What do you think would be the main challenges and hurdles in a relationship between these two, i know that there are the obvious ones like praying etc but what about cultural differences?
2006-08-19 05:53:13 · 16 answers · asked by cowgirl80 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
It's not about me, i am happily single! Apparently the guy is not a strict muslim, ie, drinks alcohol etc....i am just a bit worried for my friend from other things i have heard so wanted an all round response.
2006-08-19 06:03:35 · update #1
thanks lindalu, he is arabic and does behave in the way you mentioned, i feel really worried for my friend as he already seems jealous of her lifestyle and friends but want her to see for herself what people are saying and it is not me just being judgemental.
2006-08-19 08:04:53 · update #2
Well, first of all in Islam a man is not allowed to marry an Atheist. He can only marry a woman who believes in one God, whether she calls him Yaweh, Allah, God. So it would be hard for you to be acceted into his family and friends. Another thing is the children resulting from the union would have to be brought up Muslim. This might be hard for the Atheist to accept. As far as cultural, this depends on where he is from. You have Muslims from every walk of life. Another thing as far as this goes is that none of his earnings could go towards the purchase of anything Haram(forbidden) like pork or alcohol. And she(the Atheist) would have to accept everything first and realize that some things might be really hard, like not being invited to Islamic Holidays, or having a hard time with his family which in all honesty could go so far as to tell him to divorce her. She would really have to put up with a lot as would he. And beware, when children are in the picture, both parties might change their minds about how they want to raise the children. She might say that it is fine to raise them as Muslims but after they are born, have a total change of heart, he might actually start to be more religious and not as accepting of her beliefs (or non-beliefs as the case may be) At any rate they have a lot to think and talk about. It would also be impossible to find an Imam to properly marry the two so in Islam the union might not be recognized.
came back to add......i have seen a lot of arab men come over here, start to live the "western" life (drink, party, wear gold, stop praying, fornicate) Generally these men are away from home and have nobody looking after them, if they were back home, everybody would know about their behavior and scold them for it. HOWEVER, this can go two ways mostly it will go BAD! As in when the children from the marriage are born, he might realize what all he has done, sort of like shock therapy, and then all H#ll breaks loose! Or if his family wants to see him, and he goes back and they talk to him then it can be bad too, also the children could suffer.Sorry
the other way it could go is well, and I hope for the latter!
2006-08-19 06:13:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Dear Cowgirl Muslims are not allowed to marry Athiest and Pagans. They can have relationship with the Children of the Books and i.e. Jews and Christians.
2006-08-19 06:03:47 · answer #2 · answered by A K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She must be a beleiver in God (Allah), but she does not have to be a Muslim.
Cultures are more about geography, rather than religion. Where is he from? As he will probably have the culture of where he/his family is from. A big thing is made of culture, but it is what you make of it. Look up culture, and it will say something like,
" way of doing things"..........is ther a right or wrong way........? Just do what you feel is right...........
Good luck.....
2006-08-19 06:04:30 · answer #3 · answered by Aristotle 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Technically speaking no, muslim women at the instant are not allowed to marry outdoors of their faith. Muslim adult males are inspired to take non-muslim women and convert them, notwithstanding.
2016-10-02 07:06:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This'll be fun! He'll expect, especially in front of his family, the girl to be extremely compliant, silent, and dutiful. Of course, if he is devout. But he wouldn't be marrying an Aetheist, not without having her genuinely convert to Islam anyway. Fancy learning the Koran?
2006-08-19 06:01:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Muslim men will often expect women to submit to him, and will generally treat women as inferiors. Most atheist women (me included) would find this unacceptable, and would dump the the guy as soon as he started trying to make decisions for the couple by himself. Personally, you have to have a really great relationship to marry someone with such radically different views.
2006-08-19 06:01:39 · answer #6 · answered by reverenceofme 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Muslims are beyond reason. They treat their women like cattle, like beasts of burden. It has to be THEIR way or not at all. A relationship between a free thinking person and a mulim is TOTALLY unworkable- unless the muslim is going to get his own way all the time, of course.
If she is not a muslim, he no doubt ALREADY thinks she is lower than dirt. It just will not work. She should be ashamed of herself.
2006-08-19 06:09:13 · answer #7 · answered by Not Ecky Boy 6 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Just wait until that ring is on your finger and he's got you living in a mud hut in the old country - beating the sh*t outta you. They always change when on their own turf. I read about this kinda stuff all the time.
2006-08-19 21:36:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Unsustainable relationship.
2006-08-19 05:59:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
THAT RELATIONSHIP WOULD BE IMPOSSIBLE.. A MUSLIM MAN CAN ONLY MARRY A FELLOW MUSLIM OR CHRISTIAN. IF HE HIS A TRUE PRACTICING MUSLIM. JUST LIKE CHRISTIANITY YOU MUST REMAIN EQUALLY YOKED FOR IT TO BE SPIRITUALLY SUCCESSFUL
2006-08-19 06:00:52 · answer #10 · answered by casz1968 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋