My wife has an operation an it's my job to take care of her. My stepdaughter come here to spend a few days taking care of her. I take care of my wife always. I feel it's stepping on my feet to come in my house and do my job. I love my wife and this hurts. Am I wrong to feel this way?
2006-08-19 01:43:25 · 21 answers · asked by zowulf1958 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You are sooo sweet..I hope the Lord gives me a good man like you.....Well, your wife probably thinks that you need some help, and your wife doesnt want to burden you too much--so this is her way of helping you..I would probably want my sister or mom to come help me if I was sick even if I was married. I would feel that I was burdening my husband too much..Plus, I'm so strong and independant that and I dont want my husband to see me as soooooo weak and helpless...Dont take it personal---Just accept her--its only a FEW DAYS..You'll have your wife for the rest of the time. Plus, keep in mind that she is you wife--but thats HER MOTHER. Her daughter loves her too--and her daughter probably wants to help her her mom out as much as she can right now.
Keep the Peace in the House--Be Nice--Dont Upset your wife by Complaining--that would hurt your wife and she doesnt need to be upset right now...Just do all the things her daughter Cant do (like lifting), and be nice until she leaves.
Peace
2006-08-19 04:38:44 · answer #1 · answered by Plus-Sized &Proud 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is her daughter, not another man. I get from your question you feel threatened. Please understand, most disputes happen because someone is not giving the other person the benefit of the doubt.
The daughter is there to help you both and she is worried about her Mother. Do not be threatened. Thank her and go out and get a milkshake once in a while.
There is no reason to be mad at your wife, she gave birth to this child how ever old she is and you knew she had a daughter when you got married. I understand that you think she is stepping on your toes but just look at it from their point of view. This has nothing to do with you, she is not insulting your ability to care for her mother, she is worried and wants to help.
2006-08-19 02:22:18 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs. Mad Maddy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is fantastic that you love your wife so dearly that u wish to take care of her on your own but pls don't push ur step daughter out. Try to remember that although that she is your wife she is also a mother and a bond between a mother and child no matter how young or old is very important. Try to appreciate that your daughter is trying to do her bit and not trying to push you out or make you feel hurt. I hope that you can read these answers and take a step back and allow your step daughter to be their for her mum. Instead of feeling hurt just appreciate that ur wife is obviously a very special lady to have 2 ppl willing to care and look after her. If you love your wife as dearly as u say then try to think of what is best for her and how would she feel if u pushed her daughter out. I hope ur wife has a very speedy recovery.
2006-08-19 03:02:32 · answer #3 · answered by stormy_sinderella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong to feel this way but I think you need to look at this in a different way. Your step daughter loves her mom. I am sure that she knows that you are doing very well taking care of your wife. She comes in to help not only your wife but also you. It can get frustrating helping others in need no matter how much you love them. The step daughter is trying to make it easier on you. She is not trying to step on your toes.
Be thankful that the step daughter is willing to help out. In some familys when help is needed people come up with excuses not to help.
This is just my perspective but I really do think she means well.
2006-08-19 01:58:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say you were WRONG but, try to understand that your stepdaughter wants to do her part to take care of her mom just like you want to. And I'm sure that neither your wife nor your stepdaughter is doing this to "step on your feet". Enjoy the help while you have it and, let your stapdaughter know you appreciate her.
2006-08-19 01:51:08 · answer #5 · answered by Cutie_Pie 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think it's sweet that you love your wife that much that this hurts you - I understand... maybe you can tell your wife how much you love her and how much you want to take care of her and start doing things to take care of her to prove and show your step daughter that her mom is in good caring hands and see if you can work out an arrangement with the two of them for your step daughter to do more visiting and you can do more caring of your wife and her mom.
2006-08-19 02:12:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's normal to feel this way. She is your wife and you love her and want to take care of her.Just remember that your step daughter is feeling the same thing. She is her mother. Tallk to your step daughter so the two of you won't be stepping on each other's toes.
2006-08-19 10:52:54 · answer #7 · answered by kathylovis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you should be mad at your wife.Your stepdaughter is just trying to help you.I think you are wrong to feel the way you do.Maybe your stepdaughter thinks you are doing a good job,but is trying to give you a break to take a rest.If this really bothers you then talk to your stepdaughter and tell her how you feel,maybe she will understand and back away.
2006-08-19 01:53:16 · answer #8 · answered by Sander 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Never be mad at your wife for loving her daughter & never be mad at your step-daughter for doing the same thing you're doing...Loving your wife. She(your step-daughter) feels some responsibility too.
2006-08-19 02:02:18 · answer #9 · answered by mazell41 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
take turns taking care of your wife, this way, you are helping also.
2006-08-19 01:48:47 · answer #10 · answered by lover of Jehovah and Jesus 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋