if i really have no one to give me one can i give myself one? I didnt get one my first marriage or a bachelor party and was wondering if i can do it myself this time around......thoughts, ideas, opinions?
2006-08-18 16:49:36 · 9 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I do not have a bridesmaid we have money for a JP wedding. It will just be mostly immediate family there and having ppl meet us downtown for drinks afterwards. I feel cheated I didnt get one the first time around but I guess if I dont get one this time I just dont get one.
2006-08-18 17:03:16 · update #1
Wow Mel, I was feeling upset about my wedding situation. Now I feel like I'm just whining. Maybe I could lend you a few of my sisters. If we can plan our events, all of them on the same dates, I won't have to have them here with me. Just kidding.
Is there no one, co-worker, cousin, neighbor you hang out with, anyone you know who might love to have the honor of taking care of the pre-nuptial celebrations? I understand you don't want to just grab a stranger. I wish I could fly where you are just to make sure you have your shower and bachelorette party. Maybe someone is planning one and wants it to be a total surprise.
Here's something I thought was cool. I worked with a woman in another state who got a bunch of her friends and co-workers together, we went to a bar, stapled suckers all over her. Guys paid money to have a lick (off course this earned them the sucker and a dance). That was her version of a bachelorette party. I suppose her close family members did the bridal shower, in a more cozier setting.
I have gotten lots of planning ideas from www.theknot.com. You should check out the website. It's one of those you sign up for, it's free.
2006-08-18 19:41:36 · answer #1 · answered by *~*~*~~~His Angel~~~*~*~* 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am going to give you my opinion since you posted the question. Please do not think I am being rude.
I think it would be very tacky if you threw your own shower. A shower is given by someone in the wedding party or a relative to assist the bride-to-be in accumulating the items she will need to start her home. If you threw your own shower it would send the message that all you want is gifts.
I usually do not agree with the bride-to-be that is getting married for second time should have a shower since she more than likely already has an established home with the items that are typically given at a bridal shower. However, since you didn't get one in your first marriage it sounds like something you would really like to experience. Since you are not having a wedding party do you have a close friend or relative that could throw you a shower? I know in my state even if you get married by the JP you still have to have someone stand up for you. Could you have that person give you a shower?
Best of luck in your marriage!
2006-08-19 00:32:01 · answer #2 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but it looks really bad if you through a bridal shower for yourself. However, since you indicated no bridesmaid, do you have a sister, a cousin or some other female relative who would consider the job? Alternatively, the mother of the groom sometimes throws a shower or if your fiance has an aunt, she could throw one for you. My mom did that for her nephew's fiance back a few years ago and it was kind of the family's wedding shower.
2006-08-19 07:57:14 · answer #3 · answered by Patricia D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ettiquette wise you and none of your close family(mother or sister) can throw you a shower.By most people this is still seen in bad taste and looks like it is a plea for gifts.Also usually with a second wedding you don't get this big wedding bachelorette party/bridal shower.
2006-08-19 00:00:51 · answer #4 · answered by movin12006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it's a bad idea. Aside from the fact that you can't invite people to a wedding shower that you aren't inviting to the wedding or reception. Sorry! But I wish you nothing but success in your wedding and your marriage! : )
2006-08-19 11:30:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, Congrats on your wedding. Secondly, I'm sorry but it would be tacky to throw one for yourself. Do you have a bridesmaid? If so it is her responsibility. Otherwise your mom or future mother in law or co-workers could. Otherwise, I am sorry, but it isn't polite to hold it for yourself.
2006-08-19 00:00:35 · answer #6 · answered by emp04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you just don't get one - why would you want a shower if you are a guy? (you said bachelor party?) Second time around sucks, eh?
2006-08-19 09:32:17 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you couldn't throw one for yourself it just to tacky. If you don't have a bridesmaid your mother or future mother-in-law should. Also, if you don't have either of those maybe a grandmother or aunt.
2006-08-19 00:17:38 · answer #8 · answered by brezzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you can throw your own bridal shower....you have to have a friend or a relative out there that will help a little....even have your man help plan it
2006-08-19 00:01:12 · answer #9 · answered by STEPHANIE A 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋