Well?!
I'm nearly 20...my boyfriend is 27. Considering that we are getting married, I decided to break my vow and we decided to have sex before our wedding. It never bothered me until recently, but his sexual past bothered me.
When I brought it up he got upset like "Well, I'm a grown *** man. What do you want a virgin? You cant control what I did before you. I'm a ******* man."
But I know for a fact that if I had a sexual past, it would determine whether he was even with me. That's easy for him to say because he doesnt have to worry about who I had sex with. I'm not saying he was wrong for having sex before me, but his reaction and response to my concern over it was wrong. Its like he wasnt understanding to my concern at all.
Its not bothering me anymore, but does your SO's sexual past ever bother you a little?
2006-08-19 03:37:52 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, not in the slightest. The past is the past.
You knew that he wasn't a virgin when you decided to have sex with him, so I'm sorry, but I don't think you have any reason to get upset. If you want to even the score, take a weekend off and go sleep with a couple of other guys (using condoms, of course).
But I really think that you're worried about having lost your virginity outside of marriage. All I can tell you about that is that it's entirely normal for people to have sex. It's only a conservative and/or religious upbringing that will make you feel guilty about it. Overcome your guilt and you'll be fine.
2006-08-19 03:43:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope. It may have to do with the fact that I am Pagan and am not saddled with some of the other religions' views that sex is wrong before marriage. I love the fact that my husband is experienced and knows what he is doing. And he feels the same about me. Now if there were a double standard, that would be a problem, but we view sex as a sacred act, and not only between married people. All acts of love and pleasure are Her Rituals. And I have loved people I wouldn't marry, so why not express it for them in every way? Although disease is a concern, neither my husband or I have caught anything as we are safe and smart about our choices in partners and sexual activities.
2006-08-19 03:47:11 · answer #2 · answered by Sterling 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, my SO's sexual past doesn't bother me at all. Anything she did before we met is ancient history, it's not like she was cheating on me or anything. We're true to each other now, and that is the only thing that matters.
But deciding to break your vow and have sex before your wedding? It sounds like you don't really care about your vows, or being true to him so long as you get to play around.
And you certainly don't have any right to be questioning what he did before the two of you met.
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2016-09-29 10:49:52 · answer #4 · answered by milak 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not me. What she did before me is her affair. My wife was a 21year old virgin when I married her. She knew I had been married befor.I told her all about my past during our 6 month dating before marriage. she let me know right off there would be no sex before marriage. That for us was the best thing.Remember she was 21 & I was 23
2006-08-19 03:55:25 · answer #5 · answered by BUTCH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't bother me.
It really shouldn't bother you as long as the past doesn't try to come back into your life now.
But his "explosion" is something to be worried about, it shows you how he will act on a normal basis when things aren't the way he wants them once you are married.
Keep your eyes open & don't become a statistic
2006-08-19 03:45:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
His responce was reasonable considering your unreasonable questioning of him, he was very paitent in not ending the relationship. Having sex is normal part of life, beinga virgin untill your married mean you bring nothing to the marriage bed.
It is a stupid thing to worry about your partners exs , his answer was very reasonable
2006-08-19 03:44:59 · answer #7 · answered by brinlarrr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
Let it go, what went on B4 U got 2gether really isn't important.
Don't make it an issue, it's in the past.
Good luck 4 UR up-coming marriage.
:)
Marriage is the Best!
2006-08-19 03:43:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope... I knew right off (from friends) that he has an "experienced" past and it doesnt bother me at all. Its weird tho, cuz whenever we go out, we run into girls that he's been with and sometimes he cant even remember their names. I just tease him... Hes such a whore. Hhaahahah.
2006-08-19 03:49:51 · answer #9 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have a SO but if I did I wouldn't mind their sexual past as long as they are disease free and aren't still have sex with their past lol
2006-08-19 03:48:18 · answer #10 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋