And I notice that my mom is closer to my sister and her kids than she is to me. I get kind of upset about it because they seem to have a bond that I wish I could have sometimes. They make it seem like it's supernatural but i know it is just because they live so close and spend so much time together. How do i tell them i dont want to hear about all the storys about how close they are..>>???
2006-08-19 04:46:36 · 11 answers · asked by Holly G 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
but they ARE closer. i am sure they wish you were there, just as you wish you were too... it is reality. how can you not understand that? i am so much closer to my daughter, who lives 20 miles away from me..because we can still experience life together, than with my son who lives 3000 miles away. We hardly speak and when we do its an occasion! but its not the same as us being together. i must say that i love him not one iota less. i just share more memories with my daughter and her kids than with him and his! and boy, do i wish he were here...i haven't seen him in 5 years. and you can only assume they wish you were there hanging out with them...you sound a bit guilty for not being there. just accept their stories and make your own, happy family, where ever YOU are. blessings
2006-08-19 05:08:16 · answer #1 · answered by Carmella R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can sooooooo relate to this! Whenever they start with the "aren't we cute and wonderful" stories smile and say something like, "that's great it reminds me of ____", and then go off on a story of your own. Or you could say, "oh, I have to run, maybe some other time?", and just leave. If you do things like that every time they'll get the message.
My condolences. It's unfortunate we can't choose our families.
2006-08-19 04:54:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if its your moms love you seek then talk to her or adopt attitudes that will make her fond of you like getting in touch more times to leave a mark on her mind. gifts also work but not as visitation.dialogue is the best way to solve issues
you dont necessarily have to tell them dat. you just have to put on a sturn face whenever they raise such issues.
2006-08-19 04:58:46 · answer #3 · answered by MissyFlexsy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure you don't hear about all their falling outs either, if you lived close to them , you would be drawn in on every little spat and they do happen, be thankful and realize you are an adult and life promises you nothing. if they are trying to encite jealousy in you , they are telling you they miss your being involved and are trying to draw you back in, it's a compliment of sorts.
2006-08-19 04:57:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
rethink your ? because you sound like jealous i think instead of you saying you dont want to hear the stories focus on things you would like to do with each of them separate or together
2006-08-19 04:57:51 · answer #5 · answered by queen2be 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think ur just jealous sorry for such word but she is ur sis u should be happy they are close.Try calling often and u will see that things will change.GOOOD LUCK to u girl.
2006-08-19 04:56:08 · answer #6 · answered by JLY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holly, It's only natural. Just let them know, they're probably doing it without second intentions.
2006-08-19 04:54:23 · answer #7 · answered by virgilio costa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretty much like that, Holly. You can tell them that it disturbs you and makes you homesick when they go on and on...If they're heartless, they will continue and YOU will know what their motivation is!
2006-08-19 04:51:51 · answer #8 · answered by westgaliberty 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you don't- you tell them you envy the closeness of their relationship and regret that you live so far away.
then you try to be happy for them...
2006-08-19 04:53:12 · answer #9 · answered by R J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u can try to move at least in the same county
2006-08-19 04:51:04 · answer #10 · answered by Tierra c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋