husbands and kids for sale?

Question

can somebody please tell me why men are lazy my hubby works i clean,cook, look after the kids all the motherly duties and wifely duties. Why is it so difficult for him to play with his children all under 5 at the weekend? I am confused can somebody help me. When i worked 50 hour a week i still came home at night i bathed the kids tucked them up. Also at the weekends i played with them went to the parks. Don't get me wrong he loves his kids and he does help sometimes but why do i have to keep pushing him with his children??? sorry i have gone on

hi thanks for your lovely answers my hubby and i have just sat down while the kids are outside falling of the slides e.t.c he is going to try to help with the kids more at the weekends rightly so some may say. I love him and my kids so why not he knows how i feel. Kind regards everybody

Answer 1

He's like that because he can. You're letting him get away with it. Give him a "to do list" and tell him ; no nookie till he completes the list.

Answer 2

Well, if we knew the answer to that question, I would not be selling my husband and kids, I love the question and it is so true!
I really can't tell you what these men are thinking but I can tell you from experience that they think since they went to work, their duties are over and excuse me, but it does not work that way! Being a parent is a full time job, not just when you feel like you are in the mood! I hope that I won't offend you but maybe you should use reverse psychology on him, one night when you can, come home from work, change clothes and leave, tell him you have something to do and he needs to make dinner and give the kids a bath, put them to bed etc.... I know you are probably thinking, if I do that my kids will starve, but believe me, he will take care of it in a situation where there is no choice! If he ever had to live without these things then maybe he would start appreciating them and understand that your job is just as hard as his, if not more so! If that does not work, then met him at the door one day and tell him that he does not live there any more, explain to him that anyone who lives in your house has to do their part and if he is not going to do it, then he can find another place to live! Trust me if you make him spend one night somewhere else, he will coming back and change his tune, really fast! Sometimes, men have to be reminded that they can not live without us! I hope this helps! Good luck and God bless!

Not only that, remind him that his children will not be young forever and when they grow up they will resent the fact that he was not there for them! I know that is how I feel about my father, sad but true~

Answer 3

Hard question. I don't know your husband so its difficult to comment on his behaviour. I will say that if your children are young though he may have feelings of being restricted and rejected. If he is a new father he may feel that he now cant do the things that he used to like going out with friends or playing a game of soccer which gives a feeling of restriction and causes depression. Another problem that often occurs is that he is used to spending the time with you alone and misses the attention as now maybe you focus on the children more. The best thing to do would be to spend time as a family and go out together. Don't get him to spend time with the children get him to spend time with all of you. Think of him like an extra child and ask him where he wants to go with you and the kids. Once he starts enjoying himself with the family he will want to do it all the more. Go to the zoo, play with a Frisbee in the park anything you think that he will enjoy. Kids are great fun, just show him that his life has changed but in a good way. Hope this helps.

Answer 4

I'm married, (four years now), male and forty, with no children, and I don't want any. My wife has a son of 19 from her first marriage, who still takes a lot of looking after. When I tell people I don't want kids, some of them tell me I'm a bad person, I'm going to hell, etc.! I have never felt paternal, believe the world is overpopulated, and doesn't need another human on it. Society is in a very bad way, as people aren't putting adequate care into raising their kids. Fatherhood is more work than keeping a horse, yet parents say "Oh, I wouldn't have time to keep a horse", yet will happily crank out kids and let TV raise them. Why the hell should I breed, to satisfy others?

Answer 5

Perhaps that is the example he was show as a child himself. His father may have been old school and believed that it was the man who provided for the family and the woman who looked after the kids and the house. Discuss this maturely with your husband before you put him and the kids up on the auction block. Tell him honestly how you are feeling and what you can do as a family to involve everyone and what he can do as a father to raise his children so that they will be active in their childrens's life and not repeat what they are being shown. Best of luck.

Answer 6

I can understand your frustration, but its always been the same, women do all the work .When they grow up and do well Dad wants to take all the credit, if they do wrong men say its the woman's fault for bringing them up soft. Perhaps he is still a child at heart himself. Tell him you are going out for the day with a friend or relative and he has to look after the children for a day and see his reaction. Don't forget they are his children as well as yours, let him take responsibility for a change.

Answer 7

I understand your frustration! My husband's way of playing with the kids is to hand them the PlayStation controller. I think it is in their nature not to take the initiative with the kids. I feel that sometimes my husband forgets that they are just kids and they can't be entertained the same way adults do. The way I deal with this issue is to constantly remind him. In my household I pretty much make the rules, schedules, plan outings, and everything else...It can be overwhelming at times, but I'm used to it. I think things run smoother when I plan so I can inform him of what has to be done, and who is doing them. I hope this helps...

Answer 8

Tell him you're going to hire help and use his pay check to pay for it. Or tell him you're going to move someone in to help you (pehaps your mother or someone on your side of the family that he doesn't like) or tell him you're going to cut back your hours or quit your job, boot him out and live on welfare so you can spend time raising your kids. If he complains, tell him he didn't complain when he placed his order for children. Or stop sleeping with him untill he grows up!!!!! Or try to understand how he feels. Is he overtired? If you are a stay at home mom and he is making it possible for you to do that, count your blessings. When you have 5 little kids, you have to roll with the flow. Before you do anything drastic, get a job like your husband and see how you do. If you already have a job, then go back to my 1st idea. Wait till he grows up

Answer 9

Maybe, if you don't wake up in the weekend, somebody has to deal with the children, so , if you are sleeping, your husband must wake up and deal with them...If you do all the stuff,ofcourse he will say "why to play with them? my wife can do that...Why to make their breakfast? my wife cooks better than me...Why to wake up to help them to get dressed? My wife is already awake.." This stuff will stop if you will not be available...He will not live the children alone, he will help....Or go somewhere at 8 saturday morning, leaving him with the children and without no choice.. It's tough, but will work

Answer 10

Doen't listen to guys like Matt. He never had a girl friend.

I think a lot of men are like this. There is no excuse and I love my kids. He will miss it when they are gone and should enjoy every day now!!

Answer 11

You know, all the signs were there before you ever got married. If people believed the REALITY of other people prior to marriage, there'd be a lot less divorce. But no, people plow right in, ignoring the signs and they act surprised when that other person is totally true to their own form.