You would help me out most kindly. Have a lovely day.
2006-08-18 20:04:53 · 51 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I use this one alot. I tell them I am not ready for anyone in my life right now, I am still hurting over my ex. Sometimes I set them up with my sister and then when they come back, I tell them I can't date you, that would hurt my sister.
2006-08-18 20:08:52 · answer #1 · answered by kitty cat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how you do it, telling someone you are not interested in them, when they are interested in you is painful for everyone. After all who wants to be rejected? As humans one of our basic needs is belongingness/connectedness and being told your feelings are not returned takes a little of that away.
What ever you say it has to be your words and it has to be from your heart. As noted by many folks here, honesty is the best way to go. It is bad enough to be rejected, you don't want to insult her intelligence or value as a person with some fruity made up story.
You seem like a nice guy so go with the honesty, it's more work for you, because a lie is easy, but if you really want to be sweet and humble you'll put in the effort. I think you're goal is to protect her dignity, that's why it has to be honest.
P.S. from what I have seen of your questions and answers so far...I don't think you really need our help, but this question is definitely a reflection of the fact that you are a kind hearted person.
P.P.S. you are extremely charming, this can't be the first time you've been faced with this situation...
2006-08-19 00:04:07 · answer #2 · answered by Kaoss 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well firstly by finding your own bloody words may help, rather than getting tips from a bunch of faceless strangers, who, a lot of them, in my opinion, are not qualified to get themselves dresssed in the morning.
You seem like an intelligent and articulate man and one would assume that the lady in question is the same, so I'm pretty sure she'll catch your drift.
Look, really do you honestly think there is a nice way? Well there isn't... the only advice I can give, is try not to be too much of a d1ckhead, do it quickly, in and out, and don't hang around for the tears.
EDIT : LOL... Scrap my advice... go with Pradeep K... no not very nice... but Oliver, I think you need to find the ***** hidden within!
2006-08-18 20:17:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a horrible feeling you won't like the way the first one turns out. To ease the blow go for the compliment sandwich.
1. YOu really wowed the executive from Cincinnati last week.
2. You have stinky dog farts
3. YOu look like snoopy and it makes me smile.
Good then bad, then good.
I would drop hints during the half past innocent flirting phase. Some chicks are really into the relationship thing and are totally crushed to know you don't feel the same.
2006-08-18 20:10:30 · answer #4 · answered by alwaysmoose 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whichever the case may be:
Either tell them that you are not really looking for a relationship right now
or
that you are already in a relationship with someone that you really care about & do not want to hurt them. "Them "meaning the person that you are saying it to & your current partner.
Be strong & firm.
Just make sure that it is said BEFORE the relationship becomes more than friendship. Expect them to be a little hurt, but better they be a little hurt now than a lot later.
2006-08-21 12:02:53 · answer #5 · answered by Selkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's late. This is the best I could come up with...
Just tell her that you are not interested in forming a duo with her.
Then go away for a little while and take no calls.
There's nothing worse than being rebuked by a man and then have to clap eyes on him daily.
A fortnight should do it.
Or set her up with a single friend of yours. By accident of course.
Or go back to living in Paris!
2006-08-21 13:20:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best way to do something like this is to try to be honest tempered with kindness and consideration. I think you have to say that she's a wonderful lady but at this point in your life you're not in a position to have a relationship with her and that you're sorry about that and that you want her to have happiness in her life. Good luck and it's nice that you care about her feelings.
2006-08-18 20:09:35 · answer #7 · answered by jljdc 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is it just her you are not intereted in having a relationship with or is it just relationships in general. If you're not into them at all then you should have said right from beginning if its just her then be honest and tell her that you are just not that into her and that you don't feel you want to let it drift on when you feel there is no potential. Honesty is ALWAYS the best policy.
2006-08-19 04:52:38 · answer #8 · answered by gypsyeyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being honest and to the point but yet be gentle. I would say something like I think you are really a great person but at this time, I am not ready to commit into a relationship.
2006-08-18 20:09:51 · answer #9 · answered by sadealz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think being hurt by hearing the truth is better than hearing an unreasonable or odd excuse that may confuse her.but if u dont want to tell her directly u can say that she is like ur sister or u r not ready for a relationship at the time or that u have sb in ur life.
2006-08-18 20:15:43 · answer #10 · answered by nirvana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a real lovely lady and I enjoyed your company. However, I feel that I am rather occupied right now and would not be be comitting to anything other than work in foreseeable future.
Time is precious and I would not want to keep your youth to myself. Nice to have you as a friend and keep in touch!
2006-08-18 20:15:11 · answer #11 · answered by Baby_Apocalypse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋