Anyone got an elderly parent with memory problems?

Question

How do you handle it what should I expect my mam had a minor stroke and her memory is slipping now.

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Answer 1

My mom is 84 years old in very good condition for her her heart is good a little high blood pressure and low thyroid but other then that it is good she only can see out of one of her eyes and her memory is well slipping like you know first hand with your mom.

As you know this problem is called Dimenciaand it is the beginning to al-timers. But it does not mean that she will slip into it BOOM that ids it. no does not work like that. you do not do what you want 100% of the day it is more like 70% her's 30%% yours till she goes to bed then your time to surf the net if you want. For me my mom just loves to sit on the porch and so do I so every night we sit out on the porch from 8pm to 11pm nice and cool bug zapper going I got to admit you will snap! at her and you wish you never did that. I have done that too another thing that she loves is watching tv or vcr tapes or DVD's you know family movies or musicals together and being in the same house taking care of her she will not always tell you the truth to things due to her memory and at times she might forget who you are or think you are not her's that hurts! but you just have to find something that works one day and make a mentle note of that and use the same words over and over so that way if she forgets who you are use those words agian and agin and slowly as she is thinking it will snap back to her who you are. if you live with her I think having your bed near her if not in the same room like I got mine in the front room so does my mom since she can nopt climb stairs another thing you can exspect is she might stop washing herself and she might tell you she did but she may not have done it and she might piss herself well asleep or poop and also make a mess in the bathroom poop smired on the floor and toilet seat buy some paper towl and windex keep them on hand but away from her!! you do not want her drinking winddex.
that stuff does a great job on clean ups

well from one caregiver to another I wish you joy and good luck with your mom

Answer 2

some questions for you: have you ever gotten her to flow to her health practitioner for anti-depressives? Have they said her reminiscence complications? Does she recognize her health practitioner's opinion as a clinician? heavily, this may be the man to reveal to. the element is, you seem very particular that it really is the right element, and that i'm not there to have theory as to if a nursing abode is ideal or if there might want to be one or 2 different ideas. Assisted residing appears too minimum, certainly, in spite of the reality that, from the little i have heard it truly is a touch help with meds and perchance a meal. besides, checking out as a lot as you could about the way that her heatlh and psychological prestige learn to varied kinds of residing facilites might want to positioned a more beneficial purpose perspective in this very emotional time, and utilising factors alongside with experts like docs or maybe social workers might want to externalize the request you're making, shifting from teh experience that the relations must be rid of her, to at least something more beneficial alongside the traces of, "This is smart, and they could do more beneficial effectual for you than we can.": when you've assembled each and every of the actual factors of your advice, reassure Nana that you'll come visit, deliver pcitures of grandkids, etc. Then, make sure you do it. people in those places are wuite unwell-dealt with if there aren't any loved ones on a really widely used, in spite of the reality that unpredictable, foundation. and evidently, if Nana has some similar-age agency, with some similar topics, even more beneficial effectual. Socializing is basic to each and absolutely everyone. solid success!

Answer 3

I agree with the first person.. lots of stickies, and a sense of humour, im under 30, and suffer from stress related memory loss
Memory loss isnt such a big problem, unless its backed up with a decline in mental faculty.

Excersize her mind if you can, give her crosswords, and sudokus, take her on walks, feed her vitamins and glucosamine.

It might make things better, if only so you feel better, for doing more..

Answer 4

That's so tough! My mum lost her memory in stages, and it really hurt when I knew she did not know who I was any more.
After a long time, I came to realise it was not about MY needs, she had been fulfilling those long enough. She still took pleasure from life, and I enjoyed doing what I could for her in her last years.
People do not seem to lose the ability to know they are loved as their memory goes!

Answer 5

I'm a care assistant. when people have memory problems. try talking about the old times they seem to remember these things as it is usually their short term memory that doesn't work as good as it did. i suspect that it was the stroke that caused this problem as strokes affect the brain. be patient with your mum as this is probably frustrating for her as it is to you.

Answer 6

My mother has trouble remembering who I am, her son. She's 86 and residing in a nursing home. Sometimes she thinks that I am her husband who has been dead 18 years. I know it can be frustrating but hang in there. At least she is still alive. Be thankful for small mercies. A mothers love's a blessing.

Answer 7

Yes my Dad. We put notes all over the house for him and in his pockets etc... A large sense of humour about the problem is required as well as a nice dollop of patience.

Answer 8

my grandpa has demensia and he gets disorientated, suspisious of my granny, he thinks that the tv is alive, he thinks that the light from my dvd player is a beautiful beacon, but basically he is still the same person.

Answer 9

I think younger people have more memory problem than Elderly.

Answer 10

yes, sadly--if you can speak to your mother's doctor, he/she might be able to prescribe something like aricept to help her.
I don't know about your mam, but mine never tells the doctor anything that she should--or maybe she is embarrassed to --i don't know, but her doctor might not even know how bad your mam's memory problems are unless you speak to him/her.
Also, try to be patient--this is a hard one for me!--i think we get angry because we want them to be the way they always were, and it is hard for us to realise that they can't help it.