A girl saving herself for the guy she marries.....?

Question

Ok, guys, a serious question:
When you unmarried guys do finally decide to marry, do you want a woman who has saved herself for you(emotionally, physically), or does it matter that much in your opinion?
I am a girl who is trying her best to do just that. Physically, I've done well, but emotionally its been harder.
Do you respect girls like that, or do you think they're missing out on a lot of fun?
Personally, I think it will be worth the wait. : )

Wow, thanks for all the comments everyone!
And for all of you who are trying to do the same.... keep it up! I know it is VERY hard sometimes, especially when someone really wants you and lets you know it, but stay strong! You won't regret it.

~ Heidi

And yes, I do hope to marry a man who has saved himself for me, although I do understand it seems to be a lot to ask for these days. That's why I will appreciate it all the more. : )

Answer 1

Yes, hun, save yourself and give your husband a gift of clueless, inexperienced sex. He must be dreaming about a frigid wife since his first failure in bed, an inhibited girl that doesn't know what she likes (or do you practice anal sex to save your virginity? )...
you think that sex is for *hores and dirty girls, don't you?
would you like to marry the first guy that proposes you?
your honey likes peeing on his sexual partner e.g. his wife, will you stay together till the death you part?
he wants you to try on a strapon and f*ck him, will you be a good wife or a good girl?
etc.
seriuosly, go for it.it must be fun to experience some of the above.Stay a virgin.

Answer 2

I think the question being asked shows someone who is young with a view that is not practical.

Saving yourself for the right person would appear to be the right thing to do especially if you are a family person.

Yes girls that go out and have sex are having a lot of fun at a health risk, but having a balance of a limited number of relationships is a better way to go about it.

Do you really want to marry every guy you are attracted to and divorce everytime it doesnt work? Divorce is far worse than sexual experience from a fling. Getting into a relationship is the way to find out who you are and who the other person is and if there is anything there, long term relationships can lead to marriage. The more experience you have with relationships the better chance you have to develop the emotional level to the real world, and find that special person.

I am also of the belief that personal development and qualities are more important such as intelligence, career, dress scense etc.

I guy cant view lack of experience in relationships as a positive thing, when other factors are determined as to when to marry. Think about it, when marriage does finally happen, you are chosen as you are natuarally the best person, and commitment on your part is what demonstrates this to a man.

Answer 3

A lot of girls are saving themselves and then marry.... After being married for a few years are getting divorced because they've realized due to a lack of experience and knowledge they had made the wrong choices. They also realize they have missed out on a lot of things and will never be able to do them now that they are married and having kids. So they are divorcing at a very high rate. You don't need this issue on top of all the other issues that come with marriage. It's a formula for failure.

I would feel more comfortable marrying a girl who has loved and lived cause when she wants to marry me....I know she's not niave and she truly knows what she wants. And her bubble won't be bursted 5 yrs down the road.

Thats my thoughts anyways....

Answer 4

I am a female and I am agreeing with you one hundred and fifty percent! I am waiting until I get married to have sex and sometimes it is really hard. I am 20 years old and sometimes I am sooooooooooooooo ready to get married. So that I can see if I am really missing out on what others say or is it a bunch of hype.

Keep your head up and your legs closed until it's time you are doing the right thing.

Answer 5

You and me both girl! It's a hard fight, but I know it will be worth it. If your husband doesn't appreciate it, then there is something wrong! He better appreciate it, if girls like us are putting it aside until we finally marry them, then they had at least appreciate that we fought so hard. If my future husband doesn't appreciate it, then he just may never get any! We'll see how much he appreciates that! *wink*
But seriously, could you imagine how amazing and important our future spouses will feel, to know that we have saved our virginity just for them! For them to know that we are completely theirs, and they are the only ones to have even done those things to us! I can't wait to see the look on my husband's face on our wedding night when I tell him that he will be my first. It is a rarity anymore, which is a shame. But he will feel so loved , to know that before I even met him, I knew I was going to love him SO much, that I knew he would be worth the wait!
~God bless (Keep up the good work!)

Answer 6

don't do it. It is worth the wait. I didn't wait and I wish I had. When I met my man, it made everyone look weak in comparison because of the way we feel about eachother. some teenage boys do not know what they're doing. you're really not missing out on much at your age. half the time when teenagers are talking about their experiences, they are making it sound good, but in reality it isn't much. wait until you find someone willing to be there, and commit themselves to you.

Answer 7

definitely and absolutely save yourself! i did not...i made the mistake of losing my virginity at 15, thinking i would be with that guy for a long time, and marry him...but of course, that was not how it turned out. i really regret what i did and wish i had saved myself for my husband, because it would have meant more to me. however, at least i can say that i saved myself emotionally for him...he was/is/always will be the only man that means anything to me in that kind of way. good luck, and don't give in! :-)

Answer 8

Just a quick note to those answering this. Many men will say yes they want a woman who is saving herself for marriage. But realize when that woman comes to you and the no sex rule come up you dismiss her for the one who puts out. In order to marry the virgin you must first date the virgin.

Good luck sweety there are men out there who are saving themselves also and you will meet yours.
Thanks for the points
Kim

Answer 9

i wouldn't in any respect sell off a woman by way of fact she might go with to attend. Y ou ought to tell the boys up front the way you sense. in the event that they circulate away, you're greater effectual off. don't be in a hurry however. the superb guy will come alongside. once you least anticipate it.

Answer 10

Yes physically,
Yes, I respect women that hold on to their virginity.
The women who go out and have lots of fun also carry lots of STDs and these kinds of women I stay away from.

Don't let haste get in your line of thinking.
Eventually you will find a decent man to marry.
Good Luck