They told him he could live up to 2 years with medication and if he stops smoking but they also said he has a 14% chance of beating it all together. There are two things he needs to do the doctors told him one he needs to quit smoking and 2 walk. He hasnt even started kemo and he doesnt walk. He continues to smoke. I know he is an adult but he cant drive because of medication plus if he gets caught driving he will be put in jail for 2 1/2 years from so many dui's in the past. He doesnt have a drinking problem anymore however since he cant drive i figure if i got with his wife and me and her made a choice to stop driving him to get his smokes as well as everytime we see a smoke we throw it away. If he wants to kill himself that bad i figure let him walk and at least by that he is doing one thing the doctor told him to do. My question is after a heart to heart if he doesnt take us seriously should i do this? He will be angry and i understand that and im willing to go threw it with
2006-08-18 23:45:37 · 7 answers · asked by Thomas L 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
him. He cant work because meds are to much for him to work and hes not near death but if he continues doctors say he might lose his life sooner. SO i just thought ya hes going to be angry but in the long run after a few months walking in the winter he will get sick of it because all we do is throw away those cigerates anyways. What do you think anything you think of would be helpful
2006-08-18 23:47:18 · update #1
stage IV lung cancer is non-cureable, let the man in joy something before he dies
2006-08-19 04:13:39 · answer #1 · answered by researchtissue 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your dad has stage 4 lung cancer and the chances of recovering from this dreaded disease is next to nothing.
I have been administering chemotherapy to lung cancer pts for the last 12 years and really, he needs to enjoy whatever time he has left in this world and you need to quit tormenting him.
You are not going to save him, and he is an adult. If he wants to smoke, leave him alone. He needs to enjoy whatever time he has left. Not all smokers panic and decide to quit smoking when they are diagnosed with cancer. They instead have a very realistic view of life and the consequences. He knows smoking is bad for him, but he likes it and you are not going to change that. Dont give yourself the guilt of throwing away his cigaretts and not taking him to buy more. Heck, give me his address and I will mail him some, because by the time you are mature enough to understand life, he will be gone from you and you will have the time before his death to remember. He probably doesn't walk because he dont feel good or cant get his breath. He may not want to kill himself with chemotherapy which is what is going to happen. Chemo does nothing but make the person in stage 4 lung cancer suffer tremendously before they die. 3 cheers for your dad for not going thru with it. He has stood his ground and deserves praise for not lining another Oncologist pockets with green cash. Your dad is just being realistic.
Oncology nurse for 12 yrs. Prayers for your dad and peace to your family.
2006-08-19 14:39:14 · answer #2 · answered by happydawg 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You have the same deal that I had with my mother. Her doctor told me to leave her alone and let her make her own decisions. When it gets bad enough the smoking will take care of itself. It doesn't sound like his chances of surviving the cancer are good. It is his life and the way he wants to live it are his choice. I would not play parent and irritate him, try to make the time he has left with you the best of times. Maybe, he wants to go for quality and not quantity. That is his choice and I know it hurts. The problem with our society is everyone believes they have the right to decide what is best for us and we are deemed mentally incapable if our choices do not agree with theirs. It is his call, love him and try to understand. Make his life as happy as you can and all the time with him positive.
2006-08-19 12:25:16 · answer #3 · answered by jodie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i lost my right lung to cancer, i was a heavy smoker 3 pks a day, even tho i had quit i still got cancer. main thing is he has to want to quit. they have a shot now that they guarantee it to stop you smoking. but its expensive. also you might want to look at this site. www.whyquit.com
2006-08-21 09:41:35 · answer #4 · answered by duc602 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is sad but it sounds as if your father has made up his mind to die.
My grandfather was like that. He got diabetes and he said "No one can make me give up my beer and cake."
If you can get his wife to agree, give it a try.
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2006-08-19 07:01:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
wellbutrin makes people want to stop smoking
2006-08-19 06:51:43 · answer #7 · answered by limetemple 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋