I am 15 and I fight often with my parents. Is that so normal?

Question

My mum shouts at me when she is in a bad mood, just like that, even if I don't have anything at all to do with her problem. Sometimes she tells me I am the best thing that could ever happen to her and dad. But sometimes she tells me that I am so stupid and I would best do if I would just don't do anything at all. Is that right?

Answer 1

YEP IT'S NORMAL. ABOUT THE AGE OF 23 YOU WILL REALIZE THAT THEY ARE RIGHT. UNTIL THEN BUCK UP, FOLLOW THEIR RULES. IT'S THEIR HOUSE. AND UNTIL YOU MAKE ENOUGH$, AND GET YOUR OWN PLACE, BEHAVE..

Answer 2

try not worry, it's a really difficult time for you at the moment, but things will get better.

Families always fight, i'm sure you're mum definetly doesn't mean any of the things she says that upset you, people
say things they don't mean when they're angry (i'm sure you do too).

Your mum may have other things going on in her life that you don't know about, that may make her more snappy than usual, it could even be that shes finding it hard to see her little girl growing into a young women.

You ARE the best thing that happened to your parents, from the day they held you in their arms as a tiny baby, and i'm sure they love you very much.

Being 15 is pretty hard, and can feel like no-one understands you-especially your parents. But it will get easier.

Try and talk to your mum, calmly, about how you feel.

If the arguing does carry on an awful lot, and is really getting you down, pop down to your doctors and have chat with him/her, they don't have to tell your parents, and can give you the advice and/or help you need. No matter what if you do feel something is wrong, you don't have to be alone.

I hope this advice is some help to you

wishing you all the very best......x

Answer 3

Your Mom Uses You, As A Way To Relieve Her Tension. She Needs To Treat You Like A Adult Even If You Are Only 15 Yrs Old.
Ask Her To Do So When She Is In A Good Mood. Sit Down With Her And What Ever You Do, DON'T Raise YOUR Voice, Even If She Dose. After A While If Things Don't Change
Try Asking You Father To Speak On Your Behalf. Good Luck And Be Blessed, A Friend In
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Answer 4

Please believe that you are the "best thing that has ever happened to your Mom and Dad". Your Mom isn't perfect...she is at a loss and doesn't know how to resolve certain problems - which of course, doesn't justify talking disrepectfully to your children. And, likewise, it is important that you do your part as a member of a family and understand that you are not the authority - If you are fighting with your parents, perhaps you are trying to negotiate with them to see things your way. It certainly would help if you would help set some standards in your home with the help of your parents. Remember, you will probably be a parent someday. Some of these standards would be:

Do not use bad language
Do not talk disrepectfully to others
Do not hurt others
Do not Lie
Do not steal

Do be Kind
Do what you say you are going to do.
Do participate.
Do carry out your responsibilities.
Do say you are sorry and mean it.
For Kids and Teenagers: Do your Homework.
Frequently find ways of showing love and gratitude to your family, not because it will make them feel better, but because it makes you feel great.

I hope this helps.

Take Care!

Answer 5

There will come a point in everyones life when you will stop believing everything your parents tell you to be the absolute truth. Your parents do love you and want whats best for you but that doesn't always mean they know the best way to do it. They don't mean the horrible things they say, they are just at thier witts end trying to get you to do what they think is right for you, even if it isn't the best way to go about it. I guess what I'm trying to say is just because she puts you down doesn't make it true just because she' your mum. Try talking to her about it. If you do't feel comfortable with that then a counsellor can help ( i nkow how corny that must sound!) Good luck!
ps my mum and i had the exact same relationship when I was young and 10 years later we're best mates.

Answer 6

No it's not right, but all parents don't do everything right all the time. Everything we do in life is a learning experience and parenting is one of them. Parents make mistakes just like everyone else, they are only human too. The bible tells us to honor our parents so that our days will be long upon the earth. This means each time we disrespect our parents God shortens our life on earth. It's up to you to believe this or not, but only time will tell. So write your mom a really nice letter, let her know how much you love her and your dad, don't criticize her. Let her know you think she is being the best mom she knows how to be. Tell her how you feel about the relationship you two have and you would like it to be better. Let her know how you would like it to be the changes you want from her and yourself. Always look at yourself and your faults too. It takes a big person to also admit when they are wrong. You will be much respected for this. And good luck with your relationship with your parents. God only gives us one set of parents. I lost my dad 3 years ago so enjoy them as much as you can. I know it's hard being a teen but the more you respect them trust, the easier life will be. It will make them trust you more and you may find life easier. When I was a teen my cousins would always say my mom let me go wherever and when I wanted to. But if my mom told me to be in at 10 or 12 I always did what she told me to. And it made it easier the next time I wanted to do something. She even used to let me go to Mardi Gras in New Orleans when I was in High School because I always came home when I was supposed to and I didn't let my friends talk me into things that would get me into trouble....... So just have your own mind, but value your parents. I'm sorry that she calls you stupid but sometimes parents get stressed. Not making excuses for her though, but who knows what she is going through. Or maybe her parents did this to her and it's the only way she knows.............. I hope it gets better for you........

Answer 7

oh Hunni
me and my daughter scream all the time at each other over the most stupid things but we have lots of cuddles and i love her so much
its a mum and daughter thing there are 2 sides to every story
and maybe if you try and bite your tongue while she screams when she has calmed down go to her and say mum i love you with all my heart but why do you shout at me all the time just maybe you will find out why she is so bad tempered
when me and my daughter who is 14 by the way sit and talk we find out the problem and try and sort but
but don't worry Hun it will get better it is just sometimes us mums can loose the plot over silly things try and give her a chance to tell you why
good luck
respect
shaz

Answer 8

Honey...is that you? (just teasin) It's normal to fight with your parents, they've been through so much more, know just about everything that could happen and you are just learning. You seem to be one of those children who is more independent and has to learn from her own mistakes...it's okay, my daughter was the same way. I'm still trying to block out a few years of her teenager phase. I swear I had a stranger living under my roof. But it does get better, your parents aren't going to hate you, they expect this. Your mom, however, should know better than to vent on you when things aren't going her way. Tell her how you feel...she was a kid once herself, maybe she's not even realizing that she does it. Even parent's make mistakes honey, and sometimes things need to be pointed out to us.

Answer 9

Well, everybody has ther ups and downs and we all like a punching bag to take it out on. You're moms just going through a bad patch, so If I were you, I wouldn't interfere until it was absolutely necessary. But talking back or fighting with them, will only distance you from them, and this is a very bad thing to happen.

Answer 10

Your mother may have PMS or she may being going thru peri-menopause. When she is in a good mood talk to her & tell her mood swings have u concerned. By the way what does your dad think about all this?

Answer 11

It is normal to fight with your parents.I couldnt stand my mom when I was a teenager we fought all the time.BUT it gets better as you get older we ended up best friends when I finally grew up. She shouldnt tell you your stupid though thats not right.Tell her it hurts your feelings when she says that. Try not to argue with her.She knows whats best for you even though you think she may not.I say this from my own experience.It will get easier I PROMISE!! :-)