ok my ex boyfried(my first) told me that he still loved me even though its a YEAR after we broke up, and i still love him... 2 of my bff's say i shouldnt even talk to him and the other 2 give me mixed opinions on what i should do, so i turn to u guys!!! HELP
2006-08-18 19:15:53 · 19 answers · asked by **XOXOX*ms. independent*XOXOX** 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Depends on why you broke up. If he cheated, I dunno...I'd say forget him.
If he just did typical immature stuff but he's grown up now, maybe you two can try again.
2006-08-18 19:19:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might love him forever. But, love doens't meanm you guys need to be together. If you couldn't trust him before, you probably not trust him again.
If talking to him harms any of your other relationships then don't talk to him. If your connection could spell trouble then stay away.
And if he says he still loves you- and wants to start the relationship again, then make the decision then. Some times humans can't make a decision until we are in the moment.
So, don' t think about it so much the answer will come to you
when you need it.'
2006-08-19 02:37:47 · answer #2 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not the point of whether you trust him or not but what do you do about it. Make up your mind about what future you see between the two of you and ask your friends only for a certain advice, the decision is yours to take even though your friends try to protect you. Even if you go back with him and regret it, the break up should be easier the second time and you won't regret not taking the risk.
2006-08-19 02:22:44 · answer #3 · answered by Don Magias 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY shouldnt you talk to him. That is the meat of the question. But other than that, Im a big fan of the "try it once and move on" rule. There are way too many fish in the sea to keep going back to one who keeps messing up, or messing you up.
2006-08-19 02:23:35 · answer #4 · answered by starlet_8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He loves you, talk to him, dont treat him like a stranger. Y'all broke up for some reason which is most likely the best thing for you both. Love is LOVE. Talk to the guy on a small friendly basis.
2006-08-19 02:20:30 · answer #5 · answered by King Of All Kings 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be real with yourself. No matter what anyone says or tells you in their opinion you should do, only you know what your heart and head are telling you. You will ultimately make that decision on your own no matter what anyone says. Not knowing the whole situation I feel that you more than likely really want to see if things might work out this time or you wouldn't be asking this question. Is this individual someone who you really and truly loved? I mean like the real deal? If so I would say go for it. The real deal of that thump in your heart feeling may suffice several times in your life, but in my personal experience that gut renching true dying love only really happens once. Sure you may move on and love again, but if it's the real deal then you will never feel the crazy out of control tingly butterflies in your stomach with a certain one. I may be wrong, in this case, but, if you were hurt by that particular one that made you feel all the real deal feelings than you more than likely have the wall of china up as your guard. If that is the case then like myself, that will only happen with one. It has been about 9 years since I left the one and only true love of my life that made me feel all those feelings, and I was very hurt numerous times before I left him. But, I knew when I did it I would never ever feel about anyone that way ever again. It was really sad to me. Now I am happily married, not to him, I guess our timing was always off. I believe everything happens for a reason and I love my husband to death, and would never do anything to jepordize our relationship. But my wall I built is still there and yes I think about what might have been and I really know that he was the only one I would feel that way about in my entire life, so I try to distance myself from him and that part of my life. However, he was definitely the one I had it really bad for and I know deep inside we will both always love each other, but I couldn't put my life on hold forever and wait for him to grow up. Just go with your heart, and if it is real you will know it, and maybe you guys could give it a second shot. If you don't feel that strongly then don't. But whatever you do, the best advice I have is that if this person is the person in your life I described, then go for it. True love is wonderful, it hurts, and it doesn't come by very often. Go with your gut. You already know what you want to do, and even if it doesn't work out and one of you get hurt, you won't have to spend the rest of your life wondering. That is a hard pill to swallow. Good luck. If it is truly meant to be it will be no matter what! Hope I helped! Go for it if you feel it. Get away from it if you don't. Everything will work itself out over time...... be cautious and patieint if you are afraid of hurt. I could go on and own, but I will hush now. Do what you want to do inside and only you know that! :)
2006-08-19 02:48:07 · answer #6 · answered by Amber T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its up to you if you trust him. if there is not trust in a relationship there shouldnt be one because trust is the basis of any good relationship. read more on dating and love on this site
2006-08-19 02:19:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOOK GO OUT 4 a coke. TALK. SEE if the sparks still fly.THEN YOU WILL KNOW.
2006-08-19 02:20:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can talk to him and take things slow but I would hesitate to let him back into your life.
2006-08-19 02:18:59 · answer #9 · answered by Kelli 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
was it a bad or good realtionship? if it was good and you still love him, go for it! if he cheated or was mean, hell just hurt you again. what ever you do, dont be niaeve
2006-08-19 02:21:22 · answer #10 · answered by norbet8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋