Hey yeah well I was thinking about making our love life a little more kinky by wearing a strap on and doing my b/f in the ***, but he has been refusing to try it. Can any one give me there opinion of it, and possibly a way to convince my b/f to give it a try?
2006-08-18 21:17:03 · 13 answers · asked by Wild and Sexy Cassie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-08-18 21:25:12 · answer #1 · answered by not_prfikt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you have to do is talk openly about it. If it is something that arouses you and you can do something that hey really wnats then it can be an equal trade. I mean if he is refusing to do it he may have linked a strap on to homophobic issues and so forth. Most guys are unwilling to do this....I am not one of them but I understand the issues that go with it. It isn't an easy thing to do. Many guys are really afraid of it natually, after all the anus isn't designed for such activity so use a lot of lube if you ever do this with your husband.
2006-08-20 08:47:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, and from my own experience, I think that strapon play is not a casual sex act, and I think that if your b/f isn't interested now, then it's not that likely you're going to get him interested. I know with some of my kinks, and this is one of them, I LOVE strapon play, it took me a long time to bring my wife around to this issue. If I brought it up and she said Definitely Not, then I thought it best to NOT bring it up again, maybe for months or a year.
Next time I introduced the idea, I'd try it differently. Talk about what I do to her that she likes, tell her what I like that she does to me. Talk about new things to try together. Then while doing something she really likes, I'd introduce some aspect of what I ultimately want and see how receptive she was. I worked her up to huge dildos by starting with a finger, then a small b u t t plug. Now there are times she begs me to do her with a big fat dildo in each hole and with my mouth at the same time!
With strapon play for me, I bought a double dildo, actually a Feeldoe®, and first used it on her. After a couple months, when we were in the middle of a great steamy session, I got her to use it on me manually. Finally, one night when she was tied up and very aroused, I put one end in her then I straddled the other end. It was unbelievably good for both of us! And now she's okay with doing more of it.
My point is, getting someone to like a sexual activity when their first reaction is NO takes time, trust, time, commitment, time and time. I think it's more likely to happen over the course of a long stable marriage than between a g/f and b/f. So evaluate your commmitment to this guy. Do you want to do this so bad you're willing to chase him away? Or do you want to settle down with him for good, and be willing to wait, maybe a long time, before you ever get to do this.
For me, it was worth the wait. We've been married 27 years, and we're still trying new stuff. Who would have thought? And it keeps our relationship fresh, I'm telling you.
2006-08-22 10:41:36 · answer #3 · answered by newbie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Uhm...yeah...if he doesn't want to do it...he obviosly thinks there's something wrong with it. Maybe he doesn't want something foreign crammed in his body. He has that right...it's his body. You may possibly scare him away.
Is there anything wrong with it? To me it would be...to my husband it would be...but for some people...I guess it's not. Depends on the person. To each his own. However...I wouldn't force the issue if I were you, you may end up forcing him right out the door.
2006-08-18 21:25:19 · answer #4 · answered by Lonesome Dove 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no sense in trying to convince your boyfriend to try it. He says he doesn't want to and you should respect those wishes. He probably thinks that's a gay act. It is in my eyes too.
2006-08-18 21:22:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with it. But if your b.f. says no, then he's not going to change his mind. If it's that important to you, move on. Or say you really want to try it and ask if he'll let you try it with someone else. Would you let your b.f. do you in the ***?
2006-08-21 17:10:59 · answer #6 · answered by Hey You 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has to be something he wants. You can always try to ease him into the idea by starting really slowly touching his bottom, licking, fingers... if he reacts badly, respect his wishes and find another spice for your sex life.
2006-08-18 21:25:12 · answer #7 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should tell him that you would like to try out some bondage and tie him down, then tell him about your interest in trying a strap on! sort of make it not optional?
2006-08-18 21:24:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rail road him....get him sent to jail on triumphed up charges and he'll come back to you wanting it in the behind.
Seriously: Leave the poor guy alone....respect that fact it makes him uncomfortable.
2006-08-18 21:29:33 · answer #9 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, I would love to be fcuked up the *** by a chick, answer my last question and we can talk about it
2006-08-18 21:26:32 · answer #10 · answered by allblackskikass 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋