My husband has a ver large penis. I have gone to my gyn because everytime we have sex it hurts really bad. we have been together for five years. The sex is very good and very erotic. we have sex every night but recently it has only been once a week. But, we have been having oral sex in lew of intercourse. He thinks that I am not interested anymore. But it's not my gyn told me I have brusing from all of the sex and with him being so large. I love him and I want to have sex every night with him. What do I do? I don't want him to be turned off if I tell him what the doctor said.
2006-08-19 03:58:58 · 34 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
my X and I have had this problem and also consulted a professional, we where told use some form of lubricant and more foreplay to get you ( I hate to say it this way ) Wet and ready! and with time which it did take time, all was great
2006-08-19 04:06:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW! I really think you need to be upfront and honest with your husbnad about this situation. As you stated, he already feels like something is wrong and that you're not interested in being with him.
You need to tell him everything you've just said here.
I'm sure, with some information from the doctor, it will help him to better understand everything.
Why don't you consider going to a sex therapist b/c they can help you find other techniques for your and your hubby to practice that would be of pleasure.
I think instead of being turned off by all this, he will feel better knowing there's a valid reason for your not wanting to have intercourse every night, like you used to. Reassure him that you DO love him very much and it's nothing he's doing wrong, per se.
GOOD LUCK!!!!! I really hope you can get things worked out! Remember too, there are many other ways to "make love" by leaving little notes around the house, occasional gifts/flowers/cards, kissing every day several times and MANY more . . . let your imagination roll! KEEP YOUR ROMANCE ALVIE, above all else!!!!!
2006-08-19 04:10:14 · answer #2 · answered by penwrite5 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what to tell you. If you can take the bruising, and the ob/gyn knows where the bruising, I would say keep on pleasing your husband even if its mean every night. You might need to suggest to him that he be a little more gentle. Or refrain from sex at least a few days before going to the ob/gyn.
2006-08-19 04:04:16 · answer #3 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell him what the Gyn advised u and ask him to take it easy. There is nothing wrong in telling the truth. It is better than have him thinking that u r uninterested and turn his attention elsewhere.
All the best...
2006-08-19 04:06:00 · answer #4 · answered by skr 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Continue the oral sex, and mix in some mutual masturbation. Have a drink or two and relax more before intercourse, or use positions where you can control the depth of the penetration.
2006-08-19 04:03:45 · answer #5 · answered by jh 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you've been with him for 5 years and have sex all the time, then your body would be use to his size by now. You've waited 5 years to complain about this now. You didn't see a problem with this when you were dating him? Somethings really wrong with this story.
2006-08-19 04:15:14 · answer #6 · answered by CLM 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go to your nearest pet store, and ask the attendant for a small dog shock colar. Have your husband place it on his ankle after he makes his ankle wet with water. Now here is were it will take practice and timing on your part. During each of his pelvic thrusts you hit the switch that activates the shock. Now here is the cool part and where your practice pays off.
When you activate the switch in his up thrust he will jerk farther and farther away from your vagina, and believe it or not this will greatly reduce the size of his penis. I hope this helps
signed
eddy the electrosex therapist
2006-08-19 04:14:47 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You really need to tell him! Or better, have him come with you to your doc appointment to hear it first hand!
You could have very serious damage done to your vagina that may need surgery down the road.
When you have sex he needs to not insert it all the way, if he really cares he will do want is necessary.
2006-08-19 04:07:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be honest. When you're about to go to bed, sometime NOT when you're about to have sex, just be plain honest, tell him what's going on, and he should be cool. If he freaks out that's his CHOICE, and make sure he understands that it's a choice that he makes. You have no control over bruising and neither does he.
2006-08-19 04:04:31 · answer #9 · answered by John R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless this man is a horse, your vagina would be able to accomodate your husband. That's why it was made the way it is.
I think you need to quit bragging or find another GYN.
2006-08-19 04:05:38 · answer #10 · answered by weddrev 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋