I snooped at his e-mails the other day when he accidently left it logged on because it was too tempting not to and I read an e-mail he sent one of his exgirlfriends bascially telling her that sometimes he thinks they should be together, that they were ment to be together but it just couldn't happen for them for whatever reasons. It really, really upset and made me angry to read this! He's lied to me before about spending time with her, so I was already suspicious of their relationship, but now this is making me completely paranoid! And, I really can't say anything to him about why I'm mad at him because then he will know I snooped and he is huge on privacy and will be really pissed off at me for doing that. What should I do? How do I get over reading something like that? I love him very much, but this is making me question our relationship. Help!
2006-08-19 01:30:50 · 16 answers · asked by beckyt_82 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just as you shouldn't have been reading his emails, he shouldn't be communicating and meeting up with his ex if he knows it bothers you. You can do two things here.
1. Confess. Tell him that when he left it open you read his emails and this one email really bothered you. That you would prefer him not talking or meeting up with her anymore. If you want to, give him an ultimatum that if he continues meeting up with her you will end the relationship.
or
2. Ignore it, though that option will eat away at you.
When anyone feels a little suspicious there is usually a reason to feel so and unfortunately you instincts were correct. If he doesn't change this then your relationship is pretty much doomed. He will be talking to her behind your back and you will be constantly worrying about whether they are having an affair.
2006-08-19 01:39:31 · answer #1 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow, I hate to have to say this but you are way off line on this one. Forget getting over this, just get rid of this guy. Sure, what you did was wrong, but that doesn't make you "even" for the wrong things he's done. He doesn't really care about you that much, you deserve better, you should move on and learn a lesson for the next relationship about snooping. (By that I mean not to do it so you don't get stuck in another jam, not that you should read their stuff to find out secrets!)
2006-08-19 08:36:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonyman 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Shame on you for snooping! But what's done is done. If you feel that you can't trust him then you have to ask yourself if you can he happy living with a man who you can't trust. Maybe it's time to go.
2006-08-19 08:36:09 · answer #3 · answered by canucklehead1951 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well u obviously dont trust each other so move on. trust is one of the biggest things needed to keep a relationship, and if u dont have that then what chance does ur relationship have.
and he obviously dont like you that much cos he is tempted by his ex, so i know its easyer said than done but move on.
2006-08-19 08:37:47 · answer #4 · answered by its all about me 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like what my brother was doing. If you do love him, u need to talk to him and tell him, he gets pissed, tell him "look, i dont care, but we're in this relationship, not her!" if he can't understand that, find someone else.
2006-08-19 08:37:09 · answer #5 · answered by Priest of Anubis 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think u need to cut ur losses and move on from him...he shouldnt be secretly emailing his x like that....he is big on privacy because he doesnt want to get caught doing things he shouldnt be doing...so if u tell him you know he will turn it around and make it ur fault...so this isnt a win win situation..u shouldnt be with someone who is going to lie about his relationship he has with his x...u read the email u know he wants to be with her sometimes..so u deserve better...dump him. get someone who only wants to be with you,and only thinks about you
2006-08-19 08:38:14 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Even though you love him, he is a liar and never going to change. It's best to get out before you have wasted anymore of your time. You might love him but it is clear that he does not love you.
2006-08-19 08:37:34 · answer #7 · answered by eva c 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Please, honey, you KNOW what to do. Yes, you can say something. He's LIED before. You're not paranoid, you feel betrayed and I would too.
If your BFF or sister had the exact same situation and asked your advice, what would you tell her to do?
Now do that.
2006-08-19 08:35:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Please leave him before u be sorry...i have been there and i forgave him and the result that i suspect him day and night ..i'm in a hell can't sleep and he sleeps full eyes and fight with me if i asked him for answers on my suspection ..anyway it's ur decision ...by the way i'm still with my bf
2006-08-19 09:10:16 · answer #9 · answered by Marian 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You must have Honesty!!!! Do what you feel is right. Its always hard doing the rightthing when its so easy to do the wrong.
2006-08-19 08:37:02 · answer #10 · answered by ImSpoilednLoveit 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋