Is It Cheating?

Question

Ok, in my break up with my ex I got REALLY hurt..well I still have feelings for him but when I say that I mean, it still hurts I dont wanna be with him anymore. Well anyway, I'm in a new relationship now and recently heard that my ex is engaged now..but when I heard that instead of not letting it bother me and realizing I'm happy with my current relationship, I cried as much when I found out as I did when I was hurt by my ex. So my question is, since I'm still this hurt over what he did to me..would you say I'm cheating on my current boyfriend? Serious answers only please. And Thanks in advance.

And should I let my current boyfriend know how I'm feeling? And to the guys, if your gf told you this..would you break up with her or be patient and understanding about her feelings

Answer 1

You aren't cheating, unless you are cheating yourself. Are you in this new relationship because you don't want to deal with the pain of having to heal from the last one? Don't bury your hurt in someone new. You were hurt, you have a right to feel badly, you have a right to heal. You will pick yourself back up once you have mended the hurt. This ex missed out, too bad for him. Right now, you have to get yourself back to being the goddess you are - and that means healing. I would suggest you cut off all communication with him for a while, that means don't talk to him, about him, or even listen to people talking about him. It might seem really hard for a while, since you seem to still be invested in him, but really after a while the pain will go down and you will realize that you are just as wonderful, if not more so, as before.

Answer 2

I don't think your cheating. I think what is going on is you still have feelings for him and you didn't realize how strong they were until you found out he was engaged. The question is that you need to answer yourself is are you able to let these feelings go to be able to focus on your own relationship without constantly thinking of your ex boyfriend. If you can't then I would advise you to get out of your relationship cause that's not fair to your bf. And not get into another relationship until these feelings subside. But if your happy with your relationship focus on what your bf does to make you happy and except that your ex has moved on and he's happy now also.It's called moving on and it happens. You say that you were hurt by your ex why dwell on him when he hurt you. Just try to be happy and enjoy your relationship you have now. I wish you the best of luck with all this!

Answer 3

no, its only natural to have feeling for him, after all you dated him for a reason. From my experience there is no such thing as a soul mate, just a best friend. Sure, relationships are wonderful when they start, but they've got to end sometime. People get tired of people! So, what i mean is your ex is over you, he is the one that probably got bored in the relationship and ended it. This is why it hurt you so much, you were still in the part of the love relationship and not the one of friendship with love. So yes it is ok for you to cry over it, and no i don't believe its cheating, it is after all a part of your past, a painful past. What you have to do is to move on want it or not. Life does go on. Hope you found my answer helpful

Answer 4

I dont think so. Even if you are very happy with your current relationship, being upset over someone else wouldnt count as cheating. There are just sometimes those few people that you loved and cherished dearly, but didnt work out. It happens to all of us. You might just be really realizing that its over and that he is really moving on. It always hits you at the most unusual times. It probably will be hard for awhile, but like always, just takes time.

Answer 5

I really do understand how you feel, but just because you may still have feelings for him doesn't mean you're cheating on him. If telling your current bf how you feel about your ex means him leaving you and not really understanding where you're coming from means he wasn't for you in the first place. If you tell him how you feel he should be more for trying to help you get over him. Having feelings for someone else isn't necessarily cheating..

Answer 6

You are not cheating, but i will say that you are not being fair to this new guy. If it is that big a deal, maybe you were not ready to start another relationship. If you think i am wrong, then you need to forget about the Ex and focus on the New. He deserves you to be fair and give him the chance to a real heartfelt relationship. Focus on what you have, not what was lost.

Answer 7

The rebound thing isn't going to last. He's only there to make you feel better.

You really need to spend some time alone and single and get over your ex for real before you start another relationship. Spend some time being good to you for a while.

Answer 8

Once you truly love someone, you will always love them whether you have moved on and married someone else or not.You may not want this cheater, but my guess is you don't want anyone else to have him either. This is completely normal behavior. Anyone who has ever had a broken heart knows, you can move on and years can go by, but you will always have a spot for that loser in your heart.He is in fact the loser, because you have found a new love...Cry, feel better and then go forward with that new Mr. Right! A woman doesn't have to share all her feelings with her man. What he doesn't know won't hurt him.A woman's heart is full of little secrets and past loves.

Answer 9

Well if you still have fellings for this guy you shouldn't be in a relationship anways and if you like the person your with as of now youll just have to (GET OVER IT)besides why would you wanna waist good energy on the guy that hert you in the first place?REDICULOUSE

Answer 10

Nope. Cheating would be a conscious effort on your part. You're not choosing to feel this way and you're not acting on these feelings in a way that would harm the relationship you now have. You cant help the way you feel about your x.