cheated on again?

Question

my so called "girlfriend " broke with me about 2 months ago, but the other night she told me that she had been dating other guys off and on and she was just recently seeing someone else, she broke up with him, but she's 3 months pregnant. claims that she didnt now how to tell me because she didnt want to lose my friendship and she didnt want to hurt me. claims that i want ambitous enough for her, but when i dont become ambitious enough than i could call her. she also clamis that see still loves me....go figure

i have only been in 3 serious relationships and all three times i have been cheated on.

i could understand if i was cheating too, but i never cheated in none of my relationships. was always honest and up front about everything. was always supportive etc. never abusive physically or verbally. thats not enough i guess.

whats enough these days. you wonder to yourself if there are any single women out here left that appreciates a gentleman.

just a thought.

Answer 1

You shouldn't get back together with her. I think you know that as well. What you should do is figure out why you are attracted to women who seem to think it is ok to use you. I suggest staying away from women for a while and find out what the source of your low self esteem is. Is there something hanging out there, uncompleted, that makes you feel badly about yourself? Is there some unresolved issue, something you have to stand up to? Maybe taking time to take inventory of this will help you realize some positive action you can actively do to make your self esteem grow. Even if you can't accomplish exactly what it was that you need to, the effort will probably make you feel better. And once you have healed yourself, or taken care of what you need to do, maybe then you will find a woman who will respect you - as much as you respect yourself. But you are fine on your own as well! Good luck!

Answer 2

Just a thought,
Perhaps you find yourself attracted to women that are emotionally unstable, the type that need to cheat. Because you are so nice and stable, they realize they can do whatever and you will keep them around and by cheating on you they are testing your 'love'.

You need to think about dating some one secure in themself, that is interested in investing in you and not just what you can give them.

Good luck....chivery is not dead.

Answer 3

i really feel for you i had a boyfriend who i thought was the most sweetest thing until one night i knocked of work early went home to find my boyfriend in bed with my cousins who both say they had been doing so for a few months i know how you must feel just keep your head up you will find the right person who isn't all that bad we're females we all can't be perfect

Answer 4

You need to ask yourself why. Take a look at yourself in the mirror because it's obvious that your lacking something somewhere that's needed in your relationships. Your girlfriends are getting that elsewhere.

Answer 5

Sorry for your luck and sorry to all the people out there who have been victims of a cheater. I believe there are more cheaters out there than faithful people.

Answer 6

"i have only been in 3 serious relationships and all three times i have been cheated on."
.....get some self-esteem training and some relationship training!

Answer 7

well, join the club!
i am unfortunately attracted to low life scumbags, too...liars, cheaters, lazy, good for nothing so called men...i guess it just takes trial and error, i don't know...i remain single and loving it!

Answer 8

not all people are lucky with love. so the best thing to do is move on and hope the next one would be better. try and try until you succeed.

Answer 9

well u deserve better just move on n dont talk to her ever again