They have been married for 10 yrs. and he has had several relapes. He is also my boss, the other day he had a relapse and he called me to come get him from this house that he was staying at, drinking he wanted me to come get him and take him to his car, so I went. When I got there he wasn't ready to go any where. He wanted me to stay and drink with me, he tried to kiss me I wouldn't let him I covered my face I kept telling him much my sister loved him he said he has had a thing for me for a long time and he asked if I would stay and sleep under the covers with him for an hour I told him NO, That I had to go. I can't tell my sister It'll hurt her so bad cause she loves him so much and he keeps doing this to her last time he took off to Las Vages for 2 weeks and spent 15k in the period!!! What do I do he's stopped hitting on me I told him that I love my sister and would never do anything to hurt her, But I feel like I have betrayed her for not telling her what happene what do I do?
2006-08-19 07:11:23 · 13 answers · asked by Kittin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The best thing you can do is tell your sister. She has a right to know, and he won't be able to get out of this rut on his own.
2006-08-19 07:20:05 · answer #1 · answered by elvenjewl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if you want the best for your sister...you should tell her. Of course it's going to hurt her, but she needs to know these things. It's not fair for her to live life not knowing that her husband will obviously get with any chick who allows it at the drop of a hat, especially if he's drunk. You're sister deserves a loyal husband. And I'd definately get a new job if he's your boss.
2006-08-19 07:18:59 · answer #2 · answered by Jenn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
. i would ask your sister if one is she happy, also..stop and switch positions with your sis would you like to know the truth it may hurts and when the tears stop and the heart starts to mend, you and her will be ok you might be put into a situation in the future with wrong place wrong time and you'll look guilty and you are not but you not being hontest and looking out for your sis will pretray that it's your sis and your nieces or nephews for crying out loud what could you be scared of ???????. wonder if he messed around with some else and she did not know he was married and found out and went after your sis... big picture here stop and think.....
2006-08-19 07:28:15 · answer #3 · answered by prettylips 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A substance abuser is going to keep on using until he/she gets treatment; it's the nature of the illness. Your sister and their kids are going to be affected by his using until he sobers up or dies. Can you encourage them to check with their local mental health services/family services? Many families/friends of users also find considerable support in Alcoholics Anonymous and other allied self-help programs.
2006-08-19 07:23:08 · answer #4 · answered by samiracat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your brother-in-law needs help with the alcohol. Try getting him to rehab with the help of your sister. I know you don't want to hurt your sister, but you need to tell her how serious this situation is. Your brother-in-law really needs help; you and your sister getting him the help he needs is all you can do as of now. I wish you all the best of luck!
2006-08-19 07:19:45 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would of slapped the **** out of him, called my sister and told her she better get her *** home now or else I am going to kill her perverted husband. She can get mad at me all she wants, but they would both know I'm not putting up with that crap and jobs come and go.
2006-08-19 07:21:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your sister what happen and let her take it from there. Be careful though she may turn on you, if she does at least when she gets hurt, and she will, she can not blame you. And your conscious will be clear
2006-08-19 07:22:19 · answer #7 · answered by PREACHER'S WIFE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to tell your sister. If he is doing that to you then its hard telling who else he tries messing with. Also if you don't tell her it will bother you forever. She needs to know what kind of man she is married to and you should be there to help her. Its not your fault..
2006-08-19 07:28:18 · answer #8 · answered by onefinedayitwillb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your sister she needs to know what kind of guy she married. It's not fair to her to keep it a secret either.
2006-08-19 07:18:28 · answer #9 · answered by justaguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to tell her so she opens her eyes to the type of guy he is...obviously he is no good for her but she keeps hanging on to him she needs to see the whole picture and lose the loser
2006-08-19 07:58:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋