ive got a 3 yr old son and a 13 yr old daughter. anybody got any ideas on how to make them behave? please help

Question

when i come home its like coming home to a war zone. its reall getting me down. am i the only one in this situation or are there others out there? please help before i give them up for adoption.

people are saying i must have been like this as a child. but according to my dear mum i was the best kid ever it was my brother that was a little s**t

Answer 1

no adoption is nessecary, just take away something they like (tv, video games , toy's) and tell them they'll get it back when they start to behave and listen

Answer 2

Tricky age 13 upwards for a girl, I can see the 3 year old demanding on her attention and possessions, why not try giving the 13 year old her space, has she got her own bedroom if not then let her be in there by herself with her music or something for an hour or so and give the 3 year old some colouring to do. I have a 16 year old daughter along with a 5 year old, so I know where you are coming from, a bit of segregation for a while.

Answer 3

I have an 11 year old daughter & a 4 year old Son.
They have just started argueing over pathetic things & my Son likes to tell tales on her for no reason etc..
I think its part of siblings growing up together, they learn how far they can push their brothers/ sisters & parents. You need to be firm with them & when they battle, why not take something away such as TV or games console etc until they agree to be reasonable. It does work sometimes but not every time, plus shouting & smacking doesnt work cus they will blame each other when one gets told off!
also spend individual time with each child instead of doing stuff all together.
not forgetting its the school holidays & kids get bored very easily. Dont worry they will soon be back at school / nursery.
Good luck - I know exactly where your coming from.

Answer 4

Have you ever heard of spanking? Try appling a paddle to their bottoms. And yes that means the 13 year old as well, if she wants to act like a 2 year old then treat her as such. You put that paddle to their bottoms a few times and they will learn the proper way to act!

Before you do this, set down with them both, let them know there are going to be some rules made and FOLLOWED! If they are not followed then there will a punishment for not minding. Then let them know what that punishment is. And what ever you do, stick WITH IT at all cost!! You will soon see the difference them, I promise you!!!

Answer 5

tell 3 yr old he is not allowed in his sisters room ,so she can go there and he wont annoy her .
The 13 yr old is old enough to explain that little brother is still growing up and to try have some patience with ,it is hard as the younger children dont understand that they are being pests to siblings.
my daughter is 6 and thinks she can have and do anything her 13 yr old brother can .
He knows when he has a game or item she will want to let her see it same with sweets she wont just take one she wants whole lot.
when they are fighting they are told to go to their rooms and not go near one another until they behave or the eldest is told to go out with friends .

Answer 6

I feel ya. Let me tell you a story. Before I went to work the other morning (Kids up by 6am) I took her out side to hit a couple of balls. Now she is four so she got tired and told me she wanted to go in the house. I said "well grad your bat and ball and lets go". She then said "no". So I took her bat and ball and threw it in the neighbors yard and explained to her that we are giving her bat and ball to the neighbors. She told me she wanted to keep her bat and ball. She went and got the bat and ball and we went inside, watched a sponge bob DVD and then I went to work. The point is that I never raised my voice I just gave her a choice and she knows that I do not give in. That bat and ball would have been a new toy for the neighbors. Her mother (My wonderfull love of my life) would have gone out and replaced it thus making the equilibrium that is important in a relationship but that kid knows that she ain't getting away with anything. Its the only part of America that is a dictatorship. My house.

Answer 7

Your daughter needs her own space away from her little brother. Because little brother wont's to be with her all the time,doing what she's doing ,going where she go's because he looks up to her,and that's how he gets her attention. But sis doesn't wont her little brother all up in her business. Shes got her own things to do. And you need to look it was just the three of you before your son came, maybe your daughter is a little jealous of sharing her parents, maybe you need to get a sitter for your son and you and your wife and daughter go do something together.

Answer 8

Don't give them a spanking! Especially the 13 year old girl she will hate you, even worse. As for the girl its not much you can do just talk to her she is a teen, enough said. But as for the 3 year old its not to late to discipline him, without touching him. Take away toys and sweets. Take something from the girl maybe her cell phone. Until they get the picture.GOOD LUCK!

Answer 9

I have a 9 year old son and just got married. My wife came with a 17 year old sister. THey fight and bicker like real siblings. I have had to sit them both down and explain what is expected of them. It should be easier with the older one, but sometimes the younger one has more common sense.

If I were you would tlk it over with your daughter and tell her that she is setting an example for her brother. He is younger and he will do things that will upset her, but she has to act her age and deal with it.

Good Luck

I would also sit the little one down and tell him he needs to get along with his sister. You will have to use smaller words, but you can get the point accross.

Answer 10

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Answer 11

lol start acting like a parent.. punishments, consequences for their actions and follow through.. it may take awhile to get it through their head but if u keep standing ur ground they will listen.. stop being such a pansy with ur kids, kids need discipline and they need structure .. along with love.. stop being their friend, and start being a parent, gain their respect, once they respect u, then the rest will be easy.. find a fitting punishment, and show them who is boss and that they need to listen to what u say.. and hold to it.. even when u dont feel like it, eventually u'll be able to just say , Stand in the corner , or go to ur room , or whatever with out lifting a finger once they realize that u mean business