how can i boost my confidence?

Question

please help

Answer 1

when you feel your worst, look your best.
I always pamper myself when im ill or feeling low then go out & get some attention from passers by. (they may not mean anything to you but its a good confidence booster)

Answer 2

I had the same confidence problem (still do to an extent but not nearly as bad) Thing that helped me was new clothes! Might sound silly and/ or stupid and wont work, but the second i started thinking that i looked good, i felt good. I found working with people has helped my confidence enormously. Its helped me to realise that not all strangers are arrogant arseholes. I can even have a joke or just chat to customers now, because i have that confidence in myself. Its a completely different thing at work and in a club though. When i get into a club/ pub i am straight back ot where i started.

Answer 3

I used to be really shy never spoke to anybody! I used to be scared to even talk to my Aunties & Uncles!Then i became a bar maid! I dont know why i took the job! It just seemed like a good idea at the time(i was sooo worried)! Any way I started & thought hey this isnt so hard i started chatting to people & coming out of myself more but i could only do that when i was at work! The other side of the bar i was still the quiet 1 that never made an impact! 1 day i thought what are you doing?! If i can be a confident bubbley person at work I can be out of work & thats when my life started changing for the better! I now have lots of friends & dont mind talking to anybody! I know its not an easy thing to do but you can do it! Good luck!

Answer 4

Be happy with the way you look, even if it is just putting on your favorite piece of clothing. When you are not self conscious about your looks you will feel more confident.

Learn something new - read a book or take a class at community college, anything. You'll feel smarter & that will help your confidence, and so will the sense of accomplishment that you'll have.

Excercise. You'll feel stronger & that will help you feel confident also.

Answer 5

Keep positive thoughts and people around you. We all have something that we are good at. Make a list of all your positive qualities. And don't be too hard on yourself. Sometimes we are our own worst enemies. Remember, you are a child of God and He doesn't make "junk"!

You just need to give yourself credit for the person you are. We are all only human and we do the best we can each and every day. Be good to yourself. It's very important to like yourself and don't be afraid to be who you are. A lot of people who are always wishing they were like someone else never seem to feel good about themselves. Be happy to be who you are . . .an individual, unique and different in your own special way!

I'm sure once you make your list of good qualities you'll see all the reason in the world to be confident! As long as someone is not putting you down constantly, you can see yourself in a different light. And if you are around people who put you down and have negative energy, you need to keep away from them. They are NOT your friend . . . a friend would never treat you that way.

You are very SPECIAL and there is NO ONE in the world quite like YOU!! :)

Answer 6

I was shy from 9 to about 21 years.

After that I mixed more with people. Even now I need to remember that a network of friends needs to be cultivated a bit.

Somehow, confidence came with time and age. I realised other people were unsure, and needed encouragement.

I feel that we all need encouragement, for example (at least) a hug every day.

Ask other people about themselves.
Keep your head up and look around you, even if only to watch out for muggers and thieves!

Try to help someone else. Help is always in short supply.

Answer 7

The exercises in "The Feeling Good Book" , by Dr David Burns, will boost your self esteem and confidence. It has helped millions, and helped me.

Answer 8

Start working out, an hour a day five days a week, In a couple of weeks you will feel better and look better, thus boosting your self confidence. It worked for me. I was a blubbery slob, now I'm a fit slob

Answer 9

Get a makeover. It'll really boost your confidence. Don't lie to yourself you know appearance does matter. It'll take work but once you do change your appearance for the better you'll feel better even more.

Answer 10

Working in a charity shop as a volunteer can seriously help as it is an environment where you can interact with customers.

I've seen other people's confidence boost by doing this.

Good luck.

:-)

Answer 11

You are unique. In all the history of the world there has never been anyone like you. There will never again be another you. This is your life,your chance. Millions of sperm tried to fertilise the egg in your mothers womb and you are the winner . Grasp the enormity of your existence. Celebrate life.Live life.Say YES to life. Affirm yourself, you are here because you won that race to be born . You are as good as any one else in this world. You have your own strengths ,you know what they are.Play to your strengths, they are your gifts. Look up the Desiderata of Happiness by Max Ehrmann,He puts it better than me.