I've had an ongoing relationship with this guy for over a year now, more of just a "casual sex" relationship, but we have feelings or each other. (read my other posts) We've always kinda given each other mixed signals but he's opened up to me ALOT since I first met him. He's sorta the silent romantic type whereas he'll show he cares through his actions. Well now I know why he didn't want to get too serious with someone too soon, so he wouldn't get hurt and someone else (me) wouldn't get hurt...
He's from a different state and was transferred here because of a job. He's mentioned awhile back that he was thinking about going back home to be with friends and family. Well just lastnight, he mentioned it again, and just then I remembered that his lease is up by the end of this month! When he told me, it got silent, I didn't say anything, just pretty much said, yah. I couldn't help but tear up a lil bit, but he didn't see me, and I didn't want to start being a drama queen. He could just tell that I got quiet, so he was trying to laugh with me, which made me laugh, so I started to forget about it. It was still in the back of my head, but I didn't bring it up again. I wanted to show him that I was strong. As we were talking he asked again where I got my rings, (he asked before not too long ago). Which I thought was odd because he doesn't usually ask questions like that. So I'm not sure where he was going with that...could that be some sorta hint? I was kinda in shock the whole time so I wasn't really talking much, but I had so much on my mind, and I wish I would've told him how I felt, but I thought he already knew...since about 6 months ago I wanted to be more with him, and he said he wasn't ready..well now I understand why.
I've always known that it's hard for him to show emotions because he has this protective shield around him, which I've learned came from a troubled childhood. Even lastnight when we were watching a movie, I was sitting on the couch, although I was taking up alot of room, (he was sitting in a chair) and I asked him if he wanted to lay down..he said no I'm alright. So I was like hmm..then 5 minutes later he came and sat next to me. I wanted to cuddle with him SO bad, but I was just happy he was sitting next to me. So it's always seemed like to me that I have to make the first move in order for him to open up..
Anyways, I don't know what he thought of me not spilling my emotions lastnight, but like I said I didn't want to appear "needy", I wanted to show him that I had a good head on my shoulders. BUT I kinda regret not opening up to him...but at that point I was kinda scared of how he would react, and I was filled with mixed emotions too, so I wanted everything to come out right. I'll probably see him again IF he decides to move, but how should I approach things? What should I tell him? Since he feels more comfortable with me making the first moves, what should I do? I want him to know that I really care and love him, what's the best approach? I think time is running out, hopefully he doesn't move, but what if he does..I'll really miss him.
2006-08-19 05:44:49 · 14 answers · asked by feisty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry this is so long, I didn't realize it until I posted it. And please don't be harsh..I need your support. Thanks guys.
2006-08-19 05:55:31 · update #1
Just tell him how you feel, he's leaving anyways so what do you have to lose? Maybe he's waiting for you to say something because he's to shy to and doesn't want to appear weak. You both might miss out on a great relationship with eachother because both of you are to worried about appearing weak to the other. If you can't tell him how you feel about him because your worried about his reaction then is this the kind of relationship you really want? Just tell him how you feel and see what happens, just be subtle about it. Good Luck.
2006-08-19 06:03:05 · answer #1 · answered by CLM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Monsieur Romeo shall try to help :D
I say you should tell him how you feel, like say " *name*, I love you etc........" then tell him "but" you feel awkward always making the first move, if he's had a troubled childhood try making him feel more secure about your relationship by tell him how much you care about him (Note: I said tell him how much you care about him, not how much he means to you) there is a big difference cause the later implies that you need him while the former implies that he needs you. And so I end here, I give you my blessings and hope things go well.
P.S: IM me hussen31 if you need any more info. :D
2006-08-19 12:56:08 · answer #2 · answered by Romeo31 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want something in your life, you have to go get it your self.
you are not being honest with him. tell him what is on your mind and what you want. get everything out in the open. if he does not respond the way you would like. , it also does not matter, because why would you want to be with someone that does not realize you are the best in his world your world ............
2006-08-19 12:57:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To long to read
2006-08-19 12:50:19 · answer #4 · answered by joesy617 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yours is a strory book.
In the end all that ends, ends well.
2006-08-19 12:50:39 · answer #5 · answered by Haresh Bhagia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Quite a psychic case... you are confused... if you want him...extend a hand and grab him, and if you don't..ask him to get lost....
2006-08-19 12:50:12 · answer #6 · answered by Fraud 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that you would like to continue with the relationship....because you care for him....
I also tough of the words ...I am sorry......
2006-08-19 12:53:18 · answer #7 · answered by JTB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him know you really care. let him know that you would rather that he stayed. more tips and articles on dating and love on this site
2006-08-19 12:51:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say you are sorry. oops copycat answer hehe.
2006-08-19 12:53:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say "(his name) don't move away i'm sorry"
2006-08-19 12:52:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋