My maid of honour has stressed me out from the begining by saying rude comments and not being there for me. She threw me a nice shower but at the end of the shower ended up fighting with some of the bridesmaids. Then she insisted on telling everyone how much she spent on the shower and that my wedding has done nothing but stress her out. So now she has decided that she won't be going along for my bachlorette party because she doesn't care for the other girls. I asked her to please just get along with them for one night just for me and that it means alot to me if she attended. She then told me No and that she feels like she is planning a High School prom. Everything out of her mouth is negative. All my bridesmaids,( which there are alot) seem to all get along. My maid of honour is the problem. Should i be mad at her for not attending the bachlorette party. It is something i will never forget! I have so much anger towards her now that i don't ever want to speak to her again. Am i wrong?
2006-08-18 20:35:55 · 30 answers · asked by millington550 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
No you are not wrong...but consider it a blessing and a "gift" that she's not attending your bachelorette party. She would probably make a scene and ruin your evening anyway, be rude to the other attendants, and just add to your stress. So have fun at the party without her, have a beautiful, memorable wedding day...and an even more beautiful married life! I wish you and your soon-to-be-husband the best in your future together!
2006-08-18 20:42:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think ur wrong. This is a special occasion and only those who want to wish U well should celebrate with U. Have U thought about how she really feels about ur getting married? Could she be jealous? Could she be drunk w/ authority, because she is ur maid of honour? Whatever the reason, she needs to know how U feel. And if she can't participate and be happy, maybe she should be cut out the festivities. If she is already causing a ruckus, what might she do at the wedding? Be careful. U don't want one of the most important events in ur life to turn into a fiasco. Maybe excluding her from the bachlorette party might just be the kick in the pants she needs to prepare her for ur big day.
2006-08-18 21:00:40 · answer #2 · answered by Timber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, you should be angry at her for shirking her responsibilities - as Maid of Honour, she is supposed to be the one planning the bachelorette party, not just attending it. I'm assuming your bridesmaids have graciously stepped in here and planned the night instead which is great because it's not their job at all. In fact, if they are the one's that planned it, that might be why she is angry, however unrational that anger may be. In the long run, I wouldn't worry too much about her not attending the bachelorette party because she will probably make it another negative experience if she did attend. Just have fun and have a good night and make sure she shows up on time the day of the ceremony.
2006-08-19 00:05:29 · answer #3 · answered by Patricia D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your maid of honor should be present at your bachelorette party. You two are going to have to have a heart to heart. Ask her what has stressed her so much about your events. Let her know how much you appreciate her efforts. Talk to the bridesmaids about the issue(s) they have with her, in effort to get them to civil to each other. If none of them still refuse to put forth an effort, let them know that this is YOUR day, and to grow up and deal with it.
You also need to let your maid of honor know how she has insulted you, hurt your feelings, and makes you feel stressed by her behavior and hurtful comments. This is not for her, this is all for you. However, if she is the only wet blanket, let her miss the party. Show her all the fun pictures some time after your wedding is over, see how she feels then.
2006-08-18 20:44:59 · answer #4 · answered by *~*~*~~~His Angel~~~*~*~* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not wrong at all! If I was in the same position...close friend or not she would be out of the wedding party and I wouldn't feel bad about it at all. This is suppose to be your special day and if she has been acting this way in the planning of your wedding I can just imagine how much she will be stressing you out on the day of it. Friends like that you don't need enemies. Sounds like she is a wee bit jealous maybe : ).
P.S. I hope you do have a great wedding !
2006-08-18 20:43:52 · answer #5 · answered by Curious Salli 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW!!! This is your special day and you are babysitting your Maid of Honor! I'm my sister's Maid of Honor in November - and there is no way I wouldn't be there for her bachelorette party! There is one girl that I don't particularly care for in her wedding party but it's NOT MY WEDDING, it's my sister's and I want her day to be perfect. So I button up my lips and watch her have a good time planning her special day. Your maid of honor needs to grow up, but it doesn't sound like she is going to before your wedding. In order to keep the peace (which isn't technically your job) why not invite her to a breakfast with just the two of you and T-A-L-K about this. Maybe she feels jealousy because you are the center of attention (duh - you're supposed to be. Some girls can't take not being in the spotlight) or that you are closer with the other bridesmaids. Remind her that you chose HER to be your MOH for a reason and that you NEED her (women react when they are NEEDED) to be involved in every aspect of your wedding. See how that goes - and good luck.
2006-08-19 06:57:13 · answer #6 · answered by shimmerplanet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are definetely not wrong. Your maid of honor is supposed to be the person closest to you...your best friend, your sister. If she has a problem with the other girls, she needs to just suck it up and deal with it because this is your special day and she should make you feel your most special, not be causing you stress. She needs to be the one trying to take all the stress away from you, not creating it! Thats partly her job as maid of honor! If I were you, I'd get a different maid of honor because it seems like she is obviously not a true friend to you.
2006-08-19 01:36:35 · answer #7 · answered by beckyt_82 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-29 10:40:44 · answer #8 · answered by schugmann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not wrong, she should grow up and realise it is not her special time. You are getting married , not her and it sounds like she is jealous. She was obviously a special person to pick as your maid of honour, and you choose her. If someone had asked me to be their maid of honour, I would be over the moon and also bear in mind the teachings of Mrs Manners.. Which is to remember who;s wedding it is and the special job the matron of honour requires. She obviously is jealous that you are the special one at the moment.
2006-08-18 20:41:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The main point of a maid of honor is to help the bride, not stress her out even more. I'd replace her immediately. She'll fight, but I'd say once, you are causing me too much stress and we can discuss it after the wedding. Then cut her out until after the wedding.
2006-08-18 20:43:05 · answer #10 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋