How do I give a 100% to being a mother,wife and be in the Miltary without draining myself. I want to be the best in all that I do. I know I can not be perfect, but I wan to give everything that I do my all.
2006-08-18 17:54:20 · 18 answers · asked by missjay3778 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Dear missjay
I have only my work ( not married, which means no kids) and i cant give 100% to my work, OK please understand me , its great that you have this feelings that you want to devote all your time and your self to SPECIFIC arias in your life, but being a mom is a pressure enough with out mentioning the man and the work ... So what am i saying is that you need 1st to change your mentality, coz if u keep thinking this way and for any reason you couldn't then you will have a depression and we both know you don't need that, is not good for the family. then you start to give each part of your life its right, motherhood, wife, work and do ur best in each one BUT with no ideas of giving 100% and you know your kids and husband will all the time appreciate you and you will be promoted coz you know how to manage each part of your life
God bless you and your family
♥
2006-08-18 18:09:45 · answer #1 · answered by Clark794 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-29 10:37:45 · answer #2 · answered by schugmann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that the first thing that you need to remember is that you signed up for the military not your children. What I mean by this is that they did not have a say in this so you have to make it worth it for them. Go ahead and give your best to the military but always keep your family the #1 priority. They are the ones that will be there after your time in the military is over. You are providing the best thing that you can for your children by making sure that they have a future in whatever they do and teaching them about committment regardless of how hard it is so right now in your lives make sure that they know that you love and care about them and that they are the number one thing in your life and that you are doing this for them. I know that balancing a family and carreer is hard enough but especially hard when you are in the military but like I said make them know that you are there for them and their happiness that way when you have to go to word they know that you do it for them. Good luck and thank you for your dedication to this country.
2006-08-18 18:31:33 · answer #3 · answered by lvb524 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've done it, right there. The desire to excel. I applaud you for your strength and tenacity. I thank you for protecting my country. I admire you for being a wife and mom. You are truly Superwoman, just by virtue of the choices you've made that have brought you to where you are.
My only advice is to accept yourself for who you are, including your limitations. 100% may mean 33.333% all around or 40/30/30 or even 60/20/10. It depends on who you are each day and what God has given you to give.
May His grace be sufficient always.
2006-08-18 18:04:12 · answer #4 · answered by mom2babycolin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, No one can give 100% to everything.. You just do your very best and you'll be just fine..Your already giveing your 100% to me and all of us out here just being in the military.. Thank You..Your friend from Tennessee.. ROB. US Navy LtCdr Retired..
2006-08-18 18:04:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you're with your family, just be with them, 100%. When you're on duty, give your best. Giving is not a finite entity. Giving is infinite, just as love is. Could you put a limit on love? Could you say 33% of my love is for my husband, 33% of my love is for my children and the rest is for me? Of course not. You are in a difficult but not impossible situation, thousands of other military people are in the same boat. Be happy with who you are, be happy with your family and be happy with your service.
Thank you for the sacrifices you are making.
2006-08-18 18:40:42 · answer #6 · answered by sparkletina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are no standards to measure our actions in these areas. Doing the best possible is the only answer. A thought of this kind is great boon for your family and nation. But it shouldn't lead you to obsession. YOU NEED TO BE REALISTIC.
God Bless!!
Jayanandan
2006-08-18 18:20:02 · answer #7 · answered by Compassionate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to your routine , after giving a thought , plan your daily program , write down and put on the wall as reminder , where you can access every time you cross that place . Good luck .
2006-08-18 18:01:49 · answer #8 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll burn yourself out if you are a perfectionist. Just do your best as a mother and wife first. You don't always have to be in the military but you'll need your family for life.
2006-08-18 18:00:41 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you go girl
alot of people moms and dads do military thing i know in military it must be harder but you are a mother first and poo on them if they dont care ask them if they had a mom good luck do what is best for you call your mom if you can
2006-08-18 18:01:44 · answer #10 · answered by rradboys 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋