her bf is simply over-possisive and threw my whole family life into chaos for a yr alr. He's always picking on my sis every few days and recently when i confronted him, he actually scolds me and hung up the phone! he's an MCP who thinks he's always right and i'm freaking irritated with the fact that my sis's not breaking up.
2006-08-18 19:11:36 · 19 answers · asked by Bubu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
So HE's the one who thinks HE's always right, is that it?
It sounds like he is not the only one.
Let your sister deal with. If your family doesn't like him, then it is up to the head of your family to tell him not to come around, and have your sister meet him elsewhere. If the head of your family does not do this, then it is likely that he/she does not feel the same as you do.
Seriously. Some people should read their own posts.
2006-08-18 19:22:07 · answer #1 · answered by Jim T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you shld be involved in your sis relationship, it might even caused you relationship with you sister to go bad.
It is her choice, and she choose who she wants to go out with. I guess as family members, you can only advice her, talk to her, tell her repeatly but nicely, why is it that the whole family is against the guy. but at the end, its still your sister's choice.
I guess by what you have mentioned, you sis has to only learn it from the hard way. Maybe she has her reasons for staying on with this guy, or she feels that the guy might be MCP but is treating her real nicely.
If you really care for your sister, then you shld find a time where u and your family together with your sis, sit down and talk it out. Knock some sense into her, and tell her why the whole family is feeling miserable, because all of you care for her, and don't want her to be unhappy in a unhealthy realtionship.
2006-08-22 17:04:10 · answer #2 · answered by smilepeepz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately its not in your hands. The more pressure you put on her the more she will resist. Try the opposite approach. Give her all the understanding you can and be there for her. Start being kind , gentle, loving and understanding and maybe she will open up to you and lower the barrier. That way she will be more receptive and began to listen. After all that is what you want...her attention. Then when she does, do not criticize...offer comfort and positive advice. Sooner or later she will realize that he is not good for her and will take action. If you have done a good job at staying close to her, she will ask for your advice and help.
Afterwards you can celebrate and toast your renewed companionship.
2006-08-18 19:27:03 · answer #3 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe your sis is old enough to choose her own bf. Sometimes if the family interfere too much, things will turn for a worst. As part of the family member, u should respect her decision even though u may not like her bf. If u interfere too much in their relationship, it may actually sour you and your sis relationship. I think it is not a good thing to happen coz afterall she is your sis.
2006-08-19 01:10:54 · answer #4 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You enable him bypass. There are in uncomplicated words 2 sorts of fellows in the international. those that opt to be with you and those that do not. i do no longer by technique of this BS "oh lets be harm down the line." Oh who supplies a f*ck. He might want to be hit by technique of a bus the following day crossing the line, does that recommend he might want to by no skill flow the line back. All relationships run the threat of failure, inspite of the undeniable fact that the in uncomplicated words way they could prevail is in case you actually have a courting. he's both a coward or a fool. enable him bypass and want that he sees by skill of the years the huge mistake he made.
2016-11-26 01:16:22 · answer #5 · answered by rolfes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing u need to do is "butt out" u've given ur oppinion, u've stated ur case, and she knows how he is, and still wants to be with him , so if shes that dumb, then let her be, she'll learn the hard way, and if ur family feels that strong about this relationship then instead of trying to save her, maybe its time for tuff love and basically withdraw from her till she gets away from the idiot, cause obviously she doesnt want to be saved..
2006-08-18 19:22:07 · answer #6 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you from experience that if you try to talk her into leaving him, she could possibly get upset and think you are trying to control her life, etc. We know when things aren't great but what is worse is hearing someone we love tell us that our choice of a bf is crappy. Just be patient and supportive....she will see in time.
2006-08-18 19:15:54 · answer #7 · answered by Kelli 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A) stay out of her business or B) make him disappear if you catch my drift. Either way, she's grown and she's going to do what she wants to do. So stay out of it unless he hits her. Even in situations like that, the woman has to see for herself she's in a relationship that is not healthy for her.
2006-08-18 19:16:43 · answer #8 · answered by Jazzybinature 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
use reverse psychology on her. Start to like him and be on his side. Push the two of them together. Talk about marriage and children. The more you protest her relationship, the more exciting it will seem to her
2006-08-18 19:16:55 · answer #9 · answered by jr90292 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your sisters decision, But youu could talk to her and help her realise what he's doing. Or one day when she's finally had enough she'll break and she'll do it herself
2006-08-18 19:17:29 · answer #10 · answered by HAiiRCLiiP 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋