okay there this guy friend i have and we've known each other 4 about 6 yrs,and im 14 now.a year ago in 7th grade on the 2nd day of school he called me and said he had realy strong feelings 4 me,i was freaked,but we remained friends now i live in different country,but a few days ago he caught me online,he said i hurt him alot and he still had strong feelings 4 me and wished he had said this sooner.
we both hurt each other alot a yr ago but i have always loved him nd i still do,so does he.
it was his birthday yesterday and i wished him happybirthday first person and even reminded all my other friends
he wished i was there with him,and said he had a dream the night before and said we had kissed
i was so sad and said i was sorry it didnt work out between us
we cant make it work wen i live in a different country but i freaking love him too much and cant 4get about him
WHAT SHOULD I DO? PLAESE HELP !
2006-08-19 00:07:24 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There's no harm in having a long distance realtionship for now. It will prove hpw much you really do love each other. Then if it works out, one of you moves closer.
I hope it works, and that you do get to be together in the end.
Good luck, sweetie,
2006-08-19 00:25:46 · answer #1 · answered by Nicky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can make it work. I mean, you've known each other for a long enough time to have a real relationship. You will need a lot of patience to wait until you both have more of a chance to move around freely. But when you get to be, say, college-age, one or the other of you can go to college in the other's country, or you can pick a third country for yourselves. If there's a foreign language involved, normally there are special language courses you can take before you start your actual degree study.
I did something like that myself - met a guy when I was in Poland in 1989, corresponded with him for two years and eventually moved to Poland, studied Polish for three years. In the end I didn't marry him, though for a long time after that we stayed friends. I'd made a home here, so I stayed. And now finally I have met a nice Polish gentleman, we're still 'just friends', but it's really nice...
For the moment, I think you need to keep your relationship platonic, because *right now* it isn't possible to set up housekeeping together and have an 'officially permanent' relationship, and being non-platonic is a definite step in that direction which it makes sense to take only if you're really sure you want to be together forever.
But given how long you've known each other, and how long your affection for each other has already survived, I think you could be good candidates for a permanent relationship someday. I know people who started seeing each other when they were your age or not much older, got married when they graduated from college, and they've probably just celebrated their 20th wedding anniversary...
So, I would encourage you guys to stay in touch and think about how you could arrange to be in the same place someday. This sort of thing does take some advance planning - it would be great, for example, for both of you to get a jump on learning the language of wherever you would like to end up, if you don't already know it. You've got plenty of time to do that - four years is enough to become fluent.
And closer to the time, look into scholarships and such for studying abroad - I got one from a Polish cultural organization in my birth country, no doubt other countries and people groups have their organizations too...
You might both want to get into an International Baccalaureate program at school, it will make it easier for you to be mobile because it's internationally recognized and very prestigious, so you'll be able to get into good schools when you're done (and you might even have scholarship opportunities available to you which you wouldn't otherwise have had).
Above all, you need trust in the God Who joins people together when they commit to each other, putting each other first, for life(*). He really can help you - for Him, all things are possible(#). So just get with Him and pray about your relationship, and take it from there - I wish you all the best!
May God bless you
2006-08-19 07:42:01 · answer #2 · answered by songkaila 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do you belive in long distance relationships? coz if you do it might work out for you if you want it to ..follow your heart and if you love him too much juss make the most of it girl....
2006-08-19 07:17:33 · answer #3 · answered by Funkmaster 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stay friends and wait!!!!!!
2006-08-19 09:00:16 · answer #4 · answered by john s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋