Is there such thing as being friends after a relationship??

Question

Ha? Is there?
He dumped me but he said that I was really important for him and he wanted to continue our relationship if it's ok with me. It wasn't for a couple of days but now I'm ok. And he really is my good friend. But did he really mean it or was he just trying to ease my pain? If he does mean it should I call him first or should I wait for his call, since he's the one who broke up?? I don't want to bother him if he really doesn't want to.

By the way we went out for 2.5 years

We've been sending messages to each other. Still no face to fce talking but I think it's going well.

Answer 1

of course its possible.. why do u need to call him? do u still love him? he may just want to ease ur pain.. but it depends if u guys r still friends after a while.. and for now just being friends is better than losing him forever. good luck

Answer 2

There are one of three things going on here. One could be that you had a relationship and the guy wasn't really in love. If a guy is in love - he never stops and if you get into that situation - he won't want to see your face again for the rest of your life after breaking up. The second could be that he doesn't really want to let you go. Perhaps there are some things that need to change in your relationship as friends before he's truly ready for something more serious. He may be feeling scared and insecure. The third thing is that he is just an unbelievably dense and egotistical guy like many of them are - thinking he can have his cake and eat it too. I you are really in love with him then he just doesn't get it that being friends would only create issues - for instance - there may be another girl already. Don't let this guy mess with you like this - when the right guy comes along he may pass you up seeing that you have this great guy friend and he won't want to interfere with whatever it is. Don't call him and don't talk to him other than the polite niceities you give your acquaintainces. You're really being taken for a ride girl. Have you heard that old time song, it goes, "I'm gonna wash that man right out of my hair, I'm gonna wash that man right outta my hair and send him on his way....get the picture?"

Answer 3

OK when I broke up with my boyfriend we didn't really talk for about a month but now were goofing off just like old times. He told me the same thing. There is friendship after relationships. sometimes it takes time to get over the uncomfortableness off being close to someone you once dated. Don't bug him about it but just call say hey and ask what he's doin don't leave a message or anything Just be patient and you two will be friends soon. If he doesn't call back within a week then don't push it he'll either call or he had decided that he doesn't want to be friends. Good Luck Chik!!!

~ibhottchik6~

Answer 4

I think it's definitely possible to be friends with an ex as long as everyone is alright with what will happen after the breakup... meaning you both will be seeing other people and that there is no serious jealousy involved. I would imagine that this would be much easier if you were friends before you dated... since there is already a foundation that is not romantically related. Either way, I have always figured that gaining a friend regardless of the circumstances is much superior to losing one for stupid reasons.

Answer 5

I think you should wait for him to call you. Don't seem over-anxious to stay in contact with him. If he meant what he said then he will call you. Over time, the wounds may heal and you two can just maintain a friendship. I dated a guy for awhile, and we ended up friends in the long run. We dated other people, and even shared our experiences. We were great friends for years! The problem was we always seemed to "end up" making out every once in awhile. I ended up getting married and having a baby with someone else. He was pretty heartbroken, and we are no longer friends. It will work so long as you aren't intimately involved with someone else.

Answer 6

Yes you can be friends after a relationship, it might take some time away from each other but time does ease the pain. I know I was married for 18 yrs. then he divorced me, and we are better friends now than when we were married, so its possible. Good luck

Answer 7

it's possible to keep tthe friendship still upon breaking up, for some people at least (applies to me) because i have or should i say we both have great values for our friendship and we didn't want to jeopardize the friendship even if he hurt and left me and for me, the best thing to keep was the friendship

we might not be together anymore but i least we have a friend with each other, if you feel no need to keep in touch as of this time, leave it alone for now, i guess it's you who knows him more than anything if you were good friends even before

Answer 8

I am friends with my ex-boyfriends! The one that I broke up with and the one that broke-up with me... we still talk to each other a lot, we even hang out together. It's ok, it just goes to show that we really did care about each other and that we didn't/don't see each other as a mistake and/or nuisance. Seeing as you don't know if he was serious about it or not, and because he broke up with you then I would say to wait until he is ready to call you.
~God bless

Answer 9

Great love relationships start from great friendships. In order to make any healthy relationship last, you must be best friends. Are you alright with keeping the relationship as just friends. If so, chances are he may be feeling that you will not accept it that way. Perhaps it may be wise to make the first move to ley him know you are o.k. with it.

Answer 10

I would let him call you me and my ex broke up ater a year of daing and he told me he wanted to be friends so i would call him and he thought i was stalking him per say. It's hard to be friends w/ your ex especially if any kind of feelings are still there because one ends up jealous. If it works out then good for you but dont get your hopes up too high.