Why is a college education important in finding a man?

Question

I have heard hundres of times that money isn't the most important thing in a potential mate although I do think it is somewhat important. If I want a man who makes a good living, I am considered a gold digger where as I get rejected by men who won't even give me a chance or answer my personals ad even if I email them first because I don't have a college education. Why do people tell me I am thinking to much of a man's earning power when it seems the guys do the same thing. The main reason they want a woman with a college education is because they want her to have a career and be making good money. I don't think that I am stupid just because I didn't go to college, hey not all of us had that opportunity. I probably work harder than those people because I have to do some physical work and don't get to sit on my butt all day in an office. Why don't guys stop being gold diggers? Isn't it a woman's personality and how she treats you that matters??

I have this problem even with the guys that are 20 years older than me. Sure people might say that they are afraid that they might have to support me, but hey a man's duty is to support his wife and family, no matter what society says today. And besides if I marry a man alot older than me, chances are he will have to rely on my in 10 or 20 years as his health fails, so arenl't we even? Just like my parents. My dad provides for my mom for all these years and now she has paid him back by caring for him when he is sick and taking him to the bathroom and all, not a pretty sight , but part of committment. I think my dad got the better deal even if he did have to support my mom. Gee men are such wimps.

Answer 1

Sure, and it works both ways, but i don't think it's necessarily a money issue, alot of guys nowadays like ambitious woman, with a goal or purpose in life, i think it makes them feel better knowing they don't have sole responsibility of income for the family. If someone nixes you because you didn't go to college then f++ them, there not worth your time anyways.

Answer 2

Try finding a man without a college education also. Then noone earns more than the other.

Prime example my sister married a man 20 years her senior he was just about to go into early retirment but she soon changed that now they have split up and he has to work for another 20 years lost all his savings half of his 7 bed house. So who gained out of this ? well its obvious she did she has worked for maybe one whole year of her life and now she is 28 and has half a million in the bank.

Now im sorry if people think you are a gold digger but you have to open your eyes to what happens alot people marry people split if you have worked for 20 years none stop in a good job and someone comes along you would want that person to have either done the same or not be 20 years younger (personaly i think thats just asking for trouble).

As i said why dont you try to meet people who are the same as you either in money or age that way you can build your fortune together and not just jump into somone else's ready made bed.

Like me and my partner we started with nothing and we work together to build on it neither depends on the other appart from for love.

You said its a man's job to support his woman and family well i think you will find peoples (men and women) attitude towards this has changed. Women fought for equal rights for along time wether it was equal rights at work, home or voting.

The part you say about your mother looking after your father well im sorry i dont think that is a service that has to be paid for I do belive marrage = Through sickness and in health till death do us part. So in my oppinion if your mother is only doing this because she got money out of it then god help all those poor people in relationships out there.

Well i know you wont give me best answer for this because ive probably offended you and the way you think. However you asked a question so i gave you an honest answer but from what you wrote it does sound like you are gold digging.

Hope this helps

Answer 3

because love doesn't pay bills love. You have to be able to provide for yourself in times when you don't have a good man to provide for you. Get your school education, make something special of your self, and find someone who has the same goals in mind as you. Men will be around forever, careers change every five minutes. Men can wait.

Answer 4

It's not the most important thing, but it's important. The most important thing is whether the two of you love each other, not whether you have a degree or he has a profitable career. Are you willing to accept a guy who does not make enough money so that you'll have to continue working the rest of your life?

Answer 5

Then go find a man who bothers less about college education, make him sign a document which clarifies that college education in not important and go on with life.

Dont bother wasting your youth and energy on those man. Its not worth it.

Answer 6

Not college education but college life is helpful to find a partner

Answer 7

Yep personality counts but most people prefer to be around folks that have qualifications because it means they have smarts. I can tell you I've come across some really dumb people with serious qualifications. It makes you wonder, but as we say in TnT common sense does not come from books.

Answer 8

actually i guess is the level of mentality n the compatibility...

becoz, thru education, allowed one person to see certain things in many different perspectives... n plus, u will be expose to sociology, psychology, n a lot of different modules in sch...

hence, pple with higher education have different thinking.. cause the goals are different.. pple are no longer that simple n contented.

is like, i always believe that i will not die with or without my bf.. n will be able to be independent even with kids..

so from the guy's pt of view is more on the same level of mentality.

n for me, a guy with a degree is more like a kind of stability n protection that i do not have to worry about whether he will bring the bread home...

n to me, a girl with a degree, is we can stand on our own feet n a mind of your own..

(haha~ i dunno... cause in singapore, an university degree grad is like everywhere?! is like a peer pressure here? n im not lying, go find yourself a singaporean penpal n u will know, young kids are forced to study whether we like it or not.. n my bf is 24 n im 23 n both of us just started our university life.. ARGH~)

Answer 9

It isn't about earning, it's about compatibility. People with vastly different educational backgrounds will rarely be compatible enough with one another to spend an entire happy lifetime together.

Sorry.

Answer 10

Cause that man will not always be there for you but that education will and it wil make you some money.