this is the typical age gap question. but I ask it for opinion purposes only. generally most people will say sex but the girl however is a virgin and he said he loved her first.
2006-08-19 06:01:54 · 54 answers · asked by ShySweetNSassy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe he wants the virgin in her & he thinks its worth waiting for!!..or oh my god maybe just maybe he really does love her could you imagine!..i really dont think age is that important as adults only in children..if shes 20 she is a mature adult and knows what shes doing!..and if its really you your asking this for then dont worry about it im sure he really loves you...either way if your friend loves this guy she needs to give him a chance regardless of what her friends or family say about him becasue when it all comes down to living the life..its hers to live!!...my mom is 8 years older than my step dad & they both love each other very much & have been married for 19 years!!
2006-08-19 06:06:00 · answer #1 · answered by CRYSTAL S 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am a 35 y/o man so I think I'm qualified to answer.... There are 3 things a 20 y/o woman can offer "generally" speaking.
1) Obviously SEX. The virgin thing probably doesn't mean much in his mind. If anything it's probably a bigger turn on to be her first.
2) Lack experience in life. Let's face it. A woman in her 30's has had more life experience and generally has established what kind of nonsense she's willing to accept and not accept from us boys. A 20 y/o woman - especially if she qualifies as emotionally needy - offers someone who will put up with quite a lot of his crap. At least more so than a woman more his age.
3) And thirdly, if the man is trying to start over in life.... She does offer a fresh start. If he is sincere, she offers a clean slate. Again, lack of experience means she doesn't have as much of her own issues by which she will judge him.
P.S. - A guy saying "I love you" is not a good gauge of his intentions. Consistent and continual actions proving he loves a woman is.
2006-08-19 06:18:53 · answer #2 · answered by Shaman 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fountain of youth, and SEX!!!
All men and most women have a crisis in their late 30's as they age.
More women than men want an inexperienced child as a spouse, but, usually, it fails as the burden, and the gap, are stifling! The youth can do no right, and the aged one is just getting older and more wrinkled... the youth encounters a generation gap as the older mate had their experiences, sowed their oats, and the youth is prevented from having any due to fears of the older one... seen it all 'a hundred times'!
So all that is left is the great sex, but, not with any love, more like resentment!
In a few cases, the situation is not one of love, it is one of opportunism, like the older person fulfilling a weird fantasy.
Sort of living their failed attempts, through the exploitation of the youth!
Sick. very sick. and bad, like a piece of fresh fish left out too long. it stinks! And, everyone around knows and avoids it, and no one will fix it.
2006-08-19 06:14:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is SEX!!! If she is a virgin then the cradle robber wants her for sex even more. More than likely this 35 year old scumbucket is a limpdick who can't satisfy a woman who has been with other men. As a result he thinks he will be a sex god with this unexperienced. . untapped virgin. She on the other hand. . . probably has a bad relationship with her father and is looking at this guy as a cool father figure. She might also be a lazy sell out who just wants someone to take care of her. Oh . . and as far as him saying he loves her. . . . well duh. . .most women become completely blind idiots when they hear those words. Good luck with your 35 year old man missy. . . . in ten years he'll trade you in for another 20 year old and you'll be left raising 3 kids.
2006-08-19 06:13:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A younger woman's body looks better. Most of the time. Older women tend to let them selfs go. Gain weight, are not physical there for stuff begins to hang and sag. It's not the sex, because older women can work it, they have more experience, and women don't een reach there sexual peak until they hit their 30's. It's a know fact. But being a 44 year old man, sex with most young women is more like training.
2006-08-19 07:01:03 · answer #5 · answered by Thomas B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well in my opinion I think it has a lot to do with learning from each other the older man can get closer to the modern way of life while the yonger woman can learn from her mates life experiece. By the way I am 23 years old and my boyfriend is 41. Also the older mate is most likely have a direction in life while younger men are still wild and don't know what they want
2006-08-19 06:12:42 · answer #6 · answered by Melinda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be an honest relationship. I'd be suspicious. If she is a virgin, and wants to "save herself" for marriage, she SHOULD NOT have sex with this guy just because he said he loves her. Anyone can say that. If not, and she wants to have sex, go ahead. Just don't be surprised if all he's really interested in is the sex. Of course, that is with any man.
2006-08-19 06:07:57 · answer #7 · answered by Yinzer from Sixburgh 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What 35 year old man WON'T say he loves a 20 year old to get her virginity? The question should be, what would a 20 year old want with a 35 year old man?
2006-08-19 06:07:52 · answer #8 · answered by D. A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants a partner, love, and children, probably. A good love life is good to, to a point. The question is, what does a 20 yr old woman want with a 35 yr old man? Money, security, experience?
2006-08-19 06:51:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is such a thing as true love. It happens. I am reminded of the case of the teacher who loved the boy student and they put her in prison for it and after she got out they got married. I am sure the news would have had a field day if they had divorced, so I presume they are still happily married. Indeed men sometimes, in fact too often, attach themselves to much younger females just for carnal enjoyment but there is definitely true love. It is a beautiful thing anywhere, any time, and at any age.
2006-08-19 06:08:53 · answer #10 · answered by jxt299 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PERFECT that is exactly what he is thinking...
She hasn't experienced as much life as him, she is beautiful, young, and a virgin too. No wonder this guy said he loved her she will make him feel young again. I don't think it is the best for her except the fact that he is settled in and prbly got money, nice car, perhaps a house blah blah blah. It probably won't last a hell of a long time because of unforseable differences but I wish them the best of luck!
2006-08-19 06:09:31 · answer #11 · answered by Beano4aReason 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋