i found out my boyfriend did some drugs and he lie to my face. now that i ask 1 month later cuz i am so sure he admits to it and said cuz i am against it that is why he lied. well now where is the trust...should i stay with him he says he only did it a short time and is done...hummmmmm what do you think
2006-08-18 20:24:46 · 21 answers · asked by exray726 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's all up to whether or not you trust him from now on. If you believe him and know without a doubt that now he's truthful then I say give him another chance. But if you still can't trust him you have to move on or you will always be paranoid that he's being untrustworthy.
2006-08-18 20:30:39 · answer #1 · answered by gocecigo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is just me, but I would leave him. I've dated a guy that did drugs too and I was young and I didn't like it. I never touched the stuff, but yet I was still involved with him. Do what is best for you. I don't know how long you've been with him, but if it's a short time, do you know how his habits are? He shouldn't have lied to you. Yeah you're against it, but it doesn't make it right to lie and hide it from you. Isn't it worse to lie and hold a secret than to be honest and upfront? It's ultimately your decision.
2006-08-18 20:32:07 · answer #2 · answered by jeann1220 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what drugs he's doing, but you should get away from him as fast as you can. I just got away from an addict, and in order to have him stay out of my life, we have to be in different states. He conned me out of money, stole from me, and became extremely abusive when he was withdrawing and/or I would not give him money. The drugs completely took over his mind. All he thought about was doing drugs, and how he would get more drugs. He would do anything to get more, and he didn't care who he hurt. Everything he said was a lie. As for your b/f, he tried drugs. Not exactly good, but many people experiment. He also lied about it. He may be ashamed of doing them, or he is scared to admit he has a problem. Unless you are absolutely sure he is clean, stay away!
2006-08-18 20:39:57 · answer #3 · answered by nicisprite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you care about him you should stay with him. If he's put it in the past, then forget about it and move on. A large percentage of the population have at least experimented with drugs, and many are regular users of some substance or another, many of them are legally sanctioned by the government such as alcohol, tobacco and caffeine. Just because you have taken drugs at some stage of your life doesn't make you a bad person, but if your dependancy affects your job, family then you are in trouble. I would say that he lied to you hoping that you would never find out because he's ashamed, and would prefer to forget about it, and you shouldn't take it personally.
2006-08-18 20:33:08 · answer #4 · answered by Wotan210 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Drugs are a thing that most humans have a natureal curiosity for. My borfriend is the same and didn't want to hurt me, but give him the chance to show you that he no longer dose drungs. Just know that his values are different from yours. He will respect them and not do drugs. Just trust him. He has lived and learned formt hat path and he has become a better person for it. He knows it is bad and he wont touch them any more. Just have faith.
2006-08-18 20:30:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everytime I threatened to leave my ex he stopped doing drugs for a short time but then always went back to them it eventually ended with I was trying to "change" him just because I wasn't willing to go to jail for his drugs.As for the lying part if you don't have trust you have nothing and as for the fact that he lied to you then he never RESPECTED you to begin with.
2006-08-18 20:32:00 · answer #6 · answered by fiery_ember 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first what kind of drug did he do?was it his first time?why did he do them?and why did he lie?if it something you are totally against why are u still with him?did u ever ask yourself that? i would its a small white lie its not that he killed someone yes i agree there needs to be drust in a relationship but he obviously new you would be mad so give me some more info here
2006-08-18 20:31:31 · answer #7 · answered by nvvlewis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. Drugs, lying, what is next... You deserve better. If he lied to your face about this, he is capable of lying to you about anything. And if you are against it, stick to what you believe. There are plenty of guys who wont lie and do drugs behind your back out there, hold your standard. Be proud you are against it.
2006-08-18 20:31:47 · answer #8 · answered by Carey L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's something you will have to have a long discussion about. Let him know that while it's not ok to do these things, he should feel comfortable enough to tell you if he is or isn't. Take it from there. Get him help, if that's what you feel are the steps he should be taking.
2006-08-18 20:30:23 · answer #9 · answered by no_um_4_u 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hes lieing to u. its not a hard fact to comprehend that some guys lie to stay with girls thay think are hot. he probally is using u as a trophy to his friends and dosent relly care about u. my ex-beast friend did that to a really nice girl. i felt bad for this girl and i kicked this guys ***. then i wound up geting suspended from school!
2006-08-18 20:34:53 · answer #10 · answered by perrydog 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋