Many moons ago (in my late teens). I slept with my best friend's sex buddy. They were not together- and so, i figured that i will give him a try. It was awful. Anyway, he wanted to pursue a relationship with me, and threatened to tell my best mate of our "affair". I decided to tell her myself. We have not spoken since, but i really miss her. Other friends sided with her, and so none of them speak with me anymore. I didn't even like the guy. What do i do? We had this great connection. and she really made me laugh.
how do i show her that i miss her, dearly
2006-08-19 07:48:32 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, some dark piece of your soul did want to sleep with that guy, and perhaps it was just a sideway slap at her. Why don't you really own that piece of yourself? Really figure out why you did it and don't sugar coat it for yourself. Then, and only then, can you have a heart to heart with that girl and see if you can mend what is broken.
2006-08-19 07:56:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it happened many moons ago maybe your friend has forgiven you but havent contacted you as she thinks that it is to late to get your friendship back, Cant you write a letter or send a txt asking to meet up to talk things over and explain that you made a mistake and that you didnt know that by sleeping with him would hurt her, also explain that he said if you didnt have an affair that he would tell her, but you wanted to be the one to tell her as you valued her friendship more than to lose her over a bloke, Just say how sorry and silly you was to ruin a good friendship
2006-08-19 15:03:08 · answer #2 · answered by SARAH T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever make the same mistake again, some people (like your ex-friend) can never forgive or forget, and by continuing to try to be her friend you are wasting time, the friendship you had is gone if you get her to be friendly again it will not be the same ever again cause how can she trust you around any of her men or man? I suggest you take this as a lesson and stop giving into your wants.
2006-08-19 14:59:22 · answer #3 · answered by travelin_jalapeno 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, i think you just should simply address the issue. Tell her how sorry you are for betraying her because even though they weren't together that still didn't give you the right to sleep with him. Maybe she got emotionally attached to him and this is why she acted out this way. Many girls just sleep with guys, but become emotionally attached to guys and the guys just want sex and nothing more. She had to like him or perhaps she loved him.
2006-08-19 14:57:53 · answer #4 · answered by shawn_0523 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no going back, you crossed the line. Friends should not have sex with their friends lovers. Even if it's an ex lover. And you don't even like him? That really sucks because if you liked him at least you have a legitimate excuse. But even then, you don't do such thing to your friends, unless you want to loose a friend fast.
2006-08-19 14:58:21 · answer #5 · answered by venus11224 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally i don't think u can ever regain that type of friendship that u had before as trust is one of the core foundation of any relationship and this basically isn't there anymore, but i think if you told her you are sorry and ask for her forgiveness then give her some time then she may accept you back. good luck.
2006-08-19 15:42:00 · answer #6 · answered by just me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you just have to accept that there are consequences for actions. All you can do is apologize, let her know that you'd like to reconcile, and leave it in her hands. You made the choice you made back then and you have to respect whatever her choice is now.
2006-08-19 14:56:20 · answer #7 · answered by e_town_pa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they were just sex buddies then it should not be that big of a deal. He had to be willing also, does she still talk to him? If she won't talk to you over a "sex buddy" then that is her problem. She needs to realize that they were not dating and you really did nothing wrong.
2006-08-19 14:59:08 · answer #8 · answered by james c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn from your mistakes! Good friends are hard to come by. Try to explain how sorry you are and if it doesn't work then move on. If it does work then time is a good healer.
2006-08-19 15:26:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it was that long ago I would leave it, you'll never be really good mates again-you crossed the line, sorry
2006-08-19 14:56:00 · answer #10 · answered by mz.hunnie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋