sanctity of marriage?

Question

why do we make such a large fuss over gay marriage and not the divorce rate?
the devorce rate effects a lot more people.
when asking about gay marriage i hear kids need a mom and dad so why not attack the devorce rate, the major cause of single parents????

madforMAC
i would like you to try telling that to a black person regarding salvery and civil rights.
oh you should just accept common law.
my guess is you would meet your maker not long after

Answer 1

apples and oranges

Divorce is bad
Gay marriage is wrong
Single parents - it's sad

UPDATE - it is not WRONG to have an opinion against something.
Are you in favor of killing? NO
Are you in favor of stealing? NO
Are you in favor of gays getting married? NO
See - it happens all the time. People have opinions.

Answer 2

I agree with what you say about divorce rates and the adverse effect this can have upon children; likewise the careless conception and consequent abandonment of children by one or both parents. However I think at least part of the problem with public acceptance of 'Gay Marriages' is the use of the emotive word 'marriage', so long associated with heterosexual unions and the traditional family unit. Perhaps the term 'Civil Partnership' as used in the UK is less likely to get people's hackles up.

Answer 3

Well for one Marriage was instituted by God. Marriage was ordained by God from the beginning with a man and a woman. The purpose of the marriage is to join a man and woman to gether , for one it is a parallel Of what Christ and the church have. The same picture is shown in the songs of soloman. The relationship of the man and woman in the story was that of christ and the church.

So that when a man and woman marry they have a perfect example to follow. That is of Christ and the church

Jesus layed down his life for her. He gave it so that she could be made whole and in this example we learn to love our lives as Christ loved the church.

God knows people divorce ,He is not FOR divorce but he knows that people will do it. If people would conform to the way of God Maybe the divorce rate would't be so high to begin with. But like everything else ..they take God out of it ...marriage ...life and so on...by doing so they are writing a prescription for failure for their lives and marriage. So do you think allowing gay marriage is going to help this matter?...No the likely hood is in time even the gays would get divorces. Go figure...you see man has a nature that is not satisfied and adding another element like another relationship will not fill the void....the only one that can do that is Jesus. His life , his sacrifice, his example ,his blood and his resurrection. Nothing more.nothing less.

Divorce will always be around gay or straight...but to do the thing that is an abomination in the sight of God is far more worse and a mockery of what God ordained...

Needless to say where heading for the end..it doesn;t surprise me people would warm up to such a thing...
Let me say for the record ..I am NOT homophobic...I am not biased...I just don't agree to what God forbid...that is my right. I love the soul ..not the sin....I know people I work around who are gay ...I would never mean any harm to them...I would that God move in his purpose ..and not mans..God bless

Answer 4

I like the daily show's take on this being that the sanctity of divorce is between a man and a woman. It's pathetic that the divorce rate is through the roof but rather than dealing with the fact that stupid people get married every day and are completely incapable of raising children yet they have them... they are still allowed to. Yet gay people are not allowed to even get married. What happened to at least giving them civil unions? Our society treats gays just as they treated blacks back when slavery was just abolished. We aparently don't think gay people are human. After this many years can we still not accept that some people are different?

There is no religion in this world that says being gay is wrong. I've read the bible and I've deeply studied it. There is no solid evidence that says that being gay is wrong. Those lines that christians typically refer to in the bible talk about men demoralizing others through unholy acts with a man or woman's body. It does not say specifically that it is wrong for two men or two women to be together. Don't try to say it does because I've studied and discussed it with priests. Only the catholic church and those who can't accept a progressive world will not accept gay people into our culture.

This is the reason there are wars. Because there is no tollerance. Yet it's stupidity that causes intollerance. Yet we are tollerant of stupidity and ignorance. All religions tell you not to tollerate ignorance. All religions say to seek knowledge. How many religious people follow that?

Answer 5

Marriage is an important social construct which helps keep families together, and as someone has already said, was probably designed to compel men to support their children. Obviously, this was before the advent of the CSA (LOL!!).
As far as sanctity is concerned, I'm not sure I agree with that aspect. In my pagan faith, marriage is a private matter concerning the two individuals. It can be ended if both parties are in agreement and divorce does not come into it. As far as gay marriage is concerned, I have never been able to see a problem. It fulfils its social function of helping people to act monogomously, especially if there are children involved. It also means that gay people get the same tax and social benefits that straight couples do. NOT having this amounts to sexual discrimination.
I think that the divorce rates are a matter of huge concern, again mainly because of the children who suffer, but I think that a lot of it is caused by people rushing into marriage through social pressure, by economic problems and through infidelity. These are problems that have always existed, it's just that nowadays people can get an "easy" way out of them. I do think that divorce should be made a bit harder, as if people have made that commitment then they shouldn't just be able to walk away without making any effort to save the marriage, but ultimately, what is the point in keeping people in an unhappy union?

Sorry that this is a bit of a mixed answer, but it is a mixed question!

ps: To those of you who are writing that marriage was "ordained by God" - I think that you should know that the Book of Genesis has been heavily edited and that before Eve, Adam actually had two more "wives". One was unnamed - made of sand too and thus Adam's equal. He didn't like that much so he "divorced" her. Then came Lilith. She refused to accept the "recumbent position" (missionary position) in sex, so Adam threw her out of the Garden with God's blessing. Then he got Eve - made from his flesh she was the most submissive of his THREE brides - and even she cocked-up big style!

Answer 6

As more information and stereotypes are put aside, more and more people are accepting of gay marriage.

People are misunderstanding what gay marriage is. Gays aren't looking for a marriage accepted by religion, they are looking for marriage accepted by the state. They are two totally different things. What is right and wrong in the eyes of God has nothing to do with what decision is to be made by the President, judges or government. We have a separation of church and state specifically for this kind of reason. We don't need one set of morality interfering with the rights of others to believe what they want. Any two consenting adults should be allowed to tie the knot if they want.

Answer 7

You are 100% correct. No one says anything to the person who has 3 or more marriages/divorces and children from each.

I have no problem with Gay Marriage, all for it. Children do not need a Mom and a Dad, they need a loving home. If that home happens to be with two dad's or too mom's, then albeit. How many children grow up in single parent homes or with brothers and sisters or aunts and uncles, and still turn out fine? Almost all of them, why? because its a loving home. Its the children of divorced parents that turn out differently. * I am generalizing and not not saying everyone is like this*

Some of the biggest anti homosexuals are in fact homosexual.

Answer 8

marriage is a great blessing. i got married last year, and it WILL LAST! i know that when we have kids, they are gonna grow up having a loving mother and father. i don't agree with gay marriages, they are just wrong. but one point that everyone here missed so far is how it will be for the kids growing up with gay parents. although it seems today to be accepted as gay, kids, when growing up are far more cruel. you say its better for kids to grow up with two loving gay parents than have a single parent family, well try telling that to the child when they are surrounded by 20 other kids in the playground, being bullied because they have gay parents. I've never heard of kids being bullied for having a single parent, have you?

Answer 9

It would be better to concentrate on the divorce rate & the children who are damaged by it. Though I'm not sure if it's the major cause of single parents, many women manage to have children without marriage or a spouse.

Answer 10

The "sanctity of marriage" arguement is largely bull. Preventing gay marriage isn't going to make anyone get married that would otherwise not have gotten married. There are some marriages who won't fit the archetype, but those aren't the ones in which the archetype is going to be important in (ala raising children, except for adoption, but in those cases, you really need MORE families adopting kids anyway). It just doesn't really make sense...

Answer 11

I wish more Christians (I'm just assuming you are a Christian) thought like you.

I think a bigger fuss is made over gay marriage because a lot of people simply don't like homosexuals...that's the picture I get from a lot of homosexuality related questions posted here.