I've been through countless numbers of guys. Yet I still dream of the one who got away. I know, you'll say "let it go". It's been going on for roughly 1/3 of my life. He doesn't feel a damn thing in return. I've even asked. I can't ever be happy without him. Advice?
2006-08-18 18:04:37 · 19 answers · asked by Me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I had your same issue for 15 years of my life and it robbed me of many many people that really wanted to be with me thus I robbed myself of thier companionship and any good times and benefits they may have wanted to share with me.
You cannot force anyone to love you and if you could force them would that be the kind of love you wanted from them ? Of course not. You know what ? There is someone out there that will be more wonderful to you than the person you knew before . You must believe me because it is the total truth and your wasting your life and many wonderful memories , and experiences that can occur in your life . I have proof you know that's why I am answering your question because I care about you and I don't want you to do the same thing I did because that is not good for you and it wasn't for me either. Who knows maybe you'll like me you don't know do you ? Write me anytime and lets talk more about it .
2006-08-18 18:19:14 · answer #1 · answered by Chris O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be happy without him if you will let your ego go and accept the fact that someone wasn't happy with you. Just because he didn't want you doesn't mean no one else coud ever love you as you! You can't let go cause you don't want to let go of someone who couldn't accept you as you. You are denying yourself "happiness" just like he is, cause he knows he has the power to do that! You stated that "he doesn't feel a damn thing in return", well that should tell you something!!!! He doesn't care but at the same time, he doesn't want you to be happy!!!!
2006-08-19 01:20:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be happy without him...you just don't want to. What do you want from us??? Just go on and be stupid and give your precious life away. There is no need to love yourself with pride and dignity. There is no need to have a real life of true love and happiness with any of the many men who can return your love. There is no need to drop this irrational behavior and get a life.
You can start a new wave and style. A colony of the useless and dumb. Your new group can have daily meetings and wallow around in each others arms and tell each other how miserable you are. You can collectively save all your tears and bathe in it after you wallow and grovel.
Again I ask...what do you want from us?
2006-08-19 01:20:30 · answer #3 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get over him, you can move on...You have to want to...Grief is apart of any break up and it seems from what you have said you're stuck in this cycle. He is obviously not the one for you, and you may have missed out on a lot of experiences with other guys because you've held onto this guy.
I hate to say it but you do need to let him go and find peace within yourself so that you are open to new realtionships and true happiness
2006-08-19 01:15:48 · answer #4 · answered by vinyl_mad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do u really think with a world of 4 billion people on it there is only one that u can love?? (the answer is hell no, by the way)there is always a pattern to every thing. so try to find a pattern to the guys u been with and go the opposite way (for example if there all gangsters or thugs look for some one that is an up right citizen(^_^)...) if all else fails go for the nerdy type, i guarantee they will treat any lady that pays attention to them like a queen.
2006-08-19 01:15:52 · answer #5 · answered by theobious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You most certainly can be happy without him. I think the old saying "there's plent more fish in the sea" is appropriate here. There is no way to make anyone love you, and if there was, you wouldn't the guy after you did that 'cause he wouldn't be happy. If you truly do love the guy you'll give up. Don't try to force yourself on him, it's very unbecoming.
2006-08-19 01:12:29 · answer #6 · answered by absolute genious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way to get over a love is to get under another one. I know is going to be hard and no other guy will seem good enough when compared to him but at the end your gonna feel better because you're goin to be with someone who shows the same love you show them
2006-08-19 01:18:56 · answer #7 · answered by Marylight 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read some tips and articles on this site on how to ask someone out
2006-08-19 01:08:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you won't or can't let go seek some professional help. I need to say your wasting precious time mourning him though.
2006-08-19 01:12:14 · answer #9 · answered by Linda R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want him because deep down you know you can never possess him. Run back to him between relationships but for Gods sake, dont marry him!!
2006-08-19 01:09:26 · answer #10 · answered by Ashley 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋