Have you ever had anal sex? Does it hurt really bad. My fiance wants to do it but im nervous
2006-08-18 17:13:37 · 25 answers · asked by STEPHANIE A 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well the first only and last time I did it it hurt like f u c k. Then when I went home it kept feeling like my *** had gotten split open and maybe I was going to need stitches. One day when I was bout to take a s h i t it kept splitting it back open so I couldn't take a **** for like a week and sometimes to this day it still dint feel right and that was 2004. But I think you should tell him that I will try it but if I dint like it I dint want to do it but I think you should try first I compare it to child birth that's what it felt like that's what I sounded like I was doing. Maybe he had a big dick. But try it at least once It might be different for you and then you can say like I try it didn't like it dint want to do it again then they cant say well how do you know if you didn't try it : )
2006-08-18 17:40:51 · answer #1 · answered by beauty30058 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would do a LOT of research first. It isn't true that anal sex is entirely safe like some othe people have said on here. Do not do it if you aren't totally comfortable with the idea. If you dont want to do it and he doesnt respect that ask him if he'd let you stick something in his butt (hopefully the answer is no). Some fantasies should just stay fantasies. I don't really understand why guys think this is hot...did they all forget whats in there or something?
If you are interested do the research and make an informed descision.
Also it hurts some people and not others just like the first time you have sex hurts some girls and not others.
2006-08-19 00:25:18 · answer #2 · answered by Dez 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF maybe the guy knows what he's doing, otherwise it hurts worse than you can imagine. If the guy makes a mistake,
it will take your breath away and the pain is unbearable.
I'll never let anyone do that to me again as long as I'm conscious.
I'm plenty old enough and have been with enough men to tell you that very, very, VERY few men are as good at sex as they think they are.
I told my hubby after we had tried once that the only way he would ever do that again was if he'd let me stick a broom handle up his butt.
2006-08-19 00:23:55 · answer #3 · answered by Cookie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never had it but I have heard about it.
It is better the second and third time you do it.
I've read many questions of this nature, I was surprised how many girls liked it.
You really need a lot of warm up. It's one finger, 2 fingers, then three fingers, and use lots of lube. Make sure to spend some time in the warm ups. Then hopefully you will be ready. Make sure to take it very slow.
2006-08-19 00:21:52 · answer #4 · answered by JoeIQ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have and if he goes slow and uses lots of lube-like KY- its not gonna hurt. I had a couple of bad experiences and said I would never do that again but when my hubby asked and 10 years of being with him we tried it and it was awesome. He uses a vibrator and the same time. Had some of the best orgasms that way. But if your not ready then tell him may someday It's a trust issue for me.
2006-08-19 00:20:55 · answer #5 · answered by jagbeeton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Twice for me, the first time was actually great, my partner used a lot of lubricant, and I was on my back on the edge of a low bed and he knelt on the floor. He went very slowly and it ended up a positive experience for me. The second time, (I thought I was "experienced" by that time...haha) I was in the doggy position and he kind of forced it and it hurt and I bled. NOT a positive experience.
2006-08-19 00:25:28 · answer #6 · answered by b_friskey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to be relaxed and use a lot of lubricant. It will hurt the first time and a few times after that, but then it's feels really good.
2006-08-19 00:40:51 · answer #7 · answered by venus11224 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol im a gay guy and from a mans point of view it HURTS! but its bearable for the first time. I would imagine its about as bad as when women first have sex. Good Luck hun! =P
2006-08-19 00:18:59 · answer #8 · answered by Lindzy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would have to say not to do it out of pressure from your fiance. If you are uncomfortable with the idea, he sould be understanding of YOU, not the other way around.
It can cause permanent damage to your rectum and anus, because it was not designed for sexual intercourse.
2006-08-19 00:23:34 · answer #9 · answered by fightintxaggie98 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at first it doesnt feel any worse than taking a really painful sh!t for ten minutes. after a few times, it loosens up.
im gay, so ive had plenty of practice. just dont do it too much or you'll have problems holding no-so-solid stool.
2006-08-19 00:20:59 · answer #10 · answered by crazypo_po 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋