Ok, so My boyfriend of 2 years dumped me 3 months ago because he said first it was because I was possesive and then he said he just wanted to be single. Well two weeks later he started dating a girl who was 15 and he is 17 and she lives 3 hours away. Well, they broke up a few days ago and NOW he is dating a girl from my school. It just hurt me so bad to find out that he found ANOTHER person and Im still by myself. I hate going to school because I don't want to see them together. I havent talked to him since we broke up and when he sees me at school he literally puts his head down and darts to the other side of the hall. I feel like I will never find anyone else. Things just get better for him and suck for me. Do you think he is just being a "guy" and wanting to date a bunch of girls? But why is he being so rude to me?
2006-08-19 03:31:52 · 56 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Listen girl, it's over. Forget him, don't try to contact him, make eye contact with him. Pretend he doesn't exist, this will pave the way for you to find someone better than him.
2006-08-19 03:35:49 · answer #1 · answered by Ya-sai 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
*hugs* I'm sorry that you are hurting so much. Sometimes when someone ends a relationship they don't always give a truthful reason. I don't know if you're ex's reasons were true or not, but I'm guessing it's what he felt.
Dearest...the thing about being single is it provides you with the opportunity to be with someone if the chance arises. And I know right now it may be hard for you to see your ex with other girls, but someday, you too will have met someone else to be with.
And when that day comes- you won't feel that you are being rude to him by being with someone else, because it's not rude.
In life, you'll have relationships with people, and all relationships won't be permanent...that's why it's called dating. It doesn't mean you are bad, or not worthy if a relationship doesn't last. It just means that the two of you are not a match for each other in a life long relationship.
Everyone has heart break...it's a part of life that we all grow through, but we also grow in the process. Take your time, you have a lot of life to live.
Blessings To You & Yours
2006-08-19 03:46:15 · answer #2 · answered by Pastors Wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When we split up from our first love, it feels like you'll never, ever be happy again. I can guarantee that every single adult you know will have been through that horrible sadness you're going through. But please ask yourself three simple questions, as they may put things into perspective - 1) Would you have dumped him and then gone out with lots of boys straight afterwards? 2) Why not? - because you are a nicer person, because you loved him so much...? That tells you that unfortunately, you were not meant to be together right now. 3) If your best friend was going through the same situation, what would you say to her? I bet you'd say 'forget him - he's not worth it, he's just a kid who doesn't know what he wants in life yet. Everyone deserves to be equal in a relationship, and YOU should keep yourself for a boy who loves you very much, who wants to be with you. Trust me - that person will come along, and if you are meant to be with your ex-boyfriend, then one day fate will make sure you are. So don't worry, try to get on with your life, spend good time with your friends. A happy person is far more attractive than a sad one, so pretend you're happy and before long you'll find you ARE really happy!! Good luck
2006-08-19 03:45:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear, I'm speaking to you as a 30 year old woman who has a 15 year old Sister in high school right now. It sounds like you need Counseling..Sweetheart, you are TOO YOUNG to have your whole life focused around a boy. Right now, you should be concerned about your classes, getting A & B's, and you should also be involved in different clubs and activities after school. You should also find a part-time job so you can learn how to become an independant woman. It is Very Unhealthy to focus all of your time and attention on a boy or a man--to the point where you dont even want to go to school anymore. Even many adult women do that--and it leads to depession, low self esteem, unplanned pregnancies, and so many other destructive things. YOU NEED COUNCELING..You are becoming a Woman soon, and you need to see that your self esteem must come from your own soul, and from your accomplishments, your helping people, your job and your family. If you dont change, you will grow up to be a desperate, clingy woman, and you will probably attract Abusive Men.
Stop dating in high school! I didnt date in high school--I went to college, and I'm now a Sucessful, Independant Strong Woman. Men treat me like gold. 3 men have asked to marry me, and I never even slept with them. Men like me because I have my own life, I love myself, and my happiness doesnt come from a man--it comes from Me. You can become like this too.
Leave the boy alone. You are just hurt because you were rejected--and rejection hurts. There's a song that says "Everybody plays a fool sometimes". We have all be dumped and rejected--its a part of life. Beyonce has been dumped, Julia Roberts has been dumped--every beautiful woman has been dumped by a man--but they got over it! Trust me, that boy is NOT ALL THAT. I bet there are 10 guys who look better than him, and are smarter than him too. Move on. Its HIS lost. Get a life and grow your self esteem, and you'll feel so much better.
Peace and Good Luck.
2006-08-19 03:50:11 · answer #4 · answered by Plus-Sized &Proud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok if he is only 17 then that is easy to explain. I know it is hard, but no man in this world is going to be able to stay with only one girl through out thier entire school "life." And if he is being rude, he is a normal guy too. Especially if he darts to the other side of the room when he sees you. That is called guilt. He feels bad. Any guy can find a new girlfriend. You are just a smart girl who doesn't just jump out there to grab somebody like he did to make the other jealous. If he wasn't trying to make you jealous, he wouldn't feel guilty. It's pefectly normal. I was in high school once and none of the guys have changed.
2006-08-19 03:41:01 · answer #5 · answered by laci e 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys can be a b-i-t-c-h sometimes, good advice for you would be to ignore him, if he's being rude to you then why do you have to deal with him? you dont need to put up with crap that makes you upset, if he found a girl so fast it probably means that he was looking before he dumped you. i can understand that it hurts but if you hang out with some of your girlfriends, do some major window shopping and have a good time without him then i'm sure it will be fine, you dont need a guy to be happy. you need friends and hobbies, just do some stuff on your own time. it'll give him a slap in the face that you really didnt need him as much as he thought you did. show him that you can have a good time without him, if he really loved you he'd be happy for you. you can go from there. but you might be making him nervous too that you think about him so often or something, so maybe things will loosen up if you do your own thing. let me know how things turn out if you get the chance, (e-mail: darkness_covered_in_light@yahoo.com) ^^ i hope everything works out for you. good luck!
2006-08-19 03:44:27 · answer #6 · answered by darkness_covered_in_light 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey guys are that way. They are all idiots learn that now. From your questions I am guessing that you are young. You still have time. You don't need a guy to have fun. You don't even need to be in a relationship to have fun. Just go through school with an I don't care attitude. Let him know that you don't care if you broke up or not. Apparently you are telling friends or other people that it bothers you so it is getting back to him. Don't let him or anyone know that it hurts you. Just move on like it doesn't. Eventually your love life will turn around.
2006-08-19 03:42:47 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT is time for you to getup and at'em. Although 2 years seems long for you now - and obviously you are still in hurt because of the breakup - it is time that you visualize your life in a positive light. Get out with friends - make it a point to meet new people. Let this guy go from your mind and live the life you would want to live. He is obviously ashamed when putting his head down and going to the other side. That is not being rude - he realizes the mistake and truthfully a sign of respect to your feelings.
Be free!
2006-08-19 03:39:50 · answer #8 · answered by EZV 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because your ex-boyfriend found another girl,within 2 weeks of your breakup,then he has been dating this person all alone. (Now),he found another girl in such a short time,which indicates,that he's not looking for a real relationship,just a "Good time". He's doing nothing more,than "using" these girls,and he puts his head down,because not only is he ashamed of himself,but he knows he does'nt care about these other girls,and in reality,he wishes that he had never done you wrong. Don't be upset,and be greatful,that it's not you. You'll find someone who will really care about you,and let him go on with his little charade.
2006-08-19 03:45:53 · answer #9 · answered by Squeakers 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just wants to sow his oats and is just being a guy. He puts his head down because he knows he hurt you. Don't internalize it because it has nothing to do with you. He feels bad and does not want to see you in pain. Your life does not suck at all. You are young and have plenty of time for many more boyfriends. It is really important for you the date and see what different boys are like instead of being committed at such a young age.
2006-08-19 03:38:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl... Im sure you have more going for you than you let on. Even if you dont have alot of confidence, Just pretend that you do! Pretend that you are the S H I T! Just having confidence is such a turn on for a guy. But you gotta put yourself out there to get noticed. This guy you were dating sounds like a total loser. Id ignore him entirely. Dont speak to him, Dont give him a second of YOUR precious time! hes not worth it. Those girls he is dating, they will eventually find out for themselves how much of a loser he is, and his life will change dramatically for the worse. All you need to do is realize that you are a great person and go for it. Good luck.
2006-08-19 03:39:49 · answer #11 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋