My Boyfreind has kept letters and photos of x girlfriends. This really annoys me why does he do it?

Question

I found photos of my boyfreinds ex girlfrind under his bed, there were loads of them and framed. why has he kept them when he's with me? do men always do that

Answer 1

I'm 41 and still have letters and pictures of old girlfriends.When I look at them (maybe once every 5 years) they bring back sweet memories.There is nothing wrong with that in my opinion.

Answer 2

I also have had this problem with a new boyfriend he has every card letter and photo of 2 or 3 of his ex's. I really had a hard time reading them, it was like ok what if i want to give him a card or letter damn what should i say SHE said it all, all the same feelings all the same i love you's why does he need a card or letter from me he has hers to look at. Really the photos don't bother me as much as the the cards and letters do. I know she was a part of his life and at some point they had happy times together. I love photographs to help me remember the happy times in my life so i can forgive the photos BUT damn the i love you and happy annyversy cards. makes me feel like i don't need to express my feels in a card to him.
Anyways i'm not sure how to solive this problem. I'd think if he loves you he should box the old crap up and stuff it up in the attic then someday when you find it pitch it out cos maybe he had forgot about it lol lets hope!

Answer 3

I personally think that a guy has the right to keep memories of his first girlfriend, and just because he still has them doesn't mean he thinks about his ex-girlfriends. I don't think this should be a problem in your relationship unless he keeps looking at the pictures and reading the letters. But of course, if it really irritates you, you could either let him know or just break up with him, although I don't think that would be worth it.

Answer 4

Alot of guys do that. My boyfriend has tons of pictures of all of his exes...BUT I be damned if he would have that **** in a frame. I wouldn't go for that. I would tell him to put them in a photo album or shoebox or something. I feel that if a person has pictures out in a frame where anybody can see them when they come to your home, then that means the person in the frame is someone that you really care about or is of some importance to them in their life right now. I would tell him to take those down. Does he have pictures of you up in a frame?

Answer 5

My 92 yr old grandtather who was married for 60 yrs before my grandmother died, died and we found photos of his ex-girlfriends from the 1920's. Photos are a link to a persons past. All photos are meant to be saved. You might be too immature to understand this, but maybe your boyfriend does. Some day you will be old and it is nice to have things to remind you of a time when you were young.

Answer 6

dont think its guys only, some girls do too. well speaking for myself I still have loads of my ex's photos, we travelled extensively world wide and had great pictures taken some together and some on my own and to me its daft destroying his and leaving mine cos every time I look at them he will still cross my mind because we were there together so wot's the point. everyone has some sort of fond memories fo their exs and thats just what they are memories. it would be different if someone was always talking about their ex, then oh yes! they'd be out thru the nearest exit. remember its his past that has made him into the man you love.

Answer 7

Don't try to confront or control him over this, he won't appreciate it. These are reminders to him of the good times he had before you. They are an important part of his memories, and even if he loves you, some small piece of him hasn't stopped loving them. You took him on, these are part of the baggage that comes with him. I have a prescious picture of an ex-faincee, my wife now understands - she has a son from her previous marriage. That's baggage!
It is churlish to ask him to throw them out, you may as well ask him to throw out part of the life that made him the man you are in love with. Let him hang them on the wall of his den or workshop, give him his space, and don't go nuts over a pretty girl on a calendar, either. Guys are visual, it's bred into us.
Get glammed-up, and get some hot pictures of yourself taken and framed for him. Tell them they are for his collection. He'll be thrilled!

Answer 8

I am a lady, I have kept letters and photes of every ex, and past too, and I love taking pictures, and will keep it forever, the past contain life knowledge and make us grow, some time I would like to throw away some pictures that remind me of the worst time in my life, but I just look at it smilely and pround of myself that I was great that I had been through it.There is nothing wrong of keeping the pictures but if keep looking at it, then there will be something wrong! ;-D

Answer 9

If she was his first and true love and the shock of sepration is still ther, then he will keep it for few years, say 1-2 years.

But your love should compell him to destroy them, not your words.
If you ask him to destroy the picture, he may feel bad and may turn against you.

Guys do it like this. Sometimes it help...

And ya, if your love make a impact on his heart, you can be happy, that he will keep your pictures also, if two of you break apart.
Being in the memory of someone, is going to be a great pleasue.

Answer 10

i dont agree i dont feel nothing 4 any of my exs but i still keep photos/letters not sure why because im over them.hes with you now and as long as you trust him then forget about the photos or ask him why hes kept them