i miss my dad...?

Question

ok my dad died when i was 3 and now im 15, i miss him coz no body is here to call me princess or tell me what to do. i really miss him!! i was taken away from my family around 4 coz of something really bad my grandmother did, and had to go to court, now i have no idea if my mom, my sister or anyone in my family is even still alive, and this is why im so self loathing and even have an eating disorder.. but i really miss him, i just wish i could be a normal teenager, i usually blame his death for everythig that went wrong in my life.

Answer 1

So sorry to hear of your situation princess, if I may call you that. I am widowed daddy of two myself, girls 14 and 13. If you just want to talk sometime or unload you can reach me through email here at this site, that way it's secure for you and it's blind mail ok. Most of my kids friends call me "daddy" several are from broken homes and either don't see their real dads, only the step dad or just feel more comfortable with calling me that. At any rate I can promise you this I would get onto you if you needed it but still listen attentively just like I do mine. But at any rate trust the fact there are people who care and want to see you succeed at whatever your heart desires. I wish I could erase the pain from your heart but as we know no one can but try to look down the road and see the bright future ahead of you, do your best in school and you not only can but will go far in life with your head held high and a beautiful smile on your face. If you want to try and find your sisters there are ways to do so. So please don't give up all hope, OK. There's always a brighter future than anything we have ever been through already. Take care and write if you need to and do me one favor, PLEASE, never ever under any circumstances blame yourself for anything that went wrong when you were a little child, it's not your fault or responsibility, you are not the cause of problems but instead a wonderful gift from God to a family who had some problems they didn't know how to handle.

Answer 2

You can't blame yourself for your father's death. That is a normal reaction. Don't ever blame yourself. For one your were only 3 years old and another death is a normal part of life.

You have been through a lot and I am sorry to hear that. I can feel some of your pain, I have been through a lot of abusive trauma in my life too and yes it led to eating disorders.

You may think it, but you are a normal teenager. Everyone has problems and there are girls your age that have problems like yours if not worse.

When I was 15 I thought that I was abnormal. I had post traumatic stress syndrome and I suffered from depression as well as social anxiety disorder. The sad thing is, my parents did not notice that something was severely wrong with me.

I went to a counselor when I was 18 and that is how I found out what was wrong.

I would suggest seeing a counselor. If you are 15, I am sure you still have a caseworker if you are adopted or a foster child. I may be wrong. I would suggest talking to your caseworker if you have one and seeing about seeing a counselor. You may even have to be put on antidepressants for a while. That is not a bad thing. Antidepressants will help you get your life back on track because you will start feeling better about things and you will be able to start thinking more logically.

You don't want your depression or your eating disorder to get out of hand

Answer 3

I really dont know where to begin nor can anything that I say change what you are going through. I know that I feel for you. Im going through some tough times myself I am an older person (50) years of age and I just had a daughter who just turned 3 my dilema is that I was diagnozed with a very advanced terminal diesase Lymphoma (Cancer) I've been to two doctors the first told me that I could die tomorrow, next week, next month or next year. The second doctor went by the medical statistics they use for this kind of sickness and basically rounded it off to 3 years and told me to get all my personal affects in order I am now nearing the three years. There isnt one day that I do not think of my little angel and how it will affect her life when my time comes and im no longer there for her or whether I will be there long enough to see her grow shes the youngest of four. Am I bitter no, that was just the hand that I was dealt from a stack of cards. The cycle of life goes on. Just embrace it and take it all in and run with it. Live your life as If your father was there for you. beleive it or not he's still within you in so many ways right down to your DNA. Life is too short to put it on hope and just wonder why if this why if that? why if my anunt were built differently she'd be my uncle. Father time waits for nobody. As for trying to locate your loved ones try your city clerks offices, public records through birth cirtificates etc. try the internet websites. Live your life to the fullest. (in a positive way). Live healthy. Get counciling if you wish it. Stop the grieving and begin the healing process someday you yourself are going to want to have a healthy family. Just dont throw the towel in and call it quits you have too much to look foward to.

Answer 4

It is unfortunate that you had circumstances that you had no control of. The sad part is you can not rewind the tape and have a second chance with your father. Perhaps there is an agency that is out in your community that would help you locate other relatives. The road you are on currently could be self destructing to you. Hope you get the help or advice you seek. Both of my parents died 3 years ago and only 10 days apart. I was lucky enough to have known them for 39 years, and that never seems enough.

Answer 5

You have to remember that your father wants the best for you even after his death. He would not want you to be sitting there hating yourself or feeling the way you do. Honor him by reaching the goals that you know he wanted for you. I do not know you personally but if you had a father that you loved and that loved you and made you the center of his universe then I am sure that he wants only the best for you. Honor his memory by being making yourself happy and becoming a great person. You cannot change whatever your grandmother or mother or sisters are doing you can only live your life in his eyes and honoring him. Keep his mamory alive by doing what is best for yourself. I do not know how you are doing in school but make sure you work hard and get your education and go on to college and chose a carreer that you can be both happy in and honor him. Maybe since you have gone through in your short life you could become a child counselor. get involved in a program for children that you can be their mentor. It will help you and them. Once again be proud of yourself. And make him proud.

Answer 6

Death is a fact of life that we have nothg to do about?sometimes its unfair but i believe that God always has a better plan for us! may be your dad died and you have been taken away from your family but you for sure still have yourself you can be the person you want with or without people around you!i know family is a very important thing but be good and remember that one day you will have a man to love you and together you will both have a sweet family where you can give your love to it!until then work for it and be patient and wait till the right person with whom you will build your own family knocks your door! don't let something you have no hand to do affects you,you deserve to be happy and i bet that there are plenty of people around you loves you so much and if not create great relationships through being a perfect person!i bet you are !

Answer 7

dont put yourself down, ıts hard ı know cause my dad was murdered when ı was 15. I am now 26 but ıt stıll remember seeıng my dad bound and gagged wıth blood on hıs lıps, not a day goes by that I wısh I had spent more tıme wıth hım. I keep thınkıng maybe ıt would have been easıer ıf he had dıed a natural death rather than beıng murdered. But these are all tests that the lord gıves us, all we can do ıs lıve on, pray for our departed loved ones and spend as much tıme as we can wıth the ones that are alıve. Because lıfe ıs short, ıt seems just lıke yesterday my dad used to take me on hıs bıke for ıce creams. Its probably more dıffıcult for you because you may not have any memorıes of hım.

Answer 8

be happy, don't let that stop you from anything you want in life. You miss him, i understand, but an eating disorder makes you even more miserable. Just pray to whomever you believe in to have your family still alive and try to make best out of life because everything is just worse when all you think about is the horrible things in the past.

Answer 9

My dad left when i was 6 i did not hear from him till i was 18 the
the harder-st time i had the idea of seeing everybody with a dad
and their laughing and having fun and i looked at that i wanted it
but i did not get it and still this day i miss it but i did not let it get me down and i know that my father loves me very much even though he is it there he still dose.

Answer 10

Oh dear girl, life is a b i t c h at times, and you should grow up to be a srong woman, someone yr dad wud be proud off, dont dwell on the past, no regrets, yr dad wouldnt want to see his princess having disorders and being the weak one, no, put yr chin up, you are strong,study well, get a god job, and look fr yr family.