I have been friends with this guy for about a year and we have flirted but nothing more than that. then one day we had sex and it was great and now we are having sex a few times a week. Nothing has changed in our friendship but there is no talk of being in a relationship. Is this more than just friends. I want more but should I tell him that?
2006-08-19 00:53:24 · 26 answers · asked by irishflirt20 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Friends with benefits.
2006-08-19 02:26:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"...more than friends?" Yes. Girlfriend/Boyfriend? Not yet. You have to agree to date and have a exclusive relationship.
"...should I tell him that?" This is tricky. If you tell him and he doesn't want one then your "more-than-a-friend" status will be over and possibly your friendship may be over as well. Do you want to risk losing whatever you have by telling him you want more? Try to drop hints, or get clues from him. Ask yourself is there any reason why he does not want a relationship at this time? Identify and resolve those issues.
The guy may be thinking along the lines of the old adage: "Why pay for the cow when you are getting the milk for free?" Meaning why develop a relationship if I am getting one of the benefits (nookie) without the emotional/intellectual commitment bound up in a dating relationship.
Maybe you should continue things as they are now and then slowly work boyfriend-girlfriend notions into the current relationship.
2006-08-19 08:15:50 · answer #2 · answered by Joe Mumtaz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its best friends with benefits. The main problem with this is it may start off as just two friends enjoying sex with each other but eventually one of you will want more than friendship. It complicates the friendship when the other one wants to go out with someone else at it make you jealous even if you dont think it would. My advice is either try to make this a relationship or quit having sex with your freind. You have to decide what is more important, friendship or lust.
2006-08-19 08:00:42 · answer #3 · answered by bighertshow 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is so good to be in a relationship but not the one with a bad foundation because it won't last long.if you want more than sex then put the right peg in the right hole by stopping the sex sex thing with him for a while and have a sincere heart to heart talk with him concerning having a serious relationship.Please don't be deceive at first he will say YES! because he will not like to miss the sexual enjoyment he had been having.Try you can to see beyond his pretence and if he is not sincere with you,then forget him and look for a serious relationship elsewhere.Please start the new one with love first rather than sex.
2006-08-19 08:32:06 · answer #4 · answered by sankara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you guys are just friends with benefits. Don't keep on doing what you are if you feel like you want to form an emotional attachment greater than the one you already have. You will only end up suffering for it if you keep on in the current pattern, as a line in a song "satisfied and empty inside". I think you might need to have a heart to heart with him.
2006-08-19 08:11:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not , now it is a fun for you both to get and give joy , let it be up to this level only and use precautions as not get pregnant .You will not be happy with this man as a wife , reason you both will be bored and will try to dominate each other and that will leads to unhappy situation , better enjoy these time and forget for the any serious relation .
2006-08-19 08:02:36 · answer #6 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not just talk to your friend and get a 'temperature' check. See if you guys are on the same page, and if not, then some adjustments need to be made. I believe anything is possible and there is not just one 'type' of relationship-but there has to be a mutual consent and understanding.
2006-08-19 07:59:28 · answer #7 · answered by evonne i 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi,i m a person who has been in a situation in which u r.i was friend with a girl then we had sex but did not talk about any relationship.then i talked to her that we shud get into a relationship.what she said was,"u f**ker ,couldnt u ask this question earlier,i was expecting this from the first time we had sex".for more details contact at n_parasar@yahoo.com
2006-08-19 08:04:30 · answer #8 · answered by NIk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really your call... If you are happy with this arrangement, then why say anything? If you aren't , why? THAT is when you need to tell him something. Just make sure you are being safe. You are more at risk for disease if you are in an open relationship like that.
Good luck!
2006-08-19 08:00:13 · answer #9 · answered by Robb 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be blunt, the popular term for what you and this fellow are is f***-buddies. Nothing wrong with that if you both accept it. Sounds like you want to bump the relationship up to lovers. Talk to him.
2006-08-19 07:58:45 · answer #10 · answered by canucklehead1951 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋