people 18-21 that have been or are going to college I need your opinion!?

Question

I am almost done with high school & am headed to a university, most of the people I know party & drink, am not into that stuff, & I feel that am looked down at because of that & more focused in school. I like to go to party's too but feel that am left out because I just don't drink & smoke, Do you think that I should party after high school or just ignore it and keep doing my thing in school & not be in the party scene. Why or why not do you party? please! I want real answers. If you have nothing of importance to suggest, don't.

Answer 1

Very few of those party freaks will amount to anything in life. And the ones that do are extremely lucky or have rich parents to fall back on, so they don't have to worry about getting real jobs.

Trust me, I've seen the actual results.

You will find that once you get out of high school, all of the people you used to associate will scatter and your relationships with them will fade. I've been out of high school for 10 years and I sometimes have trouble remembering some of my best friends' (in high school) last names.

Once you get to college, just do your own thing and concentrate on your classes. Surround yourself with like-minded people who are goal oriented like yourself. You can still go out and play or relax on the weekends, but remember that it isn't high school anymore. College is not a game and it's not supposed to be fun 24x7. You are building the foundation of your future. Besides, at an average of $5,000 per semester, who can afford to play around?

Answer 2

first of all let me say congrats on making it to this point in your life. You should party a little to celebrate graduating from high school and have a little fun. Its ok to party some times just make sure there is a balance. I learned that the hard way. As a freshman in college it was my first time living on my own and there was no parents to tell me what to do and when to do it. I partied but never smoked and drink. I would party all the time and at the end of my freshmen year I only passed 2 classes. With that said i regret it because i had to work extra hard so i would not get kicked out of school and i graduated with honors. College is the way to go because with out an education you won't get anywhere in life.

Answer 3

I party every week, but only Friday and Saturday nights and I didn't party until I had my mid-term grades in my hand. My dad (a dean of students) says that people do better if they don't party the first 6 weeks because that is when it is the wildest and when upperclassmen are most likely to prey on the freshmen who get wasted out of their mind because they finally leave home. You have no idea how many girls get pregnant in those first few weeks.

I say I would work your butt off in school, spend at least 40 hours a week in class or studying. Then you need to have fun. If having fun is partying, then party. You can party without drinking. If you have fun playing video games, do it. Just make sure you reward yourself. You can have a great GPA and party, or you can find friends who don't like that scene.

Have a great year!

Answer 4

I am not "18-21" but when I was in Uni one of my best friends never drank or smoke but he still had a great time. He just liked hanging out and being social which we all thought was great. If people really want to leave you out because you don't drink or smoke find new friends. You should easily be able to focus on school but still party in a "healthy" manner. Eventually even the hardest partiers slow down and start to care more about school, their partner etc., things that matter. Keep doing your own thing. You will be happy you did.

Answer 5

I'm not that huge into parties either. I think you'll find that a lot of those party-goers get weeded out in college because only the people who are serious about their studies continue on. You just need to find yourself some friends who don't have to drink and smoke to have a good time, although I don't think there's anything wrong with just one drink to lighten the mood. Really, you're not the only one who doesn't smoke and drink all the time.

Answer 6

I had that problem in college. I think the best thing to do in college is get involved in on-campus activities-- there's a lot to do that doesn't involve drinking. Join a volunteer club or hook up with the campus group practicing the religion of your choice. Join academic clubs. Go to school sponsored events. Start study groups with classmates.

While a lot of people in college drink, a WHOLE lot of people don't and once you meet them, you'll be fine.

While I've got no problem drinking, I think alcohol + no parents + new environment + date rapists = disaster.

Have fun. Good job staying sober so far!

Answer 7

just do your thing...not as many people party in college as you think. I partied a lot my second year of college and all it got me was bad grades and wishing I had just studied more instead of geting drunk on the weekends. It is much better if you stay out of the pary scene..or if you really want to party and experince underaged drinking and all that stuff, I suggest you get it out of your system eary on, and fast..because it is really painful to have to cram every semester for classes you know you will probably have to repeat anyway..

Answer 8

You should stick to school. My by once in a wile go out to a party but focus on school. Why change who you are. And why pay so much to not focus on school. Don't feel like people will look down on you for not partying, I know plenty of people who go to college and don't party. So good luck in college.

Answer 9

I am 18 and I don't drink or smoke either. I totally understand what you're saying, a lot of the time it feels like EVERYONE drinks and parties and that I'm weird for not being able to 'have fun'. But I've made my decision and I'm going to stick with it. It's a part of who I am and I can't imagine surrendering myself to a chemical...it's worth it for me.

Answer 10

when i started college i didnt drink. i tried going to a party but i didnt fit in, too much drunk people. my younger brother on the other hand doesnt drink but really enjoys going to parties. so i guess it just depends. no one has ever made fun of us for not drinking or tried to pressure us to drink. it just depends on who you make friends with i suppouse. congrats on graduating and good luck with college! its an awesome time no matter what you decide. :)