He does it at least once a week, anyone out there have any suggestions on how she could get him to stop?
2006-08-19 04:08:53 · 20 answers · asked by Estelle L 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
STAY CALM, AND DON'T PANIC!
This is a big concern, since he will be in kindergarten. She may have to keep him out of school if he persists. Some boys get caught up in play and don't pay attention to that urge until its too late. He may have that problem. If he's outdoors alot, she should watch him, and bring him in every so often so that the toilet is available. Make sure he doesn't wear clothing with complicated closures, that may deter his desire to go to the bathroom. A snap instead of a button on his pants is best. Becareful of the zipper! Don't punish him if it happens, but he should be made to clean his pants if it does.
2006-08-19 04:18:00 · answer #1 · answered by Shinigami 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He may have a problem controlling his reflexes. I would suggest she talks to her GP and Health Visitor and requests a referral to the encoporetic clinic. This is a specialist clinic set up to deal with issues like soiling and wetting (either during day or night time). I would strongly urge you to not make too much of a fuss (ie with punishment, especially smacking) when it happens, but to be very calm and tell the child that it is not their fault and it doesn't matter. Give lots of love and encouragement. You don't mention, but is this his only bowel movement of the week? He could also be suffering from constipation so encourage lots of fluids, fibre, fruit and veg in his diet. When a child becomes constipated, the motion may form a bung in their rectum and the newer motions further up in the bowel can pass round them as diarrhoea.
2006-08-21 00:47:05 · answer #2 · answered by Daisy the cow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is 11 now and he used to do the same thing up until he was about 9. I questioned the doctor and they look at you like you're crazy, like why isn't he potty-trained and believe me that's all I did. I punished him several times for it too. Since nobody would take me serious I just stuck it out and now he never does it anymore. I'll probably never know if it was medical or just pure laziness. I wish I could give you something more to go on but, I wouldn't let it rest. Maybe take him to a specialist to see if it is something serious. Does he ever go on the potty? Does he say it's an accident? I wish you the best of luck in finding an answer!!
2006-08-19 07:00:23 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is your friends son worried about anything is he being bullied. I suggest she has a chat with the doctor to to rule anything medical.
She could also try using a sticker chart give a sticker for every time he uses the toilet and give him a treat every time he gets to 10 stickers. It doesnt have to be anything big a trip to the park or somthing it doesnt have to cost much. Maybe a toy or comic once a week just to keep him keen on the idea.
Good Luck to her
2006-08-19 05:11:09 · answer #4 · answered by Claire U.K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think sometimes kids that age just get so involved in some activity they don't want to stop what their doing to go to the bathroom. If I had a quarter for every time my bf's little girl (also 5) doesn't have to go, but 5 minutes after we get in the car she says she's about to pee her pants. I don't think at that age they have a concept of time, "timing" when to go, when it will be too late. I think it's just something to grow out of.
2006-08-19 04:20:34 · answer #5 · answered by msuzyq 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
His dilemma is being in the wrong place at the wrong time.
That is, when he needs to do a poo he is too far from the loo.
Give consideration to his diet. A specific meal that he has ate prior to the pants poo may be responsible.
Is he at school, being afraid to visit - or ask to visit the loo may be a factor also.
2006-08-19 04:18:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my son is now 11 and still suffers but we have found that by reducing the amount of milk and even changing milk to soya or goats helps.but yelling and shouting dose not work at all yes he needs to be told its wrong just keep ask him if he needs the loo check when he last went it gets better as they grow up but as parents you need to find away but never show him up in front of friends kids never forget and it could make thing worse
2006-08-19 04:28:56 · answer #7 · answered by 234woody 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know a 50 year old drunk who has the same problem.
I shall keep a eye on the rest of the answers in case I can help him!
2006-08-19 04:14:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
sounds like ADHD any other warning signs like obsessional behaviour hyper-activity, hiding defecant under the couch. if so doctor referal diagnose by specialist offer ritalin, say no and cut out all additives flavourings and junk from diet.
2006-08-19 04:23:23 · answer #9 · answered by nuclear farter 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop saying, 'There, there, there my little clever angel. We are just animals, how would you stop a cat or a dog? foundations, they should be of concrete not sand, children are not made oif glass, but they become so if the wrong building methods are used.
2006-08-19 04:21:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋