when do u talk to them and see them
2006-08-19 04:04:08 · 10 answers · asked by BrownSugar 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
If you are referring to a long distance relationship while they are gone and you are still at home.... It is probably the most trying situation a couple can go through. It test every aspect of trust and relationship issues.
now, if you are married - its not as bad. Still not easy by any means, but at least you're together and not trying to develop a relationship over the phone and through emails.
Married service members are very well taken care of weather their spouse is deployed or not. Any thing from job placement to support groups [things not offered to girlfriends].
One thing you have to remember is - if your spouse is in the military , you are in the military.
I'm not saying getting married is the only way things will ever work, but I can certainly attest to the difficulties of being in the military and trying to maintain a relationship with someone you hardly ever see.
2006-08-19 04:19:26 · answer #1 · answered by AJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Navy Girlfriend
2016-09-30 12:25:01 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my husband was stationed on a ship, I saw a lot less of him. The ship was usually out at least a couple weeks out of a month, (Not all ships are like that. Some are out more then others, some are out less then others) and while on his six month deployment, we didn't see each other at all. We could talk on the phone, email and write letters. It was really hard. He missed the birth of our first child together.
When he was up for orders this last time, he either had to go back to a ship or take orders somewhere that was considered sea duty (They don't have to be on a ship for it to be considered sea duty) and we decided that we didn't want to have to deal with another deployment now, so we took orders overseas here in Italy. The Command he is with still requires him to travel and be away from home (He is a tech, and he either is flown out to a ship that is at sea and has equipment that needs repaired, they fly him out by helicopter, or if the problem isn't too serious, he will wait until the ship pulls in to a port here in Europe or Bahrain and then meet the ship and fix the problem) He is away a lot, but not nearly as much as he was when he was stationed on a ship. Sometimes the kids and I can even meet up or go with him if it's a ship in port, and we just vacation there in that country for a few days.
But when he is home, his job is pretty normel. He leaves by 6:30 a.m. and is home usually by 3:30 or 4 in the afternoon, and he has weekends off. He does have to stand duty, but that's only once every few weeks, and unlike people on a ship, he does get to come home on duty nights.
We can't complain, because considering all the Military Members who are separated from their families due to this war, or just other Navy families that are separated from each other because of regular six month deployments, we are very lucky. When it comes down to it, even when my husband does have to go away for weeks at a time, we still have him around a lot more then other Military Families have their loved one around. I pretty much get to sleep next to my husband every night, and he gets to tuck our children into bed. We feel very blessed because of that.
2006-08-19 07:15:03 · answer #3 · answered by Naples_6 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband is retired Navy. It can be a hard life due to the deployments but if you truly love him, you will get thru it. It is just as hard on him as it is on you.
Computers are great when they are deployed. Sending emails, ecards, etc. My husband was also able to call me on a regular basis. Then there is also the old fashioned (and my personal favorite) regular mail. I have a box full of letters and cards that he sent to me. I wouldn't trade them for anything. I also would send him lots of packages with the things he enjoys.
It can work it you want it to work.
Good luck! : )
2006-08-19 04:14:06 · answer #4 · answered by bonjovigroupie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is hard. You have to give and take. Be ready for them to be gone alot. Be ready for a midnight phone call saying "You need to be ready in such in such time, you are getting deployed."
Not alot of support if you are just his girlfriend, alot of support if you are a wife. Know that once you start seeing someone in the military, you are in the military too!!! If you aren't ready for that than I would suggest not dating anyone who's in the military.
2006-08-19 06:16:42 · answer #5 · answered by Just Me 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well im an Infantry(us army) "Rock of the Marne"..Fiancee and yes its hard for me...we barely get to talk...our letters take days sometimes weeks.I love him and miss him..thats how we keep on going...our love keeps us strong...
2006-08-21 01:54:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they call you when ever they get the chance. and you see them every time their in town or they get leave. now if your married to one then you move in with him in special housing that they have at the base depending were his stationed.
2006-08-19 04:11:13 · answer #7 · answered by ~Genie~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are not out at sea you can see them every day if you like. It's not different that any job.
2006-08-19 04:14:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
just love him, be there when he calls, when he does get to come home, so him how proud you are of him, as we all are of our young men & WOMEN SERVING THERE COUNTRY,
2006-08-19 04:15:03 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moslty it's hard because he gets used to all the gay sex on board the ships and doesn't like girls anymore when he comes home...
Sorry, just kidding....
2006-08-19 04:11:25 · answer #10 · answered by Charles D 5 · 1⤊ 9⤋