My boyfriend and I have been dating for about four months. When we started going out, at college, he only wanted to hang out with me at night because he didn't want anyone to know we were dating. He had just broken up with his girlfriend and thought it was too soon to tell anyone. Then over the summer, he didn't want his family to know that we were dating. Even when they found out I was over there pretty often. Now, school is starting again and we live in the same apartment building, he's a floor above me. When he has unexpected company is introduces me as a girl who lives down stairs, and won't let me come over if there's other people there. I've brought it up to him before and nothing ad changed. Only one of his friends knows that we're dating and that's because they live together. He says his friends know about us, but how am i to know if he's being honest? He also leaves his relationship status empty instead of having it say that we're in a relationship. What to do?
2006-08-18 17:38:41 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sounds like he is leaving his options open to meet other women, You might want to leave your options open also just in case
2006-08-18 17:43:40 · answer #1 · answered by Iron Rider 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Immediately dump him. If he isn't proud of telling people that you are his girlfriend.. than something is terribly wrong with him. Like you said, he's leaving his relationship status empty, meaning he doesn't really consider you as his "girlfriend" at all. He's letting people know that he's single still. I really don't like guys that act like this. It's like, they're hiding something you know? If he had just broken up with his girlfriend and doesn't want people to know about you, he shouldn't even have made you his girlfriend in the first place. Call off the relationship. You'll be much happier since you wouldn't feel ashamed because of him. Find a guy that loves and cares for you. A guy that will show you off to his friends even after he just ended a relationship. He isn't worth your time and love. In my opinion, you have done nothing wrong. Only he messed everything up, especially your happiness. So, dump him and find another sweet, loving, and caring guy.
2006-08-19 00:50:46 · answer #2 · answered by *a∙e∙r∙i∙t∙h* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hygay pasrtners dasvey and stevie here we are trying too figure out this mess here sounds like you are writing a godam soa p opera here, etc. okay does he want too hang out with night with you only because you look like lillian monster here orwhat? okay i can se why if thats the reason there, okay so he dumps you lilliam monster for this other brosd okay, so why dident he just rush out and anunce to the whole world he just . this other broad for you who he only drags around at night is this guy a vampure here?? we can see why he dident tel his family you were dating if you look like lillian monster and tyou only date at night etc. okay you live in a bats cave and hes one floor above you okaty why arent you shacking up with himm there?? well the reason he dosent invite you over when his friends are over is because your lilliam monster anndshes a, vampiress, etc, and ugly. so what do you do sit at home and knit while he has hi s friends over arent you feeling kind of lonely here there lilliann?? are you sure this guy isent sort of gasy he living with another mann here?? strange you havent left the bat cave yett/ what should you do, dump the guy this mess is so godam screweed up, and ful of holes. hes using you for what ever reasons here, beyond us as too why you wouls sit take this nonense. then of course if you look like lillianmonsterr i wondder why he dosent want you around- hmm?
2006-08-19 00:54:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's obvious that he's not ready to make his relationship status known. I would not take it personally (that he's ashamed of you)...just that he is not ready to commit. You have a choice...wait it out and see what happens...or move on with your life and find someone who appreciates you and treats you well in private as well as socially
2006-08-19 00:46:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like he never really broke up with his other girlfriend, either that or he has another girl on the side or just wants to be in a single status.. but hes not ashamed of you
2006-08-19 00:45:07 · answer #5 · answered by ~Kim~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think hes ashamed of you, maybe just really shy? does he have a shy side? Does he take you out in public? If he takes you out to places and will hold your hand and kiss you in public I wouldn't worry to much but if he doesn't maybe consider breaking up with him. I'm sure there is someone out there that would love to take you out and show you around.
2006-08-19 00:44:46 · answer #6 · answered by tabatha1333 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me he doesn want your relationship with him known since he doesn even introduces to any ofhis friends. I believes he still have feelings for his ex and doesn want her to know he has some1 else so he might have a second chance with her again. Have u ever spoken to him about the situation.
2006-08-19 00:45:48 · answer #7 · answered by jen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sounds like, you are not his girlfriend afterall. Its over, and you need to move on. That is not what a boyfriend does if he really cares for you. Run as fast as you can, he's not worth it.
2006-08-19 00:45:08 · answer #8 · answered by boxergirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like an asshole. you should be with somebody that is proud to love you and doesnt want to keep your relationship on the downlow. dump him and find somebody that will love you for you and is proud to have you around
2006-08-19 00:45:18 · answer #9 · answered by adam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow you must really be ugly.if a guy was proud to be seeing a girl he would want people to see him,actually dating someone.
2006-08-19 00:45:25 · answer #10 · answered by curtismarsch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋