I'm only asking this because I used to stress over and make a big deal about how sexually active my girl was before me. I probably shouldn't have been so curious about it anyway. I used to have vivid images about her doing it with other guys in my head, cause some of the dudes I knew or seen before. Do females have this same problem, or is it just a guy thing?
2006-08-19 03:21:12 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ANd just for the record, I don't feel this way now. I married the woman of my dreams and I don't care about her past because we both started over on our wedding day. I was just curious about you other Ladies.
2006-08-19 03:36:22 · update #1
i have the same problem of creating vile mental pictures of my man having sex with other women... and i, too, was curious of knowing about those women... he didnt want to tell me initially. he says they dont matter any more... but i still suffer.. tremendously.. its not a guy-thing atall... you are bound to be envious, insecure or jealous at times if you truly love someone. they come in the same package.
for me, the reassurance part is the most important aspect of a realtionship. you will feel that reassurance through her talks, little acts, through her love for you.. i feel them. His past pains me but i know i have him NOW and they dont matter much... if you know what i mean.
2006-08-19 03:37:41 · answer #1 · answered by [ rapunzel ] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are going out with someone, the best thing is to forget ones partner past and see him/her how he/she acts with you. Anyway people do sometimes make mistakes and by leaving the past behind, you can have a better future.
In my opinion it matters how many females my man has had sex with because it can influence the way he feels about me. We don't want to be some other pal but a special girlfriend. and by the way, women are a little bit jealous, maybe that's yet another matter
2006-08-19 10:36:43 · answer #2 · answered by Rody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think it matters to a certain extent. I would not be interested in a guy that had been with a lot of girls. Hello, diseases!! Also, sex is a very important thing and should not be taken lightly. If a man just sleeps with whoever it shows he does not have a lot of respect for himself or women.
2006-08-19 10:31:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my guy...didnt have sex with any woman before me, but was with one other then me during a breakup.
However on the other hand i was active formerly with 25-35 guys before i ever met my guy.
Just remember the number really doesnt matter- because the more people youve been with the more expereinced you are~!
If you cant stand to know the truth then its best not to ask.
2006-08-19 10:28:38 · answer #4 · answered by cats4ever2k1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No!!Look it doesn't matter to me but all I know is dat it's in the past but I use to feel uncomfortable about dat but not anymore,their was a time he told me about it and I got all in "uncomfortable mode"and I demanded a STD test before we ever had intercourse but you know it doesn't really matter cuz the person loves you and not the people he or she had intercourse wit in the past so there is nothing to worry about,you can just relax and have a nice talk because if you question about it all she gonna say is"That was all in the past this is now" trust me just relax and throw it behind you cuz she loves you now!!!!
2006-08-19 10:32:51 · answer #5 · answered by Lissa305 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At a younger age I guess I thought about stuff like that. As you get older, it means less. The important thing it what he (or she in your case) is doing today. Let the past go to I improve your future.
2006-08-19 10:26:30 · answer #6 · answered by 75160 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, what matters is did he protect himself! If he has a bunch of kids, then obviously he's just worried about re-populating the earth. Again, if you are that worried or bothered, then go get tested together and ease your mind!! Then again no, if it doesn't bother him how many people I've had sex with!
2006-08-19 10:38:48 · answer #7 · answered by Ms. Ladeshug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
females do have the same problem but there is a reason you need to know these things there are so may things out there that could kill you such as AID's and herpes you cant get rid of . these things are things you should think about safe sex is the best
2006-08-19 10:29:36 · answer #8 · answered by angeleyes4you32 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my man had at least 10 before me...he didn't really want to tell me about it b/c he was afraid i would leave him over it or get really mad...but i have to be honest it did hurt a little but i told him that it is in the past..what matters is the future...so the best thing i can tell you is to let it go its in the past....good luck=)
2006-08-19 10:36:11 · answer #9 · answered by nina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate....but all you need to do is remember that was the past and you have her now...plus if she was that good the other guys must be jealous of you cause you have her all the time now...but the feeling will pass
2006-08-19 10:30:46 · answer #10 · answered by Green_Eyez:) 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋