I have a friend I grew up with since childhood. He turned out to be bi-sexual. I am not homophobic and he acts like a normal man and knows where I stand and has never tried going there. Recently, him and some other friends, another guy and a girl wanted to go to this club I knew nothing about and they thought it would be funny not to tell me it was a gay club. it seemed like a normal place . There were plenty of women there and we were in there about 30 minutes when I finally had enough of these guys talking sh*t about my friend and almost got in a fight thinking they were trying to start something. When I went over and said something to them and they started appologizing, it hit me( and hard ) all of a sudden I realized what was going on. They weren't trying to start anything they were checking him out and snickering to themselves. Then they thought I was his boyfriend and got jealous. It's all funny in a way and everyone thinks it's hilarious, but what would you do ?
2006-08-19 07:46:51 · 23 answers · asked by The Hit Man 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not "mad" about it, but I want him to pay for it.
2006-08-19 07:59:21 · update #1
It's kind of funny, especially if they really didn't mean anything by it- maybe postpone the butt kicking unless they pull it again. They just wanted to see how you'd react and it sounds like you did pretty well.
2006-08-19 07:59:16 · answer #1 · answered by Nightlight 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I guess not everyone has the same sense of humour! This is not a situation that I would find funny whatsoever and a serious infringement on your right to choose when, where, and with whom you associate with! It also probably made you feel foolish!
It certainly isn't anything to lose a friend over, as the intent wasn't malicious, but I would let my friend know that it would affect your trust in them and that you would always be questioning yourself/your friend, whenever you went somewhere together!
2006-08-19 16:35:29 · answer #2 · answered by *ღ♥۩ THEMIS ۩♥ღ* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pay him back by calling him and telling him that the night at the club opened up some latent homosexual feelings in you. Tell him that you want to become a cross dresser and ask him for fashion advice. Be very serious about this and even ask him to go shopping with you for a new wardrobe. Take him shopping with you and go into Victoria's Secret and tell the sales clerk that your friend needs help with the ladies underwear and that he wants to know what size would be most comfortable on him. When she goes to help him stand back and watch.
2006-08-19 16:51:43 · answer #3 · answered by Enough 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would let my friend know that I was disappointed in him for not telling me that he was taking you to a gay club. That should have been told to you up front. And also say that before I realized what kind of bar it was there would have been a fight because they were talking about him.
2006-08-19 14:54:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I wouldnt kick my friend literally but no one should have to be in situation that makes them feel uncomfortable, if it really did make you feel uncomfortable, let your friend know, tell him that you accept him for the way he is....but what he did, you didn't think it was so hilarious. Forgive him.....friends deserve a second chance.....if he continues to act like that and puts you in situations to make you feel uncomfy then he doesn't respect you.
Just let him know how you feel, honestly, assertively but never aggressively, no need for violence unless you were desperately trying to defend yourself. I hope the best for you and your friend and I hope you can work things out and be the best of friends. God Bless you both!
2006-08-19 14:56:55 · answer #5 · answered by rulerofvenus21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is best to respect your friend and his sexuality.
These types of people are always making fun of straight people because they know that it upsets them. Those that are not into this behavior will laugh it off and go to a normal bar like the rest of us instead.
2006-08-19 15:09:08 · answer #6 · answered by snorkelman_37 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol.....great story, and I can relate somewhat as I had a similar situation happen to me, but years and years ago.
I'd say it was probably all in fun, as I I think you took it, but this is definitely one for PAYBACKS!
You're going to have to come up with something good tho. I couldn't even begin to think of anything as you know your friends the best, so get with some of them and pull off a good one.....errrr....maybe I shouldn't say 'pull off'....ha ha. Ok I won't quit my day job, but you now what I mean.
Good luck! I'd like to know what you end up doing......lol.
2006-08-19 15:28:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is funny , but ask your friend to give you a heads up next time so you dont make an a s s out of yourself...again
2006-08-19 14:53:57 · answer #8 · answered by sparkey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would be pissed off because they played u if they were your true friends they would respect that u don't go that way
anyway i would let them know that u are angry at what happen and say to them to respect u or back off cause its not really funny when the jokes on u
2006-08-19 14:53:52 · answer #9 · answered by Cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They were just having a laugh, but if he your friend knew you were uncomfortable in that kind of environment then he should have been a bit more considerate. Kick his *** anyway!
2006-08-19 14:57:09 · answer #10 · answered by EvieEvans 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋