Okay i have a serious question...I am a Christian women if i was to marry a Muslim man how would he treat me?

Question

I must add I know alot about the Islamic religion and know somewhat how they treat the women over there. But i am looking for other peoples personal opinions.

sorry i must add that i am not generalizing all Muslim men, i just hear this and that of things that happen to women over in the Islamic countries so i am more or less looking for the truth.

okay i also want to know would i have to convert to the Islamic religion,which i wouldn't problem with since i do know the religion very well.

Poki Poki...They can marry up to four wives as long as they treat them equally all around

Answer 1

Anyone saying he'll treat you like crap is a gosh dang LIAR. It's obvious they are not Muslim, so they haven't the authority to say one way or another, yet they have the audacity to say such ugly lies. Furthermore, they are obviously bigots, so their answers can be taken as truth, only as the lies that they are. Yeah, I said it. Bigotry of ALL kinds makes my blood BOIL!!!!!!!!!!!

And furthermore, they don't know you, nor do they know him. COME ON!!!

Okay, whew, had to let that one out!

Muslim men are to treat their women like queens. For information about what Muslim men are to do, read the 4th sura in the Qur'an, it's called An-Nisa (Women). No chapter in the Qur'an is dedicated to men specifically, but an entire chapter is dedicated to women. Also, I strongly recommend that you look at these videos. Select "Women" from the drop down list, and watch both videos, left first, then right. Sheikh Yusuf Estes is very eloquent on this. Right now I'm very tired, or I'd share with you some specifics. I will say this though, a Muslim husband can NEVER force his wife to converto to Islam, nor can he prevent her from going to church.

Watch his family, study them. Observe the relationship between him and his mother, this will tell you more than anyone here can.

Btw, CONGRATULATIONS on your engagement!!!

Answer 2

It depends on the type of man he is.
You cannot place any man into any specific category.

You have to spend time with him. Find out what his morals are, see how he treats his family and his friends, what he does for a living, what he's gone through in his life, his political aspirations, how he treats you now, how religious he is (in terms of liberal or conservative)... Conservative Muslims are usually hell to deal with. You want a guy with an open mind. And he should already treat you with respect. If it seems as though he wants control over most things, chances are he'll eventually want control of you.
But in my opinion, that has nothing to do with being a Muslim because if you really think about it, there are many overbearing Christians, Jews, Hindus, ect...
So i believe that it fully depends on the guy.
Spend a lot of time talking with him about religion, politics, world issues, children, sex, life in general.
Find out where he stands.
And if you have a feeling that certain things will go wrong, follow your instincts.
Instincts are usually true for any relationship.

To answer your final question... you don't have to convert to Islam. However, if you like the religion and don't have a problem with it and you find that it helps you, go for it. But if you're happy where you're at, the man should be happy as well.
Religion is not meant to be forced or coerced.

Also, Muslim men are allowed to marry people of the Book which are Christians, Jews, and Muslims. So i really don't think there's anything to worry about there.

Answer 3

Words from a Muslim:

If the husband is religious, and know the rulings & guidelines of how to treat a wife & manage a family, he will definitely treat you as a princess. And remember, Islam is great by itself, Islam is not responsible for activities of a few Muslims. I am not sure what you tried to mean by you know "how they treat their wives", you can't generalize all Muslims and reach a decision. You may go to a good Islamic site and find out what Islam prescribes on how to treat wife and family.

BTW, a proper Muslim will not marry you if you are a non-Muslim.
Beacsue, I know there are 4 major qualities to look into a bride:

1. Religious commitment
2. Beauty
3. Wealth
4. Healthiness.

You fail in the very first condition.

Answer 4

the precise answer to this relies upon upon the denomination and way of existence of the Christian in contact. commonly marriage to a non-Christian is discouraged yet not banned. There are Biblical passages about living a righteous existence as a fashion to rework the non-Christian better half. also, if a believer is married to a non-believer and the non-believer needs a divorce the Bible says to enable the non-believer leave. There are in ordinary words 2 formally known motives for divorce: sexual infedelity and being married to a non-Christian. Do observe that in accordance to Christianity any toddlers born to the marriage could be raised Christian. Do understand also that some cultural practices problem-free in Muslim international locations are banned through Christianity. think ofyou've got cultural as well as religious issues.

Answer 5

what do you mean by " i know how they treat women over there"

for your own information abusing women is a lot worse right here in the good ol' USA!! how many husband killed his wife? and how many wife killed her husband? how many couples are divorced?
and how many wives get beat up every day by their boy Friends or husbands? how many woman is being verbally abused by her man?

here in the great United States of America??

i can honestly say that there are abusive men in the middle east. but what is the middle east?? the middle east is not 1 country you know? not one tradition and people even speak differently!!!

if you compare each country to the US you'll find that the US beats them one by one when it comes to abusing women.

the problem with people here is that they read an article on the Internet and assume that this is the case with ALL middle eastern men and women.

for example many of those middle east countries women are not required to cover their hair and believe it or not they have beaches and women wear bikinis too!! they have night clubs and alcohol. just like any other country out side of the middle east.

people are people!! if a man thinks that his woman shouldn't work and has to stay home and be a house wife doesn't mean his religion made him think that way.

i see tons of women here in the US that are forced to not work and all they do is raise the kids and make food for their husbands or boy Friends.

or even they go out and make the money to support her husband's or boy Friends drug habits!! YEAH RIGHT HERE.

listen,
marriage has nothing to do with ones religion or tradition.

and by the way, true Muslims don't cheat on their wives, don't drink alcohol, don't gamble, very family oriented, and lover and care for their wives and kids. that's what a true Muslim man is.
and also only marry one wife NOT FOUR.

as for bad behavior it's in every culture and every religion.

how many men cheat on their wives here in the US? and you think they are very respectful members of the community and turn out to be pedophiles or gay!! huh?

so please try to understand that each culture has its good and bad.

as for marrying a Muslim/Arab man you can date for a while, if you think both of you understand and love each others then why not get married? it's only natural.

the same goes for an American man or an Australian man or an English man or an Indian man whatever you know!!!

women get abused in the US and any where in the world by abusive men from any where in the world.

Answer 6

Before you do that be sure to know all the facts about the Muslim religion and the women place in it, you could be shocked by the differences of the western and eastern social life style and religion. But in the end all depends on what kind of person is your future husband.

Answer 7

Being a Muslim man has nothing to do with how he will treat you. The question is, what kind of man is he period? Is he kind, considerate, loving, caring, or is he angry, hateful, and mean? Forget for a moment that he is Muslim and just judge him as a man. How does he treat you? I married a Muslim man and there are some wonderful things about him and some not so wonderful things about him but again it has nothing to do with him being Muslim.

Answer 8

Have you seen the movie "Not without my daughter?" with Sallie Fields.(BASED ON A TRUE STORY) It shows you how the problem is not the religion but the culture and the "Muslim laws" (which are not even based on a sane interpretation of the Qu'ran) in these countries that support a very abussive behavior. Violence and abuse against women also happen in the Western countries but we are appauled and try to stop it. The problem is that in the Muslim countries it is not only Acceptable but required for men to do horrible things to women. Often a brother or father feel very proud of themselves, to for example for burn their sister/daughter alive, if for example, she was found out dating the worng guy or "disgraced the family's honor somehow." The worst is that their mothers and sisters help them find them when the victims try to hide. Did you know that in many Muslim countries (although in a few they are trying to do away with that "custom") parents cut off their little girl's clitoris and part of their vaginas and saw them shutt so that they are never able to experience and orgasm. In their culture if they dont get this done, they can never marry. No man will have them. And since women can not own property in many of these countries, they will not be abl e to survive without a man. Well, honey, the list of abuses is countless and too horrible to go on. And if you think your man is not one of them, that he is quite modern, well, think again. You are not marrying just him, but his family too. And you may not be all together in one country now but who is to say they will never come to the US or you wont ever have to go there either.

Answer 9

Is he a devout Muslim? Born in another country where Islam is huge? If so then no... he will not treat you good, but only because of your religion...

If he isn't so religious or was born in America, chances are that he'll treat you like a princess

Answer 10

A very good question. A Muslim man should and hopefully would treat with you with the utmost respect. Christians are our brothers and sisters as well, and Muhammed (PBUH) paid special attention to the respect of other faiths and genders.