in public and no one having a fit? If I was able to breastfeed I am sorry I would do it in public as well when my child was hungry. I would not wait until I could find a bathroom, which by the way many bathrooms do not have sitting areas for this, so you will do it no matter where you can or can not, it is their life and their childs life and they can feed where and when they want. Mine were Formula fed and my son who is 4 has only had colds from being around other sick kids but nothing more then a cold neither one of my kids have ever had an ear infection either. He is perfectly healthy. But of course I will not knock down anyone else cause they are doing something else. Everyone is going to do what they feel is best for their children and that does not mean anyone is a bad mother for it at all.

Answer 3

I am not an expert on breastfeeding, but i do know that mothers milk is crucial for the building up of the childs immune system the first three months.
It is natural to breastfeed children and it is beautiful when a mother breastfeeds a baby - to complain about that is like to complain about birdsong at the crack of dawn , a rooster crowing in the morning...or a dove cooing..
Some mothers have no choice through circumstances like allergies, and have to bottlefeed from the beginning.
If a child is breastfed in a private place like one's own home i see no problem .
As it is , the way things are going, one day i think we will have machines popping out pills like sunday roast flavour, or lambchop, pudding pills, etc ...like dogfood...
yuck !nothing better than the original things..

Answer 4

I just consider myself lucky that my circumstances and the society I live in allow me to make informed decisions and that different options are available to me. So many people in this world do not share the same privileges - their freedom and rights are taken away from them and the idea of having the right to choose is an unknown luxury. I understand you're not criticising anyone else's choice, simply taking pride and pleasure in your own... and that's a good thing. I have a girlfriend who adopted children and wanted to breastfeed so badly that she took medication and stimulated her breasts for months to make it possible. I'm thrilled she was successful because it was what she so badly wanted to do, and was so committed to making it happen. I have other friends who bottle feed, some gave up paid work to be with their children, others are on maternity leave, still others returned to work after 6 weeks and placed their children in childcare. I think they are all great mums because they love, make time for and want the very best for their children. We applaud each other's efforts and do our best to encourage and support each other, regardless of the different choices we make in raising our children. So, for breast and bottle feeders alike, I celebrate your right to choose. Let us be the best parents we can, love our babies and support and encourage each other because being a parent can be hard enough without us cricising and tearing each other down.

Answer 5

What is wrong with breastfeeding ? Its the best thing to do for our children. We were given breasts to feed our children with. The only way that someone should not breastfeed is if there milk is not any good ( my milk was not the best when my baby was about 9months, so I had to give her formula ) or they have to go to work and need to pump their milk into a bottle for their baby. I love breastfeeding. Its wonderful ! We are helping our childrens ammune system build up , protecting their little bodies from harmful diseases. What could possibly be wrong with that ? I felt so close to my child when I was breastfeeding her. I will breastfeed all of my children. As a plus , you never have to worry about warming a bottle ! lol Its always warm and ready for feeding time. Shopping is so much easier . Why do people think that we should have to sit in the bathroom and feed our babies ? Its like they compare breastfeeding to doing bodily functions in the restroom. Thats crazy. Who in the world would want to eat in a bathroom ? I wouldn't . I do believe that women should cover themselves up. A recieving blanket thrown over the shoulder will take care of this. I know someone that stopped breastfeeding her baby because she said " all the baby wanted to do was eat ,and I couldn't get anything else done". That just bothered me. It was an inconvience to her , so she decided not to breastfeed her anymore. What happened to people doing whats best for their children ? I remember how it was . It seemed that all I would do was breastfeed. That was fine with me. My daughter always comes first. She will always get the best . I have never cared who saw me breastfeeding . My baby is the one that matters. If other people do not like seeing me feed my child , then they can stop looking. They do not have to keep staring and giving me dirty looks. Its not going to make me change what I am doing. Thats for sure.

People in other countries breastfeed their children until they are about 6 years old. I do not judge them. They know whats best for their children. If my milk would have still been good I would have breastfed until my daughter was probably a years and a half.

Answer 6

you should be able to beast feed your child anywhere theres some that dont like it but there just rude i was never good at breastfeeding i give my little boy formula best wishes

Answer 7

I have two very happy and healthy children, both of whom were breast fed until the age of 2. They are normal teenagers now with no odd psychosis or abnormal behaviours. They are not dependant upon me yet they slept with me for over half their "feeding" life. Both are healthy, in fact they rarely get sick, and if they do it is something minor.

HOWEVER!

I do believe that if one is to breast feed they should NOT flaunt it in front of others, and try to be discrete. I always sat in another area or in a far corner, using a small blanket to cover the feeding. In fact I had one restaurant owner (he was male by the way) come to my defense (when someone yelled that I should go into the bathroom to do "that")... he said that people don't eat in a washroom, neither should our children.

Answer 8

I think what people have the tendency to forget be it formula or breastmilk, the child is being fed. I breastfed my oldest for 6 months and my youngest for 9.5. (And I nursed in public and would have happily flipped anyone off who was screeching "how revolting!" Grow up.)

I'd much rather be up in arms about parents who starve and neglect their children rather than parents who feed their child the way I think they should.

Answer 9

I believe in breastfeeding but as I see it the LLC are nazis/ When I stopped pumping after 5 months ( long story not gonna explain ) they went psycho on my hubby when he returned the pump. POINT IS, do what works for you, person B does whats best for them.
BUT I DO have a problem with breastfeeding after 2.5 yrs old, if they can ask for it thats wrong. My neighbor breastfed her son til he was 4yrs old and to me thats sick

Answer 10

I had to formula feed my 2 kids. After my son I had severe complications and my daughter was premature and they would not let me breast feed her they wanted to know how much and what she was getting. I am hoping to be able to breast feed the baby i am pregnant with now. There is no way to be able to make everybody happy. So as I say Forget them. No body else knows whats best for you and your baby then you.