So like I said, I'm 23 and I'm waiting until marriage to give up my virginity. Some people think that I'm a virgin, because I can't get any. But I'm actually really cute and I have a nice figure with big 36C boobs, and there have def. been guys who have told me that they wanted to sleep with me, but I always say no. I want to do it for love, not just sleep around from one guy to another. So, tell me what you think about all of this. Also, guys...if you were dating a girl that you really liked and you found out that she's waiting until marriage for sex, would you stay with her, or dump her in a second??? I want details people!
2006-08-18 23:22:29 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thats amazing.. it only proves your an amazing person and whoever that person is.. hez really lucky to have you.. it only proves your faithfulness and loyality and who wouldn't want to be with such a person.. i know i do want to be with such a person.
2006-08-18 23:42:24 · answer #1 · answered by $~~BrOKeN~~$ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, wait for marriage, your future husband will really appreciate you for your integrity and moral life choices. This other guy really did you a favor by leaving because he has shown that he really didn't love you, that song that says "If you like it you should have put a ring on it," is very true but unfortunately many girls are too easy today and so they just live with guys until the relationship hits a bit of a rocky time and then move on to the next relationship. Wait until the right guy comes along and he loves you enough to put a wedding ring on your finger. Don't allow peer pressure to sway you from your own high standards or settle for less than you deserve - which is the best!
2016-03-26 21:42:28 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Applaud you for posting such a open question on the internet.
I think it will be a plus in your case, since you want to do it with someone whom you think and believe is rightfully suited for you. If you're not sure about things, it's always good to have a wait-and-see approach. It definitely does you more gd than going around sleeping with guys or 'cute guys' and then decide whether they are the one for you
I'm a guy, and if i were your bf of course I'd wish you are willing, but only with me of course. That's the issue, the society has gotten so different from the past when people are morally right to have sex only after marriage. As a person, your bf should respect your decision, otherwise he's not good enough for you. Most men love sex, but personally I don't like to force it on people who are not ready.
Apparently you might want to consider how long or when you are prepared to get married. If there is a guy who is chasing you, you find him suitable for you so how much time is sufficient for both of you before getting married? It's alright if the whole wooing process takes one to two years.
But imagine his frustration if he chased you around for 5/8 years and you are still a virgin. Most men would get sexually frustrated by then.
2006-08-19 00:00:56 · answer #3 · answered by akacleverboy 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Bravo (or brava) for you! Stick to your guns! You will definitely find the guy who is right for you sooner or later, and you will both be much happier, I believe. My wife and I both waited on sex until we were married, and it was so nice not worrying about STDs, unwanted pregnancy, raunchy old boyfriends (or girlfriends) showing up, abortion regrets, etc. I definitely would stay with a girl who was a virgin. In fact, I did not marry until I found a virgin who felt the same way as I did. I dumped the NON-virgins. Don't buy the age-old guy line "if you loved me..." If he REALLY loves you, he'll stand before God and lots of people at your wedding and put a ring on your finger. Anything short of this is playing with fire. Let me give you a hint where to find lots of guys who feel the way you do. They'll be in church, and they'll be there to worship God primarily (and only secondarily to check out the babes). That's where the frisky wife and I met. We've been married for many years, have a nice family, and every day I look at her and thank God for my good fortune. Not that we don't have our fights from time to time...
2006-08-18 23:46:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not a bad thing being virgin, especially if you don't have anyone you really love, but planning to give your virginity only after marriage is bad. You never know when you'll find Mr. Right, but once you do it's stupid do put boundaries around your love and not enjoy completely. We are not living in 18th century anymore and no one will judge you for not being a virgin. Off course everybody would like their first time to be in love, but it's same as kiss. You probably kissed at least once someone you didn't really love. At the end, your husband will love you just as same being virgin or not. Don't do it with any guy, but don't wait for prince in shiny armour. Just find someone nice enough.
I wouldn't dump the girl that doesn't want sex before marriage but i would definitely try to convince her that it's stupid. If she wants to wait couple of months until she checks if I'm OK and if i really love her, it's OK. I would love her even more. But after wards if she still doesn't want it and says that she knows i love her, than i would probably ask myself if there is something wrong with me or her.
2006-08-19 00:15:20 · answer #5 · answered by little smurf 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi! Welcome to the club!
I am 25 years old virgin.
You have your reasons for being virgin and other people should respect them. I completely understand you. There is no thing to be compared with true love. And... It is kinda cool that your husband is the only one in your life.
Virginity mattered a lot before. And after that it meant nothing. But it seems to me that it matters again more and more.
I personally don't wait for wedding night, just for right guy.
You know, when you don't do that early in your life (like 16, 17, 18 years old) you need your first expirience to be something really special. You need to love and be loved. You have to think that it could last forever (although it might not; although nothing is forever).
2006-08-18 23:39:09 · answer #6 · answered by no one 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's your decision and others have to respect that. Especially the guys. I think it is a noble decision of yours. Maybe if everyone waited until married or at the very least have been dating for good long while then we wouldn't have as many social problems in the world. Who knows? We wouldn't know what HIV is. LOL The sexual revolution is over. We lost badly. Monogamy should be the order of the day.
As a guy, I wouldn't dump your instantly just because I might have to put a ring on your finger in order to take your to bed. This is assuming that you are everything I look for in a woman and I enjoy your company. I guess I would have to make a choice to put that ring on your finger, masterbate, or take lots of cold showers. Of course you would have to be willing to at least hold my hand and get close to me. ;)
2006-08-18 23:37:40 · answer #7 · answered by davester1970 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Different strokes for different folks, but may I make a suggestion? I completely respect that you want to do it for love, but will you at least consider doing something for me? Sex is an important part of a relationship. Not number one, but it definitely counts. Since you can't tell if you're sexually compatable with someone unless you have sex, would you consider having sex if you were engaged? It's so much better to know if there are huge problems before you're legally bound to someone. Divorce can be expensive and settling for a marriage with a horrible sex life is never acceptable.
2006-08-18 23:31:02 · answer #8 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think you're doing the right thing. everyone has to do what is right for them personally. i was 23 when i lost my virginity, but i did it because i was sick of not knowing. i am one of those girls who can't get any and wouldn't want any from the guys that do offer. the person i was with is still the only person i've been with, he was a close friend. there was a mutual attraction, more on his side, and we started dating....very soon afterwards i decided to try it. he was not only my first sex partner but he was my first boyfriend and first kiss and everything...all at 23. i definitely respect your decision to wait. do it as long as you can.
2006-08-18 23:37:26 · answer #9 · answered by bored_ass_little_girl 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hold on to it my girl, be proud of yourself. Don't take any crap for having respect of yourself and a mighty level of integrity in waiting for your husband. Your a very strong young woman, with high morals that is surely lacking in todays society. You will find that prince of yours and he will mirror your life integrity, you will have a happy life together. Make a list of all the qualities this partner of yours should possess and to the best of your ability don't settle for 2nd rate anything. I wish you all the happiness in the world and hope the big "D" word never visits your life. Cheers!
2006-08-19 00:04:30 · answer #10 · answered by Ms CMP5260 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you. Hold on to your convictions because in the end what you think of you is way more impotant than what anyone else thinks. I had a friend who was in her thirties and was still a virgin and we didn't think she was odd or wrong we just thought she was particular and smart.
2006-08-19 00:45:01 · answer #11 · answered by donnabbb43 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋